an open letter to those on the forum with no respect and fast fingers.

[inumoonu]

there are those in posting in the personals who it seems sole purpose is to put down either new members or to discourage people from talking to new members. what gives you the right to post in someone's personal thread about how hilarious and desperate you think they are being?

there are posts here both blunt and articulate by both men and women, and here we have people with high post counts, and it certainly seems to only be those with high post counts to do this, who leave hateful and hurtful remarks on peoples posts . this discourages people from contacting that person with the added bonus of making that poster feel completely unwanted.

does it effect you if a post is blunt? of course not if you didn't enjoy a personal move on don't try and discourage others from diving into each others arms and pants.

grow up and be civil.

there's no reason to mock and you should be ashamed of yourselves. some people may find what you're doing funny and I'm sure you find it hilarious but frankly you're doing it at someone else's expense. get over yourselves. if you're really that insecure that a new member is going to attract one of the people you play with then perhaps this isn't the place for you.

don't be mocking, some people like the blunt approach, others like to be charmed. you shouldn't be influencing the forum with your hateful remarks. learn some self control.

if you feel you could offer some constructive criticism there's better ways to do it that how you currently are.

the reasoning for this letter? I can find 5 instances of it on the first page of these personals right now. for shame.

 

[lighterman75]

I quite agree. As my mum once said to me, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

 

[SwtSassyNrse26]

No reason not to be polite and civil. I agree that if you do not care for any given post or thread then just move on. Something not as blatant is the "avoidance". When a newer poster tries to offer input and get to know fellow litsters and are avoided and ignored. I feel its just insecurity. Or poor manners. In any case I prefer to treat others as I would wish to be treated.

 

[NaughtyRedSiren]

Wish this had a 'like' button attached to it! Well said!

 

[keatonb]

Well said !

 

[Techchickuk]

Good for you

About time someone said something. It can be hard enough plucking up courage to post a personal ad without the same old user id's jumping on them and being disrespectful immediately and as a matter of course.

If an ad ain't great, people won't connect with it or respond. That's all the feedback necessary....

 

[frankie49]

Well said

 

[BrianUncut70]

Stands up and applauds! Thank you for saying this out loud. Welcome to Linsecuritica

 

[Primalex]

there are those in posting in the personals who it seems sole purpose is to put down either new members or to discourage people from talking to new members. what gives you the right to post in someone's personal thread about how hilarious and desperate you think they are being?

The forum rules.

That was an easy one.

 

[inumoonu]

The forum rules.

That was an easy one.

actually the forum rules clearly state that this will result in a removal or edit of your post, try reading the stickied thread at the top of the personals ok champ it'll save you looking like an ass.

 

[georgerb]

There's always the "report post" icon when all else fails....

 

[Primalex]

actually the forum rules clearly state that this will result in a removal or edit of your post, try reading the stickied thread at the top of the personals ok champ it'll save you looking like an ass.

Oh, you are talking about the same rules that state that chat threads are moved out of the personals? You know...threads like this one or that one.

 

[inumoonu]

my god your right! if only this was a chat thread and not an open letter! if I could have locked this I would have.

 

[dididothat]

yep

I agree let's all play nice.

I'd also like to voice my own pet peeve; if your playing with someone either in PM or whatever and you have to go at least have the manners to say bye.

I'll bet I'm not the only one left hanging, remember first place is great in sport not so good in the bedroom.....

Stace x

 

[Bushmaster73]

Hear, hear!!!

 

[stude_cruiser19]

I concur

I concur with the honorable gentleman from Chester.
I have stated this same sentiment numerous times, here on Lit, and in some of the old Hoo chat rooms. there is no need to denigrate others. Most of us are on this site to have a little fun, to experience a little excitement, and maybe meet some new friends. But to bash another, or ridicule them for their thoughts, is totally baseless, and shows a personal bankruptcy of decency. We should all show a modicum of decorum, and simply walk away if we disagree, or oppose another person's point of view. No one is holding a gun to your head to be on any particular thread. I would suggest that you find one here that aligns with your own peccadiloes.

Another round of applause for the honorable gentleman from Chester

 

[nurseclynn]

This bears repeating....

I concur with the honorable gentleman from Chester.
I have stated this same sentiment numerous times, here on Lit, and in some of the old Hoo chat rooms. there is no need to denigrate others. Most of us are on this site to have a little fun, to experience a little excitement, and maybe meet some new friends. But to bash another, or ridicule them for their thoughts, is totally baseless, and shows a personal bankruptcy of decency. We should all show a modicum of decorum, and simply walk away if we disagree, or oppose another person's point of view. No one is holding a gun to your head to be on any particular thread. I would suggest that you find one here that aligns with your own peccadiloes.

Another round of applause for the honorable gentleman from Chester

I ran across this old thread today and thought I would give it a bump as I have been seeing exactly the same behavior recently that prompted the gentleman from Chester to write his open letter last year.

