Curious as to the Dommes out there...

[YoungToy]

Well hello there, for those who don't know me, Ive been here a few months and Id consider myself a sub, or at least a bottom. I have to go over the exact difference, I was always guilty of generally switching 2 things up.

ANYWAY! Im here looking for a bunch of things. For one, I have a serious questions: are there women that truly get a sexual high from dominating a guy? It seems like there are very few women who do, and sometimes I feel like they dont truly want to be a Domme, merely enjoy the thought of switching.

Second thing Im looking for are people to talk to. I always enjoy meeting new people, whether they are interested in sex or not, friendship is really important. If I have a problem talking to you, then chances are that I won't be able to be enjoyable sexually either. So Im extending an invitation to people out there, preferably older woman and/or Dommes who want to talk or communicate. Im tired of being the guy to always try and meet someone new. Its frustrating sending someone a long message with no reply.

Oh, and sorry guys, I dont go down that road.

Looking forward to meeting new people

 

[StrayKat]

For one, I have a serious questions: are there women that truly get a sexual high from dominating a guy? It seems like there are very few women who do, and sometimes I feel like they dont truly want to be a Domme, merely enjoy the thought of switching.

Yes there are.
There are not so many who would dominate a guy exactly the way he wants them to and when he wants them to without him making any effort to find out what is it that she wants...... I believe you get the picture?
Sub yes, demanding manipulative bottom no thank you.

 

[YoungToy]

Yes there are.
There are not so many who would dominate a guy exactly the way he wants them to and when he wants them to without him making any effort to find out what is it that she wants...... I believe you get the picture?
Sub yes, demanding manipulative bottom no thank you.

That makes so much sense. Actually thats a pretty solid point thanks for the idea.

 

[eric60red]

Be careful some are evil, and only want to make you feel like an idiot

 

[YoungToy]

Be careful some are evil, and only want to make you feel like an idiot

Ive found a few from here who just want me to spend money on them and sign up for suspicious websites, and Ive had to report them.

 

[Monica_112]

What's wrong with switching? If you understand both sides of the control equation surely you can enjoy / be better at both

When I'm dominant I really do get a thrill from it - but it depends on the pleasure the other half is getting in their submission, and whether they are truly enjoying it or just play acting out of curiosity. Submissives should also understand their role is not passive like StrayKat said

 

[eric60red]

What's wrong with switching? If you understand both sides of the control equation surely you can enjoy / be better at both

When I'm dominant I really do get a thrill from it - but it depends on the pleasure the other half is getting in their submission, and whether they are truly enjoying it or just play acting out of curiosity. Submissives should also understand their role is not passive like StrayKat said

I could not have put it better my self Monica, it shows inexperience and that they do not understand. The submissive in a relationship, really has all the power, and can walk away at any time .

 

[YoungToy]

What's wrong with switching? If you understand both sides of the control equation surely you can enjoy / be better at both

When I'm dominant I really do get a thrill from it - but it depends on the pleasure the other half is getting in their submission, and whether they are truly enjoying it or just play acting out of curiosity. Submissives should also understand their role is not passive like StrayKat said

I should have put that better, too. Its not that they're switch, its usually that they only play the dominant role because I want them too, not because they enjoy it. They may be curious or just want to please me, but they're still not a Domme. Ive tried the dominant thing with woman, and its just not really my thing so when we switch roles, it kind of feels like Im doing to them what they did for me, if that makes sense.

Passive =/= submissive. Sure, laying there and getting pleasure is nice, but a real Domme probably wouldn't allow that unless you're tied up

 

[YoungToy]

Not-Really-A-Bump-But-Somewhat-Kind-Of-Actually-A-Bump-In-Disguise-As-Not-A-Bump-But-Still-Not-A-Bump!

Hi!

 

[lilcuriouscatt]

Send Me a PM

 

[beardedmariner]

Yes there are.
There are not so many who would dominate a guy exactly the way he wants them to and when he wants them to without him making any effort to find out what is it that she wants...... I believe you get the picture?
Sub yes, demanding manipulative bottom no thank you.

THIS. it's not about what the sub wants.

 

[lilcuriouscatt]

THIS. it's not about what the sub wants.

At the risk of starting a semantics war, in D/s a sub does have some say in what happens. Subs are not slaves. bdsm tends to think more in terms of slaves, who often have nothing but a safe word to makes their wishes known.