How to seduce an older woman/MILF/Cougar

[young9]

I'm sure this topic has been beaten in the ground for countless number of years but I'm still going to ask. Just like every college guy, we all want to hook up with older women. It's the ultimate sexual fantasy. I, 21, have been wanting to have sex with a much older woman for 4-5 years now. I am a fairly attractive college student who is well hung (7.5in). Now I know that saying I'm well hung is automatically going to push the women away, and I would never say that if I was in the process of hitting on a woman, but I know that once they find out how well hung I am, they will most likely be coming back for more. Not trying to be cocky, but I think that would happen.

I've heard stories of guys my age seducing much older women but have no idea how they do it. It makes me so jealous and frustrated because my sexual "bucket list" will be complete after this happens.

What I am asking is how do I do it? What are the keys or steps to getting in bed with a mature woman?

I'm asking anyone; guys who have successfully done it, women who want to have sex with younger guys, or women who have hooked up with a younger man/are still doing it currently.

Thank y'all very much. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

 

[Privates1stClass]

I've heard stories of guys my age seducing much older women but have no idea how they do it. It makes me so jealous and frustrated because my sexual "bucket list" will be complete after this happens.

What I am asking is how do I do it? What are the keys or steps to getting in bed with a mature woman?

I'm asking anyone; guys who have successfully done it, women who want to have sex with younger guys, or women who have hooked up with a younger man/are still doing it currently.

Thank y'all very much. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

Think about where mature women hang out--spas, hair salons, country clubs, and so on. They volunteer their time at various organizations, and they go on cruises. Be the one guy who happens to be there to assist them.

Don't worry about seducing them--if they're interested in sex, they will seduce you. Just lay back and enjoy it. You're trying too hard.

 

[Trudy57]

Think about where mature women hang out--spas, hair salons, country clubs, and so on. They volunteer their time at various organizations, and they go on cruises. Be the one guy who happens to be there to assist them.

Don't worry about seducing them--if they're interested in sex, they will seduce you. Just lay back and enjoy it. You're trying too hard.

From a 57year old, sexually active, always-keeping-my-eyes-open female, I would say that is really Great advice.

Nothing turns me off faster than some young guy who rhinks he's a stud trying too hard, using corny lines, or being overtly sexual before he even knows my name.

Smile, be pleasant, ask or offer to help me in some way...open a door, offer me a seat, buy me a drink, carry a heavy package....do it with a smile and an attitude that says you expect nothing in return, and you might just be surprised at what happens.

Let me/her bring up the subject of sex. If I'm interested, It'll come up, that's for certain. Relax and enjoy the company and conversation. It may not happen tonight, but if you leave a great impression, the rich experience of sex with a woman of a certain age will happen.

 

[CapnCuddly]

Clearly just copy American Pie.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Just flop your cock out and they'll line up at your door!

Why does everyone think that older women are any different than younger women? Respect is respect, and all women respond to that. While older women may be a bit more selective in their partners, that is not to say that younger men don't have a chance with them. The thing here is, the older the partner you're looking for, the less bullshit that they're likely to put up with and still give you any credence.

 

[Que]

Step one...learn to talk about girls of any age.

Step two....learn to approach and talk to girls of any age.

Step three...get used to a fair amount of rejection as you do step two.

Step four....lose your virginity.

 

[MeekMe]

"Well hung" is useless if you don't know how to use it. Also, in some cases bigger isn't better.

I have no advice for chasing mature pussy, but I figured I'd throw that out there.

 

[LadyVer]

I'm sure this topic has been beaten in the ground for countless number of years but I'm still going to ask. Just like every college guy, we all want to hook up with older women. It's the ultimate sexual fantasy. I, 21, have been wanting to have sex with a much older woman for 4-5 years now. I am a fairly attractive college student who is well hung (7.5in). Now I know that saying I'm well hung is automatically going to push the women away, and I would never say that if I was in the process of hitting on a woman, but I know that once they find out how well hung I am, they will most likely be coming back for more. Not trying to be cocky, but I think that would happen.

I've heard stories of guys my age seducing much older women but have no idea how they do it. It makes me so jealous and frustrated because my sexual "bucket list" will be complete after this happens.

What I am asking is how do I do it? What are the keys or steps to getting in bed with a mature woman?

I'm asking anyone; guys who have successfully done it, women who want to have sex with younger guys, or women who have hooked up with a younger man/are still doing it currently.

Thank y'all very much. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

The first thing I notice about men, especially younger men is how they refer to women. You passed on that one. (Just saying, not applying). You didn't use the term "girls." When I see women being referred to as girls on a thread, it doesn't leave a good impression. It would be as ridiculous as women on a porn site referring to men as "boys," saying they're looking for a boy or boys to play with.