...to bash another, or ridicule them for their thoughts, is totally baseless, and shows a personal bankruptcy of decency. We should all show a modicum of decorum [and kindness to one another]

Often newbies come to the personals section first to see if they can find what they are looking for and it is here that first impressions are made. Many are posting with fear and trepidation in their heart...hoping to find something they are not finding elsewhere. Try to remember that while it is easy to just look at the text on the page and snark or make fun... there are real flesh and blood people behind the text with real feelings.

{this has been a lit PSA} lol

 

[just4friends]

hear hear!

inumoonu for mayor !!

(Oh... jeesh... have I done this... ?? )

No wait... I have tried to prop up those I did find to be real.

THAT would help. If you get a good response, let others know the thread is legit.

 

[sailingbuddy]

I agree

We like to refer to all this new communications stuff as "social media". How ironic, then, that the anonymity (on the one hand) or the speed (on the other hand) seems to cultivate a-social aspects such as unnecessary sarcasm or woefully sloppy ways to express oneself...

 

[homewa]

We like to refer to all this new communications stuff as "social media". How ironic, then, that the anonymity (on the one hand) or the speed (on the other hand) seems to cultivate a-social aspects such as unnecessary sarcasm or woefully sloppy ways to express oneself...

Well forums technically don't count as Social Media, but your point still stands.

 

[Noelrosa160]

there are those in posting in the personals who it seems sole purpose is to put down either new members or to discourage people from talking to new members. what gives you the right to post in someone's personal thread about how hilarious and desperate you think they are being?

there are posts here both blunt and articulate by both men and women, and here we have people with high post counts, and it certainly seems to only be those with high post counts to do this, who leave hateful and hurtful remarks on peoples posts . this discourages people from contacting that person with the added bonus of making that poster feel completely unwanted.

does it effect you if a post is blunt? of course not if you didn't enjoy a personal move on don't try and discourage others from diving into each others arms and pants.

grow up and be civil.

there's no reason to mock and you should be ashamed of yourselves. some people may find what you're doing funny and I'm sure you find it hilarious but frankly you're doing it at someone else's expense. get over yourselves. if you're really that insecure that a new member is going to attract one of the people you play with then perhaps this isn't the place for you.

don't be mocking, some people like the blunt approach, others like to be charmed. you shouldn't be influencing the forum with your hateful remarks. learn some self control.

if you feel you could offer some constructive criticism there's better ways to do it that how you currently are.

the reasoning for this letter? I can find 5 instances of it on the first page of these personals right now. for shame.

Well said. Thanks for posting

 

[Christopher2012]

PM Sent

 

[ceris01]

Here here and thankyou

As a newb myself its not easy learning the unspoken rules without offending people and it is hard enough making those first posts, or initiating contact with a member that has obviously been here for a long time; without the fear of being trolled off the site or mocked for being new and stupid.

I guess everyone was to start with and it's a shame that some seem to forget that.

 

[coacheric]

Most people here are not new to adult site. OK, I know some are and for that I'll cut slack. But also, most new members don't just jump into the personnel's and say "Fuck me hard in my virgin pussy. PM me for pictures". You look around, you post a few small comments here and there, you ask a question in the wrong thread and hope that a longer standing member sees it and offers a helping hand (thanks Simon. And an FYI, I've done this more than once also, even yesterday). You fill out your profile with at least a little information.

You don't start 14 threads in 15 days asking where the hot skank is that's going to blow you like never before. You don't post pictures of your cock, tits, pussy and then tell us how shy you are on post #2.....REALLY?

 

[Christopher2012]

I was discussing this thread with somebody earlier. I think what gets me is that, when I first started posting in the personals, my threads would get completely flooded out by:

1. Roll calls - I'm 100% fine with Roll Calls. They bring people together and I liked participating in them. However, they are sort of like sticky threads in a way.

2. The constant posts of ridiculous and desperate threads. I understand this is a sex site, but when you start bombarding the Personals with "Come shit on my face while I watch your sister fucking your dad," that's so fucking annoying because it's pushes my genuine thread out.

So to combat these two issues, I post generally in the Personals rather than posting just one thread and continuously bumping it or continuously posting the same shit every 8 hours.

Regardless of what you may think, some of us men on Lit have personalities. We're not all just here to throw compliments at any account that claims to be female. Some of us want to meet chill women to talk to and maybe pursue other ventures with. And when we see ridiculous posts, yeah we call them out sometimes. There are controversial moments but in the end, who ends up getting results? Because I know personally, I get results. I have made plenty of friends through the Personals section. I have a mind, heart, and personality. I'm sorry that some of these posters are like bots. I can't help it. And vice versa, they can't help it that they push my thread to page 2. That's the beauty of this. It's a forum. This is not the Craigslist Personals nor Match . com. This is a dynamic environment where people comment on threads.

Otherwise, let the threads be locked as soon as they are created.