Finding engaging playmates, rather than gung-ho one shot cowboys

[HamTree1990]

Hi all.

The internet is a crazy place. While anonymity may have helped a few revolutions and released a few dirty corporate secretes, its brought 20 million times the amount of trolls out of the closet, and as with most walks of life, they all seem to focus their collective attention on sex.

That leaves us (a straightish couple) with a little predicament.
We want to explore the idea of playing with other people, first digitally, then perhaps one day physically. The problem is that as soon as we instigate a conversation with 97.6% (a real statistic, promise!) of the people on the internet we are met with nothing remotely enjoyable.

So we are just wondering, how have others gone about all of this?


Ive avoided going into specifics of what we are looking for to keep this a little away from being a "personals" add, but I can elaborate if that would help, but please for the love of al things good and pure don't just post a reply like "Ill show you a good time" thats the exact problem we are trying to find a solution for here!

and please, go easy on us admins, if this sounds too much like a personal add, we'll change it, thats not the intention

 

[seela]

Fetlife is a good place for finding people and events in your general area. Meeting face to face eliminates at least the some of the people who only fantasize and don't really want to do anything in real life. But then again you said you'd like to start online, so I don't know. And that still leaves the problem of not running into people you'd like to run into.

I'm afraid there's no simple fix to your problem, other than just getting to know people and talking to them to find out if you click or not. It's just like dating in the vanilla world.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I just read your profile. Part of the problem may be because of what you are looking for.

What are you willing to offer this person who you want to give you well-written creative tasks? What's in it for them?

The internet can be a great way to meet people. You have to make yourself appealing to them.

 

[StrayKat]

So we are just wondering, how have others gone about all of this?

I go about meeting people online just the same as I go about meeting people offline. I try to be honest and state clearly what I want and dont want (if I know it what is not always the case but then I dont go "looking" for anything unless I am sure what it is).

Then when I meet people who are not up to my expectations, I try to politely and shortly inform them it is not going to work.
Just like in real life, one has to kiss many frogs to find <insert your ideal combo here>.

I dont think internet is a crazy place. It just shows people a bit more for what they are without all the social facade, that is all.

 

[Primalex]

Most male subs mean primarily a lot of work in my experience.

 

[StrayKat]

Most male subs mean primarily a lot of work in my experience.

Most male subs are primarily dominant bottoms if not worse in my experience.

 

[BiBunny]

Most male subs mean primarily a lot of work in my experience.

Most male subs are primarily dominant bottoms if not worse in my experience.

Truer words than these were never spoken.

 

[Netzach]

That's been my experience with the girls.