What sexuality?

[Littlefinger]

I'm having a difficult time defining my sexuality, so, I was wondering if someone here could fit a name to it for me?

See, I am sexually attracted to both men and women, men who dress in women's clothes and women who dress and act masculine. I like watching gay porn, both lesbian and gay men together, as well as straight porn. I get sexually aroused and I feel sexually attracted to others.
However, I do not like sexual intercourse. I do not like to be touched in a sexual manner by another person. I've never been abused or raped; it's just a preference where, during sex, I prefer not to focus on me and I find it boring and taxing when the other person tries to. I like to touch but penetration is not my thing. By myself, I have a grand old time but I do not like sharing the experience with others.

What would you call this? I've been timidly calling myself asexual but I'm not really sure if that is accurate. Any help?

 

[LucyH]

I'm having a difficult time defining my sexuality, so, I was wondering if someone here could fit a name to it for me?

See, I am sexually attracted to both men and women, men who dress in women's clothes and women who dress and act masculine. I like watching gay porn, both lesbian and gay men together, as well as straight porn. I get sexually aroused and I feel sexually attracted to others.
However, I do not like sexual intercourse. I do not like to be touched in a sexual manner by another person. I've never been abused or raped; it's just a preference where, during sex, I prefer not to focus on me and I find it boring and taxing when the other person tries to. I like to touch but penetration is not my thing. By myself, I have a grand old time but I do not like sharing the experience with others.

What would you call this? I've been timidly calling myself asexual but I'm not really sure if that is accurate. Any help?

It might be simpler to separate the issue of who you're attracted to from the issue of what you like (or don't like) doing with the people you're attracted to.

 

[GrrlFriday]

There is an identity called 'stone butch', which I've seen defined as a butch lesbian who does not like to be touched, but likes to touch others. (Interestingly enough, a 'stone femme', the assumed partner of the stone butch, is defined as the converse - likes to be touched, but does not touch her partner.)

Another word for something like ' By myself, I have a grand old time but I do not like sharing the experience with others.' might be 'autosexual'.

Hope this at least gets the ball rolling with some ideas.

 

[LucyH]

There is an identity called 'stone butch', which I've seen defined as a butch lesbian who does not like to be touched, but likes to touch others. (Interestingly enough, a 'stone femme', the assumed partner of the stone butch, is defined as the converse - likes to be touched, but does not touch her partner.)

Another word for something like ' By myself, I have a grand old time but I do not like sharing the experience with others.' might be 'autosexual'.

Hope this at least gets the ball rolling with some ideas.

Huh, you taught me something new today, GrrlFriday. I'm not an uncategorized weirdo after all.

*slaps label on self*
"Stone butch lite"

 

[robertreams]

I would define you as a horndog!

 

[Thenewerpenguin]

I've stopped trying to define my sexuality. I'm into so many different things for so many different reasons (as I'm sure most of us here are ). I know I'm probably not being helpful, but how about stifling the need to label everything?

 

[haurni]

Possibly asexual, grey-asexual or demisexual.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I've stopped trying to define my sexuality. I'm into so many different things for so many different reasons (as I'm sure most of us here are ). I know I'm probably not being helpful, but how about stifling the need to label everything?

Labels are very important to human interaction, penguin We are a verbal species, after all, and when we interact with each other, words define those interactions right up untill the action starts-- and then the words start up again right after that. Or after everyone's caught their breath.



Your orientation-- the bit that says who you are attracted to-- might be pansexual.

What you do with your orientation, how you prefer to get with the people you are attracted to, is your sexuality.

"Butch" is an odd one-- it defines your gender (Masculine and more or less female), your orientation (Mostly towards pussy), and your sexuality (mostly on top).

Another word besides "stone butch" is less used but people do know what it means, is "Stone Top."

And, when you're not alone, you're looking for "Pillow princes/ses" :catsmile: