Aphro
Femme du monde
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http://www.purityball.com/
I read this article Purity Balls - America's virginity obsession and was surprised I had never heard about it before.
The photos I honestly find creepy ...particularly the part about "you are married to the Lord and I am your boyfriend"
It would seem to me this sort of an event would guarantee the daughter would have Daddy issues for life.
There are lots of fathers on this board, and many whom I assume have daughters. Depending on whether or not it is age appropriate, what are you telling your girls about sex? Or are you telling them anything at all? Is it something that is up to their mother to do?
Are you the type standing on the porch with a shotgun, ready to drive the boys off the property, or do you inform her about safe sex and birth control, and hope that she makes good decisions? If you found out she had pre-marital sex, would you be disappointed? Angry?
If you have religiously-driven ideas about chastity and pre-marital sex, would you participate in something like a "purity ball"?
The quote by Elizabeth Smart I found particularly poignant, and unbearably sad. To have your entire self-worth tied into your virginity...
I also find it incredibly ironic that there is no similar "purity ball" for the boys...where the father and/or mother stands beside their son and pledges to help him keep his randy dick out of girls until he is legally wed under God.
And what if there is no father around? Do you get a male relative to stand in, or does the mother take over the God-given role of protector-of-the-pussy?
I vividly remember I was a month shy of twenty when I lost my virginity. A couple of weeks later, my mother searched my purse, (it would seem she must have been doing that regularly) and found my birth control pills. She flung them at me, then slapped my face several times and called me a slut. My father raged, and asked me why I didn't "Just use a candle". (WTF? Is that what the women used for dildos back in the olden days?) Neither of them even spoke to me for four months, even though I was still living at home at the time. I had to break up with my boyfriend, or they basically were not letting me back in the house. My 20th birthday came and went with no acknowledgement from them. The kicker was, we were not a religious family - AT ALL. I felt like scum, and they treated me as such. I was told no one would ever want me now that I was "used".
(As it turned out, this really was not a problem at all...oddly enough.)
What happens if she falls off the wagon? Does that mean both of them failed in God's eyes? Or perhaps that is when you then become a Born Again Virgin and are reinstated and suddenly regain your self-worth?
I read this article Purity Balls - America's virginity obsession and was surprised I had never heard about it before.
The photos I honestly find creepy ...particularly the part about "you are married to the Lord and I am your boyfriend"
It would seem to me this sort of an event would guarantee the daughter would have Daddy issues for life. There are lots of fathers on this board, and many whom I assume have daughters. Depending on whether or not it is age appropriate, what are you telling your girls about sex? Or are you telling them anything at all? Is it something that is up to their mother to do?
Are you the type standing on the porch with a shotgun, ready to drive the boys off the property, or do you inform her about safe sex and birth control, and hope that she makes good decisions? If you found out she had pre-marital sex, would you be disappointed? Angry?
If you have religiously-driven ideas about chastity and pre-marital sex, would you participate in something like a "purity ball"?
The quote by Elizabeth Smart I found particularly poignant, and unbearably sad. To have your entire self-worth tied into your virginity...
I also find it incredibly ironic that there is no similar "purity ball" for the boys...where the father and/or mother stands beside their son and pledges to help him keep his randy dick out of girls until he is legally wed under God.
And what if there is no father around? Do you get a male relative to stand in, or does the mother take over the God-given role of protector-of-the-pussy?
I vividly remember I was a month shy of twenty when I lost my virginity. A couple of weeks later, my mother searched my purse, (it would seem she must have been doing that regularly) and found my birth control pills. She flung them at me, then slapped my face several times and called me a slut. My father raged, and asked me why I didn't "Just use a candle". (WTF? Is that what the women used for dildos back in the olden days?
) Neither of them even spoke to me for four months, even though I was still living at home at the time. I had to break up with my boyfriend, or they basically were not letting me back in the house. My 20th birthday came and went with no acknowledgement from them. The kicker was, we were not a religious family - AT ALL. I felt like scum, and they treated me as such. I was told no one would ever want me now that I was "used". (As it turned out, this really was not a problem at all...oddly enough.
)What happens if she falls off the wagon? Does that mean both of them failed in God's eyes? Or perhaps that is when you then become a Born Again Virgin and are reinstated and suddenly regain your self-worth?
