question for females

[Lotus_Maiden]

This is a genuine curiosity, for the female who said they “want to be gang bang." Do you really want that to happen to you in real life? Like for real seriously...

Do you (female) actually find that enjoyable and arousing fantasy? I see how a guy want to be a part of the gang bang to another girl; for control, power, possessiveness, obsession, domination, and so forth. But how is that enjoyable for the female?

I think guys find a girl with that kind of thought sexy, kinky and erotic. So is the one without that kind of urge or desire not as sexy, kinky or erotic? I'm not a prune and I do like excitement in bed (not literally just in bed), but I find the thought/idea of gang bang is repulsive, demeaning, and undesiring.

I also find it exhausting! Not just physically but also mentally... How can you keep up with pleasing all the guys? I think 3/4-some is already hard enough! Lol.

So I want to understand how a female can enjoy being gang bang in real life?



PS please no PM

 

[cumunder]

The most men I have been with at once is only 2 but I surely would like to be gangbanged. The thought of all those cocks and cum makes me shiver

 

[Lotus_Maiden]

The most men I have been with at once is only 2 but I surely would like to be gangbanged. The thought of all those cocks and cum makes me shiver

I assume your kind of "shiver" is good, since the term is pretty ambiguous.

So it is quantity over quality that attracts female to gang bang then?

 

[positivetension]

It's an exciting fantasy for a lot of women. In my case it will probably always remain a fantasy for safety's sake (and, ugh...the logistics). Fantasies are a good way to explore the turn-ons that you couldn't, wouldn't, or shouldn't do in real-life. I think suppressing or denying kinks is unhealthy and hurts self-awareness.

Just as you say guys would get off on the control, power, and domination of gang-banging a girl, there is the flip side of being submissive and getting off from being controlled and dominated. The fantasy of being objectified and used as a toy can be very...intense.

Also there's the simple idea of being fucked A LOT. It's the fantasy of sex that just keeps going on, and on, and on.

Rawr.

 

[Lotus_Maiden]

Also there's the simple idea of being fucked A LOT.

Ha, so it is quantity. And for you, it's the thought of being gang bang that turns you on, not necessary need/want to "experience" it in real life. That's understandable.

I the idea of unending sex, one orgasm after another, and all night long, wake up with fucking. Even so, I don't find gang bang attractive or erotic. Then again, everyone is entitled to have their own fantasy and dictated what turn hem on

 

[positivetension]

Ha, so it is quantity.

No, not for me. Enjoying the quantity would just be a no-brainer. I like the thought of being objectified and giving up control.

 

[Lotus_Maiden]

I like the thought of being objectified and giving up control.

Ah, see. That's the hump I can't get over: objectification. I don't find that arousing... I some bondage, yes. But being the "slave," getting yelled at as a bitch or lower than dirt, being an "object to be pass around"... eh, definitely not my cup of tea.

I don't mind giving up control, but it doesn't need to give it up to ten/dozen guys

 

[positivetension]

being the "slave," getting yelled at as a bitch or lower than dirt, being an "object to be pass around"... eh, definitely not my cup of tea.

None of those things are necessarily related, though. People can get off on any combination of activities or ideas. There are as many variations as there are stars. I personally wouldn't enjoy being yelled at and the word "slave" just bores me.

I don't mind giving up control, but it doesn't need to give it up to ten/dozen guys

Everyone has their own tastes

 

[StarGazer58]

None of those things are necessarily related, though. People can get off on any combination of activities or ideas. There are as many variations as there are stars. I personally wouldn't enjoy being yelled at and the word "slave" just bores me.




Everyone has their own tastes

And I bet you taste good.

 

[Lotus_Maiden]

None of those things are necessarily related.

Then what's your definition of "objectifying" someone?

 

[spindledone]

Some women do find this incredibly erotic and are fully aware of how potentially violent, definitely uncomfortable and demeaning it could be - and they're still into it. I don't consider myself a masochist at all, pain does nothing for me, but the idea that someone doesn't give a shit that I am in pain an is still fucking me anyway? That's a turn on for me.

That isn't to say that I would enjoy that kind of sex all the time, and I also find tender, loving sex to be totally fulfilling as well.

To each their own.

 

[positivetension]

Then what's your definition of "objectifying" someone?

I would consider objectification to be viewing someone impersonally, as something nice to look at or to take pleasure from. In most gang-bang fantasies, I don't imagine any of the guys being particularly interested in the girl's personality or making an emotional connection. She's something for them to enjoy.

Related to, but not the same as:

Degradation: treating someone as less-than. I feel it's very distinct from objectification. Someone could be treated as inherently lower and inferior but still recognized as an individual (even affectionately). I see a lot of pet-play as affectionate degradation, where one person is in the role of the caring owner, and the other is their puppy or kitty.

Related to, but not the same as:

Humiliation: making someone feel shame or embarrassment. I don't think humiliation is necessarily implied in bdsm activities, it's just a potential spin. For example, "forcing" someone to do something sexual in public might be humiliating for one type of person. A different person, with a strong exhibitionist streak, could relish the chance and feel no embarrassment at all.