The second thing I've noticed about many younger men is that they have a lot of misconceptions about older women--that because they're older, they supposedly know everything about sex; that they've reached an age where they've achieved mastery over making mistakes and screwing up; have a life free of stress or responsibilities that younger women don't have; have a 24/7 10+ libido that is just waiting for a younger man to push the right button or say the right word. Older women are just as screwed up as everyone else.

The third thing I've noticed on Lit is one second a man can tell you that you are the most beautiful and sexy woman he's ever talked to, and a second later when you don't do what he wants, or say what he wants, suddenly you are now a cold-hearted bitch who is the scum of the earth, a hag, not fit to be on Lit.

Seduction of older women, or being seduced by an older women, is really no different than seduction of women in general. It's all about liking and respecting the woman you're talking to, wanting to get to know her, wanting to have fun with her, caring about her feelings, understanding that when she says she can't do something because of time commitments, it really is about time commitments, not about being mean to someone who usually ends up being an immature jerk.

Your post sounds fine to me. The one thing I would say is that it really doesn't matter about cock size. What's important is what kind of person you are. If you're a decent, intelligent person with a sense of humor, the size of the cock is just an added bonus.

Good luck!

 

[Emerson40]

It certainly seems to be all about the cock with these whippersnappers...

He's not 'trying' to be cocky (Christ on a graham cracker), but he is certain cougarly milfy types will not be able to help themselves and keep coming back, once they see just how undinky his wang is.

Clearly, he just needs to dangle his dingler. Like kitties chasing laser pointers, the wimminz will not be able resist.






Hey look!
It's Lady Ver!

Hi my Good Lady, I hope you had a fantabulous weekend!

 

[LadyVer]

It certainly seems to be all about the cock with these whippersnappers...

He's not 'trying' to be cocky (Christ on a graham cracker), but he is certain cougarly milfy types will not be able to help themselves and keep coming back, once they see just how undinky his wang is.

Clearly, he just needs to dangle his dingler. Like kitties chasing laser pointers, the wimminz will not be able resist.

He's 21, cut him a little slack.

PS If you happen to see any more good Minnie avs, send them my way.



Hey Em, had a nice weekend actually. I was off, which doesn't happen often enough. Hope your weekend was good, too!

 

[Que]

The OP is not 21...he is socially, if not chronologically 14...which is why he needs to learn about girls.

PS the opposite of "guys" is "girls" or historically,"guys" and "dolls", "dames" or "broads", not "women''and DEFINITELY not "Ladies' unless proceeded by "Hey" and sung by the Beastie Boys.

The opposite of "Mature Women" is not "Guys" it is "Men."

 

[LadyVer]

The OP is not 21...he is socially, if not chronologically 14...which is why he needs to learn about girls.

PS the opposite of "guys" is "girls" or historically,"guys" and "dolls", "dames" or "broads", not "women''and DEFINITELY not "Ladies' unless proceeded by "Hey" and sung by the Beastie Boys.

The opposite of "Mature Women" is not "Guys" it is "Men."

"The OP is not 21...he is socially..." Oh really? And "he needs to learn about girls"?

Nothing like an older man trying to put a younger man in his place, or trying to show how much he knows about women. It's so refreshing.

 

[twister947]

Patience. An empty bucket at 21 would be tragic.

 

[lycan_hitch]

Well..i am no veteran.. but a cougar knows what she wants.. and often is able to see what she wants from a guy in one or two sights.. There is no one more seductive and dangerous than a cougar..

 

[LadyVer]

Pmann should have a lot to add to this thread! He's all over the MILFs and cougars of lit. AMIRIGHT?!

LOL Where is the pmann?

 

[young9]

thanks for replying

Hey yall,

Thanks for replying, I wasn't expecting this many replies so quickly! I really appreciate it. I just am trying to get a general idea of how to do and and have learned some great tips so far.

 

[Que]

"The OP is not 21...he is socially..." Oh really? And "he needs to learn about girls"?

Nothing like an older man trying to put a younger man in his place, or trying to show how much he knows about women. It's so refreshing.

Pointing how little he knows about actual women is hardly an attempt at displaying "How much I know about women."

I was pointing out how much I know about 14 year old boys. I don't think I was the only one that came to that conclusion....

You may not be familiar with the American Pie reference, but one could construe that as a suggestion that the OP is of the "One time at band-camp" mentality.

I have no problem that you apparently wanted to take his post seriously and give your thoughtful answer that may help a future actual college student with his crush on a specific woman his senior.

Note that you had no problem with him "baggin' a cougar" (woohoo!); any one will do...

You OK with ageist fetishizing? You gonna be equally helpful If I wanna post "Help me bang hot, young chicks..." ?

'Nothing like' an older-woman copy editor taking a semantics swipe whilst seeing 'nothing wrong' with a post where a full 1/3 is devoted to ridiculous stereotypes of womenin general and the porn driven meme of cougars in particular, and another full third extolling with modest braggadocio the marvels of his seven and a half inch anaconda....

You got something snarky to say to me? You wanna roll your eyes at me? Use the handy quote button or shoot me a pm...If I gave offense and the offended has a point, I might apologize.

I don't do passive aggressive, veiled snark.

Take a misplaced, overly stricture, feminist swipe at me and expect a response.

 

[pfflyerhot]

The first thing I notice about men, especially younger men is how they refer to women. You passed on that one. (Just saying, not applying). You didn't use the term "girls." When I see women being referred to as girls on a thread, it doesn't leave a good impression. It would be as ridiculous as women on a porn site referring to men as "boys," saying they're looking for a boy or boys to play with.

The second thing I've noticed about many younger men is that they have a lot of misconceptions about older women--that because they're older, they supposedly know everything about sex; that they've reached an age where they've achieved mastery over making mistakes and screwing up; have a life free of stress or responsibilities that younger women don't have; have a 24/7 10+ libido that is just waiting for a younger man to push the right button or say the right word. Older women are just as screwed up as everyone else.

The third thing I've noticed on Lit is one second a man can tell you that you are the most beautiful and sexy woman he's ever talked to, and a second later when you don't do what he wants, or say what he wants, suddenly you are now a cold-hearted bitch who is the scum of the earth, a hag, not fit to be on Lit.

Seduction of older women, or being seduced by an older women, is really no different than seduction of women in general. It's all about liking and respecting the woman you're talking to, wanting to get to know her, wanting to have fun with her, caring about her feelings, understanding that when she says she can't do something because of time commitments, it really is about time commitments, not about being mean to someone who usually ends up being an immature jerk.

Your post sounds fine to me. The one thing I would say is that it really doesn't matter about cock size. What's important is what kind of person you are. If you're a decent, intelligent person with a sense of humor, the size of the cock is just an added bonus.
Good luck!

Same.
Thank you, Lady Ver.

 

[LadyVer]

Pointing how little he knows about actual women is hardly an attempt at displaying "How much I know about women."

I was pointing out how much I know about 14 year old boys. I don't think I was the only one that came to that conclusion....

You may not be familiar with the American Pie reference, but one could construe that as a suggestion that the OP is of the "One time at band-camp" mentality.

I have no problem that you apparently wanted to take his post seriously and give your thoughtful answer that may help a future actual college student with his crush on a specific woman his senior.

Note that you had no problem with him "baggin' a cougar" (woohoo!); any one will do...

You OK with ageist fetishizing? You gonna be equally helpful If I wanna post "Help me bang hot, young chicks..." ?

'Nothing like' an older-woman copy editor taking a semantics swipe whilst seeing 'nothing wrong' with a post where a full 1/3 is devoted to ridiculous stereotypes of womenin general and the porn driven meme of cougars in particular, and another full third extolling with modest braggadocio the marvels of his seven and a half inch anaconda....

You got something snarky to say to me? You wanna roll your eyes at me? Use the handy quote button or shoot me a pm...If I gave offense and the offended has a point, I might apologize.

I don't do passive aggressive, veiled snark.

Take a misplaced, overly stricture, feminist swipe at me and expect a response.

1. So, you're now saying your point was strictly how much you know about 14-year-old boys? It doesn't have anything to do with your telling an adult that he's really nothing but a 14-year-old.

2. I think anyone who doesn't know what the American Pie reference meant, would have to be living under a rock. Whether every single younger man who would like to hook up with a MILF correlates to a band camp mentality would depend on the man. And from what I've see on Lit, the op's thread appears more mature than similar threads. And this is a porn site, and the HT forum.

3. So I guess this means you are giving your approval to my taking his post seriously? Why would I need your approval?

4. I have no problem with him "baggin' a cougar" that "anyone will do"? Interesting how you came to that conclusion when I never said that.

5." 'Nothing like' an older-woman copy editor taking a semantics swipe whilst seeing 'nothing wrong' with a post where a full 1/3 is devoted to ridiculous stereotypes of womenin general and the porn driven meme of cougars in particular, and another full third extolling with modest braggadocio the marvels of his seven and a half inch anaconda."

Again, interesting. As an older woman, a copy editor even, how dare I take a "semantics swipe" against the terrible evil being done by MILFs and younger men on a porn driven meme? Do you realize how ridiculous your statements are? First, many of your own comments on Lit are not female friendly. Second, this is a porn site. Snarking a 21 year old for mentioning the size of his cock is just ridiculous. I could understand it if his post had been weird or cheesy. And it wouldn't surprise me if there's a record on Lit somewhere of your cock size or mention of said cock.

6. I don't expect an apology. I don't see my comments as feminist, but you're entitled to your opinion. I think we'll have to disagree about who's passive aggressive here.

I don't want to continue this argument. I think we've both made our points. We'll just have to disagree.

 

[LadyVer]

Same.
Thank you, Lady Ver.

Thank you, pf!

 

[Que]

I could understand it if his post had been weird or cheesy

Yep, we completely disagree.

Understandable...it fed your ego, so it didn't seem weird, or cheesy.

A attractive "man" who at 21 has completed ALL of the trophies on his "sexual bucket list' other then the wily, and elusive cougar...

A man who has had no trouble at all seducing those sophisticated college "women", but until someone told him "go where older women are" and "talk to them like a person" had no idea how to advance towards the goal of "having sex with an older woman"..

Sure hope your sage advice helps him pretend to be interested in an older women convincingly so he can cross that off his bucket list and die happy.

Not develop a worthwhile friendship or association that might one day yield a sexual component...nope, just "have sex with." An older woman. Not anyone in particular. At all.

Perfectly Okey-dokie to objectify a woman in that way as long as she is "older".

Not, hey I have this crush on my professor/neighbor/stifler's mom/co-worker...Nope, any ol' older woman will do..

Cause....as he said,

"Just like every college guy, we all want to hook up with older women. It's the ultimate sexual fantasy"

I hope college girls don't hear about that...they will be sad.

Rude of those more fortunate college mates when they are sitting around the quad bragging about their conquests to not give him some pointers...like "Pretend she is a college WOMAN, just much older...and seduce her as per usual."

Must be so frustrating to have that ultimate fantasy out of your grasp for 5 long years since you were struck with the urge at 16, "like all guys" with that yearn for the "ultimate" prize.

Wonder what the second to last thing he crossed off his sexual bucket list was?

 

[LadyVer]

I reported you for harassment. As far as ego goes, you're the one that seems to be bent out shape. I think if we ig each other, we'll both be happier.

 

[Que]

First, many of your own comments on Lit are not female friendly

This deserved it's own rebuttal...

Really?

Example?

One, single solitary example of a comment that you think was not "female" friendly?

Oh that's right you didn't like the use of the word girl....

Guilty...I find it a great qualifier. Girls that like guys like me tend to find it's use in a playful way connotes a youth and vitality. Ex: "I always fall for the bright girls" or "I get weak in the knees at a girl in a pencil skirt.", "I love a girl that knows her cars."

Surprising to me that as a Woman and a copy editor, you seem unaware that a LOT of strong WOMEN, of feminist stripes and not, take VIGOROUS objection to the use of the human-devoid term 'female' in place of woman, girl or lady.

Surely you can see that it implies that a woman is nothing but her CIS gendered anatomical parts?

Begs the question: "Friendly to a female what?"

P.S. The perpetually youthful 'Minnie" isn't exactly the least youthful of Avatars you could have chosen. I do like her...she is a cute girl.

 

[Que]

I reported you for harassment. As far as ego goes, you're the one that seems to be bent out shape. I think if we ig each other, we'll both be happier.

Kind of presumptive to assume my state of happiness and what it is that might lead to an increase thereof for me, isn't it?

Disagreeing with your snide attack on me for using the word girl in the context of that post is "harrasment?"

Really?

You already have your answer. I ENCOURAGE you to put me on ignore...if my comments that engendered your snarky response at the outset truly offended you I would MUCH rather you not read, nor respond to anything I have to say.

I read fast so I am perfectly happy to read anything you have to say. I am more than capable of separating the wheat from the chaff.

 

[Emerson40]

Query, maybe rein it in a tad. The OP is what, 5 or 6 posts in, total.

Perhaps you are making a mountain out of a 7 -1/2 bulge, yes? Folks 'round these parts share experiences and dole out advice in many shapes and forms, based on their experiences (both in life and Lit) and respond in ways that will differ from yours. Don't take it so personally, and try not to blow things out of proportion.

This thread will fade, and next week there'll be another one started asking about nailing cougars / milfs / midgets / chicks on stilts.

Pace yourself perhaps. You're getting a little squicky with the squicks.

You missin' Drinkz and the sparring or something?