tiny_tits journal and random thoughts

First of all, apologies up front for
(a) not looking back beyond the first few pages for a similar thread
(b) the use of 'girl' instead of woman or female. Somehow, "Bad Woman" doesn't sound quite right.

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I'm looking for tips, tricks and hints for the inhibited or shy woman who needs to learn how to let go. Ideas on how to be a bad girl in the sense of letting go and allowing yourself to enjoy what the world of sex has to offer.

I really feel I have a ways to go. I know its not just as simple as stripping and crawling to him on my hands and knees, or just jumping on the bed naked.

What I'm looking for are hints on being seductive, exciting, erotic.

How about use of sex toys, props, dressing naughty, Kind of a 'how to turn up my personal volume'. But more in a technical sense, rather than discussing my personal self esteem.

So guys, what is a turn on for you in the bedroom?
Girls, what helped you become more exotic / erotic / naughty in the bedroom?

*PS* I am not looking for PM's.
If you respond to this topic by PM, consider this as your response:

Thank you for your reply, but please respond on the thread, so others can agree / add to / disagree.

The question everyone including yourself should be asking here is What turns YOU on? If you don't know, read as many stories here that you have time for. watch porn anything and everything that is remotely stimulating to you, Don't just watch one and say you are not into it as things that totally turn me on are a big bore in some porn for me as they are not done well! Find the things that trip your trigger and play with it. fantasies about it, let your mind tell you what turns it on and if you try it with a lover and its not good, don't blame the fantasy, or even the lover. It could be he or she just is not as into it as you are. We don't learn with out mistakes. we don't grow with out trying. you are doing the right thing by asking! and by the way! Love your body, we do!

Mike
 
With very little hope for an honest straight answer, I'm gonna try anyway.
You will burn in hell for bullshit answers :cool:

Dudes, or Dudettes answering for their Dude:
(1) How many times do you typically cum in one 'night' of sex? (Or sex session- you know what I mean)
(2) what is the typical recovery time?
(3) what activity usually takes place in between?


(1) for me once, that's why I love to give oral a woman can typically cum many more times than a man. so why not let her.
(1)a. a little funny to go along with this. What do a woman and a frying pan have in common? you need to heat them up before you put the meat in. Sorry if that is crude but sometimes it is the only way for guys to get the msg. Guys if you care about her needs more than your own, your needs will always be taken care of and in ways you never thought she would be open to!

(2) if we are both into Porn and we watch something really hot I have been able to cum 5 times in 2 hours. That was 12 years ago but it did happen!

(3) depends on the lover sometimes it is playfulness kissing laughing teasing a nice bath together is always nice. and sometimes when life gets in the way we do what we need to. as much as we would all like to have the fairytale life and love life.
 
Now what I *could* do is wrap a bow around it, say "From <tiny> to <roomie>" then put it *back* in my drawer :rolleyes:

This idea has merit. What if you just left them out. "I have these toys. You know I have these toys. I know you know I have these toys. Now you know I know you know I have these toys. We both have an interest in these toys. Now there can be a dialogue."

Also, is it possible your boyfriend admired/moved them?
 
This idea has merit. What if you just left them out. "I have these toys. You know I have these toys. I know you know I have these toys. Now you know I know you know I have these toys. We both have an interest in these toys. Now there can be a dialogue."

Also, is it possible your boyfriend admired/moved them?

Kevin wasn't around them then.
And I did just what I said.
...and they weren't touched.
 
So you actually tried the bow/note method? I'd be interested in hearing if that eventually evoked any kind of response.

Also, you're super close to 1000 posts. I know you get more PM box space at that point, I think that might also be when you can change your user title from 'Literotica Guru' to whatever you want.
 
So you actually tried the bow/note method? I'd be interested in hearing if that eventually evoked any kind of response.

Also, you're super close to 1000 posts. I know you get more PM box space at that point, I think that might also be when you can change your user title from 'Literotica Guru' to whatever you want.

I guess the 'response' was to not do it again. I finally took the bow off (yes, you know why)

Yea, that's what I need. More PM room :rolleyes:
 
You totally need more PM room.

She may have just not happened to attempt to 'borrow' it in the time period that the bow was on. Or she did, felt embarrassed seeing the bow, and left it/hasn't brought it up to you. Kind of had to know what's going on on her end.
 
You totally need more PM room.

She may have just not happened to attempt to 'borrow' it in the time period that the bow was on. Or she did, felt embarrassed seeing the bow, and left it/hasn't brought it up to you. Kind of had to know what's going on on her end.

Soooo... You would do.... :confused:what:confused:
 
To leave it at that, or to move the toys?


In that case, I guess:
"Hi, I've noticed that you borrowed one of my toys. Please do not do that"
Is the only way to go.

Ya.
It's sooo inconvenient to be in the mood, go find your key, put the key in the hole, turn the key... Yadayadayada
 
Space is a good thing.

The thing that's unclear to me is whether she did it because she's curious about sex toys and too shy to get her own/ask about yours, or if it's just a direct breach of privacy. The former seems more likely. I'd ask her about it and push to see if that's the case. If it is, you can focus on educating her and make the invasion of privacy a secondary point. If it's just her not respecting your boundaries, do your best to amiably set those bounds (you can use my things if you ask, but I'm not comfortable with you going into my room without my knowledge, etc.).
 
First of all...this is a great thread!

Now I haven't read every post, so I'm not sure If I will be repeating anyone but.....

When I was your age I was very much less confident in the bedroom as well. I could barely hold a conversation about certain aspects of sex, like toys and masturbation. (This forum stuff didn't exist then, Much easier now when you have a laptop to hind behind) :)

This confidence develops over time with the right partner. In my early 20's I would barely even own up to masturbating in private. Now, at 41, Im like "Fuck it! You only live once!" And my hub loves this way of thinking. :D This leads to some very exciting spontaneous occurrences. Like on the road :)

tip #1 Be comfortable touching yourself in front of him. If HE loves it than whats there to lose right? Men LOVE to watch this! and mutual masturbation sessions are fun and hot as hell!

tip #2 When giving oral pleasure, don't act like its a chore. Embrace it. Focus on what you are doing and how he is responding. Learn and study every centimeter of his parts. Tell him how much you love pleasuring him; how good he looks, smells, tastes. Ask him for feedback here. It's not so much about technique as it is the enthusiasm of the giver.

tip #3 Give that same feedback when you're on the receiving end.

tip #4 Go toy shopping together. