an erotic smack in the face

[dolf]

I get that. They affect me the same way.

But then he makes a wrong move or does a little bit of that or little less of this, or I just get in pissy mood for no reason, and my inner bitch starts screaming to let her out.
Having someone capable of flipping and actually enjoying reverse role in that moment is pretty much a must for me to maintain longer lasting sexual relationship.

i'm a little less complex.

some guys I want to slap about (candy needs a slap)
some guys I want to slap me (that one is top secret)

if I switch on a guy during sex then it's because the sex is wrong and I want him to fuck off now. my grumpiness is not erotic in the slightest.

 

[StrayKat]

i'm a little less complex.

some guys I want to slap about (candy needs a slap)
some guys I want to slap me (that one is top secret)

if I switch on a guy during sex then it's because the sex is wrong and I want him to fuck off now. my grumpiness is not erotic in the slightest.

Oh I dont think I am so complex.

I do have preferences too. But I can and actually prefer to switch on the same person. It is more intimate for me.
And good hot rough sex can cure my grumpiness most of the time

 

[dolf]

maybe I just need a big argument and to still be angry to have nice, fighty sex...

 

[StrayKat]

maybe I just need a big argument and to still be angry to have nice, fighty sex...

Experimenting can be lots of fun

 

[girlsmiley]

Erotic face slapping.

I can't say it with a straight face.

Honestly. Ridiculous.

 

[NorthernGinger]

I enjoy rough sex with a partner who deserves it.

I am in a power position in my professional life, a partner in my relationship, and my sexual relationship is one in which I trust my partner implicitly. He adores me and treats me like a queen, and I therefore feel very safe and comfortable fully submitting to him.

I enjoy the intensity, the (mild to moderate) pain, the surprise of what is coming next, and his firm hands on me.

It's not something that makes sense to everyone, and people who know me professionally would probably have a stroke if they knew I could be ordered to my knees to suck His cock with the point of a finger. People who know us socially see a very affectionate and attentive couple who are highly attuned to each other.

 

[nowisthetime]

Well, I like when he slaps his dick in my face when I'm on my knees......

 

[rosco rathbone]

Can you explain to me what's hot about being smacked in the face?

Because I truly do not understand why, or how a person could/would enjoy it.

Give us an example of a time that being slapped across the face was hot for you.

I agree, there's nothing hot about being smacked in the face.

 

[dolf]

I agree, there's nothing hot about being smacked in the face.

and from the other perspective, uncle rosco?

 

[lovetoread]

How far back do I need to read to find out how horrible being a submissive is?

 

[dolf]

How far back do I need to read to find out how horrible being a submissive is?

to recap, you're dependent and you have no self esteem. also, it means you have no right to a feminist opinion.

 

[Ishmael]

to recap, you're dependent and you have no self esteem. also, it means you have no right to a feminist opinion.

According to who?

Ishmael

 

[Que]

According to who?

Ishmael

Eyer was on a tear earlier.

 

[Ishmael]

Eyer was on a tear earlier.

Ahhh, to each their own.

Ishmael

 

[Learnsmith]

Eyer was on a tear earlier.

Is that what we're calling it now? Because I'm pretty sure, according to the rulebook, that was really more of a snit.

 

[lovetoread]

He just needs a spanking.

 

[Learnsmith]

He just needs a spanking.

Or a smack to the face. Eroticism optional.

 

[eyer]

Or a smack to the face. Eroticism optional.

You really should just stick to smacking submissive women in the face, son...

...that way your "optional" point there can remain safely veiled within all the extracurricularly disingenuous bullshit you have to shovel to cover-up your true, assaulting intent.

 

[Learnsmith]

You really should just stick to smacking submissive women in the face, son...

...that way your "optional" point there can remain safely veiled within all the extracurricularly disingenuous bullshit you have to shovel to cover-up your true, assaulting intent.

Calm yourself, boy. You're in no position to be questioning anyone's feminist bona fides. In fact, the consensus of the overwhelmingly female thread seems to consider mine the more reasoned and nuanced of our two positions. More to the point, I think your sniveling disposition is interfering with the smoky bouquet of this lovely scotch ale I have in hand. So what say I just add you to my growing ignore list and get back to my pint. Pleasure knowing you.

 

[Que]

Is that what we're calling it now? Because I'm pretty sure, according to the rulebook, that was really more of a snit.

Your wordsmithing in this instance was far more apt, good sir.

 

[Ishmael]

*chuckle* Dolf knew damn well what was going to happen when she started this thread. It's a sub-plot of a battle that's been raging down in the BDSM forum for as long as I've been here, and I'd bet that if I were to visit that forum I'd find it still raging in one or more threads.

Is D/s a 24/7 practice?

Well yeah, it can be. When I first started my career I was placed under the tut-ledge of a particularly brilliant engineer. He had a masters from MIT all on a 100% scholarship grant. And he was a 24/7 Dom. We talked a lot and I learned many things from him, both professionally and regarding his particular kink. Various practices and techniques regarding BDSM. BUT, between his wife and his mistress the fucking phone never stopped ringing. It was damn good for him that he was as brilliant as he was or he never would have accomplished a damn thing. I decided then and there that the 24/7 lifestyle wasn't for me. I wanted to do other things in and with my life than to spend damned near 1/3 of it working and the rest of my waking hours directing the life of another individual. Especially when that other individual was a perfectly capable adult. As far as I'm concerned it starts and ends at the bedroom door (or wherever else playtime is taking place).

Can two consenting adults engage in whatever sexual activity they want to?

Of course they can, but there is another question that goes with that, "Should they?" There are some practices that are not only risky but down right dangerous. Activities that not properly executed can have/do serious, and permanent, damage to the person they're being done to. There is always the question as to whether the practitioner knows what they're doing and whether the object of his/her ministrations knows what the possible consequences are.

This all started with a mere slap in the face. And I'm not going to weigh in as to whether that is right or wrong for another pair of individuals. Whatever floats your boat. But a slap can be a mere surprise accompanied by some redness all the way to a broken jaw. <shrug>

I won't do that. A face slap is highly symbolic to me. It's a sign of great contempt for the person I slap and I just can't imagine being with a person I feel that contemptuous of. The only possible exception would be if the individual were out of control hysterical, then I might use the slap to force them to regain focus. But that is just my personal prejudice regarding face slapping.

Ishmael

 

[Arianthe]

Sooooooo......

Hot, or not???

 

[dolf]

Sooooooo......

Hot, or not???

Hot

 

[Learnsmith]

Sooooooo......

Hot, or not???

I think the consensus is: if it works for you. Eeyore's still busy wrestling with his asexuality, of course, so it's been a distraction and kind of hard to get down to the nitty gritty. Also, a lot of the women on here skew top, I'm noticing. Not a complaint, just an observation.

 

[eyer]

I think the consensus is: if it works for you. Eeyore's still busy wrestling with his asexuality, of course, so it's been a distraction and kind of hard to get down to the nitty gritty. Also, a lot of the women on here skew top, I'm noticing. Not a complaint, just an observation.

On ignore, eh wannabe...

...yet still livin' totally rent free in that little insecure mind of yours.

Too friggin' funny...

...gossip girl.