But I'm getting carried away

 

[mariais44]

I would consider objectification to be viewing someone impersonally, as something nice to look at or to take pleasure from. In most gang-bang fantasies, I don't imagine any of the guys being particularly interested in the girl's personality or making an emotional connection. She's something for them to enjoy.

Related to, but not the same as:

Degradation: treating someone as less-than. I feel it's very distinct from objectification. Someone could be treated as inherently lower and inferior but still recognized as an individual (even affectionately). I see a lot of pet-play as affectionate degradation, where one person is in the role of the caring owner, and the other is their puppy or kitty.

Related to, but not the same as:

Humiliation: making someone feel shame or embarrassment. I don't think humiliation is necessarily implied in bdsm activities, it's just a potential spin. For example, "forcing" someone to do something sexual in public might be humiliating for one type of person. A different person, with a strong exhibitionist streak, could relish the chance and feel no embarrassment at all.


But I'm getting carried away

I guess my quantifiable erotic -les-excess revolves around my recurring fantasy : I'm kidnapped by a lost tribe of Jamaican-les warriors.... ahhhh yes ... opens eyes... damn woke up again 1

yeah mon...

interesting string...

 

[Lotus_Maiden]

Oh my, I have seem to forgotten about my own thread. Ha! Anyhoo, so bottom is that gang bang isn't my cup of tea. It doesn't matter how I slice and dice it, use different words, spin at another angle, I still like uno e uno

Then again, everyone has their own taste buds. So bang on, my Lits, bang the freak on!

 

[Mockingjay]

It is only now that I have notice this thread and I totally agree that it would always remain as fantasy (though it's a bit creepy)

 

[MaryannM]

Gangbang?

Ive had threesomes ( MFM) a number of times. Im 43 yrs old married 17 yrs Mom of 2. I have also on two ocassions had sex w/ three men. Both times the same three. Of course these were men I knew and trusted and it was tiring but exciting and while I did feel 'objecified' to some degree, that was part of the excitement. Yes I was abble to take care of them all and both times the episode lasted from a late friday thru a good part of saturday.

 

[MaryannM]

Again

I have also given oral sex to a few men at a party. Again, men I knew ( for the most part) and or friends of friends. Because of time and schedules and other factors including work and family issues, I tend to give oral sex more than have intercourse ( outside of my marriage) Its just easier and less time consuming and it is still exciting for both me and my partner.

 

[dfw713]

I have also given oral sex to a few men at a party. Again, men I knew ( for the most part) and or friends of friends. Because of time and schedules and other factors including work and family issues, I tend to give oral sex more than have intercourse ( outside of my marriage) Its just easier and less time consuming and it is still exciting for both me and my partner.

I would like to be at your next party.

 

[PureAnni]

This is a genuine curiosity, for the female who said they “want to be gang bang." Do you really want that to happen to you in real life? Like for real seriously...

Do you (female) actually find that enjoyable and arousing fantasy? I see how a guy want to be a part of the gang bang to another girl; for control, power, possessiveness, obsession, domination, and so forth. But how is that enjoyable for the female?

I think guys find a girl with that kind of thought sexy, kinky and erotic. So is the one without that kind of urge or desire not as sexy, kinky or erotic? I'm not a prune and I do like excitement in bed (not literally just in bed), but I find the thought/idea of gang bang is repulsive, demeaning, and undesiring.

I also find it exhausting! Not just physically but also mentally... How can you keep up with pleasing all the guys? I think 3/4-some is already hard enough! Lol.

So I want to understand how a female can enjoy being gang bang in real life?



PS please no PM

While this its not my kink, i understand how some women enjoy it and even feel empowered by it. They afterall have made a choice to give them selves up, to relinquish control, and have essentially asked to be used. All those things are a turn on for me and really are my kink, but only on a one on one level. I belong to one Man, I am *His* whore. I have no desire to be *a* whore for a group of men.
(I dont mean to say you are a whore if you participate in a gang bang only that it is how i would feel if i did.)

 

[JUSTAGIRL31]

Yes, I share the same sexual fantasy. The thought of a Gang bang really gets me aroused. The arousal for me can occur in both dominating and affectionate situations. Now it's my personal opinion that this particular fantasy is better left a fantasy. I think the real thing would never surpass the "hype"! I must confess, my sexy ass fiancé has made this fantasy a reality all on his own. In our version we agree on the type of situation where this fantasy would most likely occur, and then my fiancé plays out several different men. He changes his voice, accent, and demeanor for each character. Sexually he changes positions, levels of penetration, speed, rhythm even levels of teasing. It really helps to be blind folded, let your mind and imagination build it for you! In most of our sexcapades, he tries to switch between very aggressive and rough and very loving and gentle. My fiancé has given me the best of both worlds; my gang bang with none of the guilt. You can even bring in toys for size variation if you wish. My fiancé is well endowed and I love every minute of this fucktastic fantasy! On a side note, this is a fuck ton of work for your man, but I swear you will be screaming his name along with all the others!!