Need advice from trans or cds

[mlp91]

Hey everyone, this is my first time on here so please go easy.

I'm in need of some advice.

I'm from Hampshire, UK and have recently found that I enjoy wearing women's clothes. I have managed to buy some stuff pretending it isn't for me etc and it feels great to wear, I feel amazing. But when I take it off I feel dirty and horrible like I have just committed a crime.

I'm confused about my sexuality as well, When dressed I want to be the woman but when not I'm straight.

Hope you can help me work this out. Replies either on this thread or PM please

 

[stickygirl]

You've been heard! I'll post you some links and suggestions later.

... and welcome to Lit

Ok

Trying to unravel your own feelings is going to take time, but there are plenty of resources online - I'll try and dig out some links for you. First off, don't feel ashamed: shame is something other people heap on you and I'm presuming you are the only witness to your dressing. You are not alone in trying to shake off morals imposed by society of what is considered 'correct'. I'm not suggesting your throw out all morals, but that your particular situation doesn't fit with what is generally proscribed.

Plenty of people confuse sexual feelings with their sense of gender and that is one of the issues you need to focus on. Sometimes CDs find that dressing alone can initially hit the spot, but over time they realise the clothes are not important and recognise there is something more profound going on. Even trans women do not necessarily 'know' their true gender from a young age, because they may have been forced to repress their suspicions under layers of hetero-correctness in trying to match other people's expectations by acting male.

Expect to do lots of research to help you better understand your feelings. You may not yet feel the need to seek counselling, but if you feel you are not making progress then counselling may help you bring a fresh perspective.

http://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/gdntc/am_i_trans/c1mt10r
http://tgchatroom.com/wiki/index.php/So_You_Want_To_Be_a_T-Girl_%28Chapter_1%29
http://www.equalitysouthwest.org.uk/transgender/regional-transgender-projects

^^ there's some reading matter

Also have a look at my thread, where's there's some good questions discussed
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=960170

Feel free to PM in the next couple of days, after which I'll be away for a while.

 

[bluesky496]

Hey everyone, this is my first time on here so please go easy.

I'm in need of some advice.

I'm from Hampshire, UK and have recently found that I enjoy wearing women's clothes. I have managed to buy some stuff pretending it isn't for me etc and it feels great to wear, I feel amazing. But when I take it off I feel dirty and horrible like I have just committed a crime.

I'm confused about my sexuality as well, When dressed I want to be the woman but when not I'm straight.

Hope you can help me work this out. Replies either on this thread or PM please

well we live in the same county at least so perhaps we could chat , i know what you are going through and it is perfectly normal to feel that way ,you feel like two different people ,contact me if you would like to chat and if you live close enough perhaps we could meet ,talking to someone often helps .x

 

[stickygirl]

I knew there was another Hampshire here
Sometimes folks will make one post and never come back Hope that's not the case here

 

[mlp91]

Thank you I will take a read

 

[bluesky496]

I knew there was another Hampshire here
Sometimes folks will make one post and never come back Hope that's not the case here

thank you for the kind thought .x

 

[StacyTG]

Hey everyone, this is my first time on here so please go easy.

I'm in need of some advice.

I'm from Hampshire, UK and have recently found that I enjoy wearing women's clothes. I have managed to buy some stuff pretending it isn't for me etc and it feels great to wear, I feel amazing. But when I take it off I feel dirty and horrible like I have just committed a crime.

I'm confused about my sexuality as well, When dressed I want to be the woman but when not I'm straight.

Hope you can help me work this out. Replies either on this thread or PM please

*hugs*

Once again, sticky puts it into words beautifully and eloquently!

You have NOTHING at all to be ashamed of. It's confusing as hell. Trust me, I'm going through it myself, and I have my good and bad days (mostly bad lately, but hope springs eternal!)

Rather than feeling "dirty and ashamed" as you say, try to realize that it's perfectly NORMAL for men to try and get in touch with their inner femininity. Some like to take a bit more time with personal grooming (hair, etc.), some like to dress in womens' clothing to feel sensitive and feminine. Some like to even go so far as to shave some or all of their body hair. Whichever you choose, please, please PLEASE remember, there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! That's society's bullshit construct of what gender performance/roles are, and they are completely arbitrary. You make the rules for what makes you happy, first and foremost.

As far as your sexuality...as sticky said, that's something that's just going to take a whole lot of time and soul-searching. There is no rush, and there certainly is no need whatsoever to label yourself. Be true to yourself.

Let me stress again. You are not sick. You are not disgusting. You should absolutely not feel dirty or ashamed. You are a beautiful, luminous human being who is on a journey of discovering who you are. We are all on this journey, and please know that you are not alone.

*hugs*

 

[bluesky496]

*hugs*

Once again, sticky puts it into words beautifully and eloquently!

You have NOTHING at all to be ashamed of. It's confusing as hell. Trust me, I'm going through it myself, and I have my good and bad days (mostly bad lately, but hope springs eternal!)

Rather than feeling "dirty and ashamed" as you say, try to realize that it's perfectly NORMAL for men to try and get in touch with their inner femininity. Some like to take a bit more time with personal grooming (hair, etc.), some like to dress in womens' clothing to feel sensitive and feminine. Some like to even go so far as to shave some or all of their body hair. Whichever you choose, please, please PLEASE remember, there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! That's society's bullshit construct of what gender performance/roles are, and they are completely arbitrary. You make the rules for what makes you happy, first and foremost.

As far as your sexuality...as sticky said, that's something that's just going to take a whole lot of time and soul-searching. There is no rush, and there certainly is no need whatsoever to label yourself. Be true to yourself.

Let me stress again. You are not sick. You are not disgusting. You should absolutely not feel dirty or ashamed. You are a beautiful, luminous human being who is on a journey of discovering who you are. We are all on this journey, and please know that you are not alone.

*hugs*

what a beautiful sentiment and so well stated ,x

 

[Sasha69]

Welcome to Lit.

Your not sick. Your not "bad". Your not as "different" as you think. Listen to the Lit mavens that posted before me. Take they're advice! You might be Bi. Just Kidding. You DON'T have to be! I'm dressed right now. Crop Top, Nylon Snakeskin Print "Kilt", nail polish, bling. It's 1:14 in the morning. I'm feeling cool and relaxed. This is normal for me, except tonite, my wife did my nails for a change

If you just enjoy the feel of womens clothes. Rock On! They feel fab.

When you've dressed, and it's time to take your girly clothes off? SURPRISE. Your still you! Why feel bad? YOU are still YOU!

Don't be afraid to use the interweb and research it. There are also some STELLAR advice givers here.

If it's just crossdressing and that's floating your boat? Have fun. There really are a LOT OF US out here! But we're always looking for new buds.

See ya round the site. Enjoy what makes you happy when you can. Don't judge yourself, there's plenty of organ warmers out there that will do that for you, after a while? It will just sound like static. Wishing you all the best ! Sasha