What wives want?

[crowfoot]

So many men have fantasies of watching their wives with other men. What I'd like to know is how many women actually want to as well. Do you know your husband craves this? How about making it a little easier on us and let us know how you feel! Ladies how many of you want to be shared but thing your hubbies wouldn't approve?

 

[crowfoot]

Guess not to many!

 

[lynn-23]

Guess not to many!

LOL. I guess this thread got buried before anyone read it. I think its a fantasy that many if not most women have. But I am guessing many dont share it with their significant other out of fear that he will think badly of her. I think that it could be very sexy and fun, as long as hubby was totally ok with it.

 

[Domesticity]

My husband says the idea disgusts him. No way in hell he wants me to have sex with anyone--including him lol

 

[Joeknoxville]

What a shame!

 

[crowfoot]

LOL. I guess this thread got buried before anyone read it. I think its a fantasy that many if not most women have. But I am guessing many dont share it with their significant other out of fear that he will think badly of her. I think that it could be very sexy and fun, as long as hubby was totally ok with it.

I think that men feel the same way. Guess it takes someone with some balls (no pun intended) and a good presentation.

 

[Missingout]

I guess my wife hasn't seen this thread yet.

 

[crowfoot]

My husband says the idea disgusts him. No way in hell he wants me to have sex with anyone--including him lol

Too bad i think this lack of communication is responsible for a lot of heartache!

 

[vibes]

My husband says the idea disgusts him. No way in hell he wants me to have sex with anyone--including him lol

Maybe not in hell but in someone's bed?

 

[Curiouswife1986]

I am a wife that has been married for only 4 year and the sex has fizzled out. Recently I have found myself attracted to other men much more. I fantasize about being with other men but obviously have kept this from my husband. I feel like my husband and all of my friend's husbands would be completely against any of us making a move on other men. I would feel incredibly relieved if my husband gave me permission to get more physical with other men. I wouldn't be interested in penetrative sex but I would love to be felt up and free to flirt. I had no idea that so many men were into this!

 

[Funnbrandy]

Yes please

I love having my significant other watch me with another man.....what I have found is for most guys it's best left as a fantasy....

 

[sterculius]

I am a wife that has been married for only 4 year and the sex has fizzled out. Recently I have found myself attracted to other men much more. I fantasize about being with other men but obviously have kept this from my husband. I feel like my husband and all of my friend's husbands would be completely against any of us making a move on other men. I would feel incredibly relieved if my husband gave me permission to get more physical with other men. I wouldn't be interested in penetrative sex but I would love to be felt up and free to flirt. I had no idea that so many men were into this!

When you say no penetrative sex do you also include performing oral sex? My wife has no idea that I'm a cocksucker and frequently hook up with guys for this purpose, I'd really love to watch her giving passionate, sloppy blowjobs to other men. She enjoys giving me blowjobs and swallowing my cum but would not want to suck off other men, or so she tells me.

 

[LoVeLyLiSaBeTh]

I would..

enjoy being exposed and touched by other men, fondled and flirted with, but he would never want to be any part of watching it.

 

[Freya69]

I suspect there may be a number of couples that would be OK with this but have not communicated with each other. Let's face it. Most women do like sex and there is certainly plenty of affairs and cheating going on. I cheated on my husband several times. You meet someone and you click. It happens. Not sure I would have been comfortable with a 3some or having my hubby watch. Also doubt I would have any interest in a stranger or a hook up just for sex. However, If I had a green light to pursue a physical relationship with guys that caught my fancy, I could have gotten into that. Of course he would have to have the same right.

 

[littlecordelera]

This isn't a problem I have. My husband loves sharing me, and seeing him get turned on turns me on and makes me get more naughty, which turns him on more which makes me get more naughty, which turns him on more....

It's a feedback loop of ever increasing intensity.

The other guy can end up being a very lucky man.

 

[MarriedMelissa]

I have to agree with the wives. I would never ask my husband permission for this. He would take it the wrong way. The women who have men who suggest this are lucky! This is the only way to spare feelings. Although I do have a GF whose husband wanted her to do another man. He later regretted it. There are risks.

