Would you recommend a 28 day addiction program?

[Sunshine]

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[Skiddles2014]

Uh, ....

USA USA USA?

 

[sethp]

Yeah do it, It will only work of course, if she is ready to quit. But you have to throw out the lifeline. She may or may not take it. It could be the start of her recovery. some of these programs work and some don't.

The biggest pitfall with these programs is the aftercare. I'm a big advocate of AA or NA, more for the group support after the recovery than anything else. They say that meeting makers make it.

 

[Sunshine]

Yeah do it, It will only work of course, if she is ready to quit. But you have to throw out the lifeline. She may or may not take it. It could be the start of her recovery. some of these programs work and some don't.

The biggest pitfall with these programs is the aftercare. I'm a big advocate of AA or NA, more for the group support after the recovery than anything else. They say that meeting makers make it.

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[bronzeage]

I am expecting a call from the psych hospital where my sister in law is a patient. I called the police to check on her last Friday because I thought she might be suicidal... She's an alcoholic who is loosing her home to foreclosure and recently hit a tree while intoxicated and totaled her car.... I spoke to the officer on Friday and urged him to take her to the hospital even though he said she was " fine" which simply meant "not dead". Once at the ER they called to say they couldn't keep her because she wasn't saying she would hurt herself. It took me a half hour to make it clear that she is on self destructive path and is In desperate need of help. So they changed their mind and committed her for the weekend to a psych hospital. I thought she would be getting out today but her husband says the doctor wants to speak to me about placing her in a 28 day program.

Are these types of programs good? She does not have transportation since the DUI , so outpatient treatment might not work. Any personal experiences?

Why does the doctor want to speak to you?

The last time I checked, a 28 day rehab program was about $38K. It may be more now. The real question is, who's paying for it.

After that, I don't know if the success rate of sleep over rehabs is any better than Alcoholics Anonymous, and their rate is pretty poor.

 

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[RobDownSouth]

Maybe she needs to go to jail for a while.

How'd that work out for you?

 

[sethp]

I think she wants to quit, but as she explains, alcohol is her way of taking the edge off her anxiety. After a week in detox, she had the DUI. Then, stuck at home without a car, she had the booze delivered. Then she pledged to stop, because her husband says he will take the kids and divorce her, but I found out she has been drinking.

Yeah she should do it. But like bronzeage said they can be expensive. Some of them have a sliding scale and monthly payment arrangements though. Check on the aftercare. She may never quit without it a program like this though. Remember too that if this is unaffordable, that AA and NA are free. Just a thought.

 

[Sunshine]

Why does the doctor want to speak to you?

The last time I checked, a 28 day rehab program was about $38K. It may be more now. The real question is, who's paying for it.

After that, I don't know if the success rate of sleep over rehabs is any better than Alcoholics Anonymous, and their rate is pretty poor.

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[ms_ann_thrope]

Why are you involved and not the husband? There is a big chunk of story missing.

 

[Sunshine]

Yeah she should do it. But like bronzeage said they can be expensive. Some of them have a sliding scale and monthly payment arrangements though. Check on the aftercare. She may never quit without it a program like this though. Remember too that if this is unaffordable, that AA and NA are free. Just a thought.

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[thør]

Yes, AA is great, but she totaled her car. When she got out of detox and had the DUI, she wasn't able to attend meetings.

I suppose her insurance would cover it. She is broke. They are in foreclosure and filing bankruptcy. Such a sad time for her.

So, there will always be an excuse?

What about just figuring out how to make the meetings.

 

[Sunshine]

Why are you involved and not the husband? There is a big chunk of story missing.

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[Sunshine]

So, there will always be an excuse?

What about just figuring out how to make the meetings.

Do you think that would be better? I know she doesn't want to be away from her kids but on the other hand, I know she has not had a great track record thus far with aftercare.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

First of all, the husband has all but kicked her out and hasn't a nurturing g or caring bone in his body. I have tried to explain to him that she is ill and needs his support but he is very angry with her.

He called me last week and said, someone needs to figure out how she is getting to court next week. I live two states away. He would not take her. And his family blames her for the foreclosure so they won't help out with transportation , ect.

I was the one who called the police and really pushed for them to take a closer look.
They did speak to him but he is a man of few words and he suggested they talk to me.

If you care for her tell her she can move in with you. Are you not your brother's keeper?

 

[bronzeage]

First of all, the husband has all but kicked her out and hasn't a nurturing g or caring bone in his body. I have tried to explain to him that she is ill and needs his support but he is very angry with her.

He called me last week and said, someone needs to figure out how she is getting to court next week. I live two states away. He would not take her. And his family blames her for the foreclosure so they won't help out with transportation , ect.

I was the one who called the police and really pushed for them to take a closer look.
They did speak to him but he is a man of few words and he suggested they talk to me.

If the usual pattern holds, the husband is your brother, and his family is your family.

Besides that little trip to LTland, there is a point where you can't do anything. Even AA has a limit to how much effort friends and relatives should put into helping someone.

 

[Sunshine]

If you care for her tell her she can move in with you. Are you not your brother's keeper?

I already told her that but she and her husband are two states away. If she moves in with me, how will she see her kids?

I assume you mean stay with me while attending AA instead of 28 day, right?

 

[Sunshine]

If the usual pattern holds, the husband is your brother, and his family is your family.

Besides that little trip to LTland, there is a point where you can't do anything. Even AA has a limit to how much effort friends and relatives should put into helping someone.

No, she is my husband's sister. Her husband is not my brother.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I already told her that but she and her husband are two states away. If she moves in with me, how will she see her kids?

I assume you mean stay with me while attending AA instead of 28 day, right?

How old are the kids and what good is she to them in her current condition? Go pick her damn ass up. If she's not worth saving then tell her she's on her own because if her husband doesn't care, and the police don't care and a rehab facility doesn't care unless you pay them, she'll probably end up on the street or dead.

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Didn't see post above. What's your husband's input? He's the relative.

 

[Sunshine]

If the usual pattern holds, the husband is your brother, and his family is your family.

Besides that little trip to LTland, there is a point where you can't do anything. Even AA has a limit to how much effort friends and relatives should put into helping someone.

What made you think the husband is my brother? I referred to him as " her husband" not " my brother".

 

[RobDownSouth]

What made you think the husband is my brother? I referred to him as " her husband" not " my brother".

You were pretty clear on this.

This board always seems to be skeptical to a fault...and I'm including myself here many times.

I hope your sister-in-law gets the helps she needs.

 

[Sunshine]

How old are the kids and what good is she to them in her current condition? Go pick her damn ass up. If she's not worth saving then tell her she's on her own because if her husband doesn't care, and the police don't care and a rehab facility doesn't care unless you pay them, she'll probably end up on the street or dead.

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[bronzeage]

What made you think the husband is my brother? I referred to him as " her husband" not " my brother".

Call me old fashioned, but my sister in law is married to my brother.

 

[Sunshine]

Call me old fashioned, but my sister in law is married to my brother.

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[Sunshine]

Maybe she needs to go to jail for a while.

They don't send people to jail on a first offense.

She needs therapy and AA.