 

[crowfoot]

I have to agree with the wives. I would never ask my husband permission for this. He would take it the wrong way. The women who have men who suggest this are lucky! This is the only way to spare feelings. Although I do have a GF whose husband wanted her to do another man. He later regretted it. There are risks.

You say "the women who have men who suggest this are lucky" but the men are saying the same thing. Women have the desires too but don't want to chance that their hubbies would "think it disgusting". Men on the other hand (probably women too) don't want to risk a good thing for maybe a little extra excitement.

My wife told me that the limits (I asked one day) were, "don't pee on me, don't shit in my mouth, and I don't think I want another person involved but it isn't off the table aft"er that everything else is pretty much fair game. I think that i might try and push things a little but the timing has to be right. Too many major changes going on right now to even give this a priority. Maybe after things settle down i might try and bring it up slowly. I believe that even though she might want to try it she doesn't want to make like it was her Idea or that she might like it. Safe for her hard for me and so we wait.

 

[crowfoot]

This isn't a problem I have. My husband loves sharing me, and seeing him get turned on turns me on and makes me get more naughty, which turns him on more which makes me get more naughty, which turns him on more....

It's a feedback loop of ever increasing intensity.

The other guy can end up being a very lucky man.

How did the conversation start in the first place? Was it you or him that had the nerve to bring it up?

 

[crowfoot]

enjoy being exposed and touched by other men, fondled and flirted with, but he would never want to be any part of watching it.

If I were to go down this path I think that this is how I would start. Get both of us comfortable with the idea and go slowly. Some teasing, some touching and when everybody is cool with whats gone on step it up a little.

 

[littlecordelera]

How did the conversation start in the first place? Was it you or him that had the nerve to bring it up?

I've never had any intention of ever being monogamous. I've always been honest about this with every guy I've ever dated, so my husband knew this before we got married. He liked it.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I would love to have sex with other guys. The guys I fantasize about are also married. I often amend my fantasies to include their wives (to rationalize the morality of it all in my mind)(plus, I love the idea of seducing another guy by ravishing his wife). In reality, my husband would be totally down for me having sex with another girl, but a guy would have him undone.

 

[crowfoot]

I would love to have sex with other guys. The guys I fantasize about are also married. I often amend my fantasies to include their wives (to rationalize the morality of it all in my mind)(plus, I love the idea of seducing another guy by ravishing his wife). In reality, my husband would be totally down for me having sex with another girl, but a guy would have him undone.

I often think where it would go wrong. It is always that she may find the other man a better lover, and that after all is said and done it never seems like it was as good an idea when we started. Then i think that it is her pleasure that is important and hopefully she would see that it is only through my love could she have this pleasure. I'm sure there are lots better than I but i'M OK with that. If you want it your job would be to convince him no matter what that you are his. Just sayin'

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I often think where it would go wrong. It is always that she may find the other man a better lover, and that after all is said and done it never seems like it was as good an idea when we started. Then i think that it is her pleasure that is important and hopefully she would see that it is only through my love could she have this pleasure. I'm sure there are lots better than I but i'M OK with that. If you want it your job would be to convince him no matter what that you are his. Just sayin'

I think guys are a little less confident than they convey. You sound a lot like the hubby. To be honest, I'd rather have him pleasure me confidently than to lose some of the spark due to his constant worrying. Plus, I think fantasies are always a lot hotter in my head. Acting some of these scenes out would probably be more akin to awkward fumbling (but if I did end up in a hot tub with my boss and his wife and plenty of champagne was flowing, I probably would go down on her).

 

[ror5]

I think guys are a little less confident than they convey. You sound a lot like the hubby. To be honest, I'd rather have him pleasure me confidently than to lose some of the spark due to his constant worrying. Plus, I think fantasies are always a lot hotter in my head. Acting some of these scenes out would probably be more akin to awkward fumbling (but if I did end up in a hot tub with my boss and his wife and plenty of champagne was flowing, I probably would go down on her).

Hot......boss his wife and champagne that sounds interesting....

 

[bharman4102]

I have to agree with the wives. I would never ask my husband permission for this. He would take it the wrong way. The women who have men who suggest this are lucky! This is the only way to spare feelings. Although I do have a GF whose husband wanted her to do another man. He later regretted it. There are risks.

So you've done it without him knowing? Or it's just an occasional thought?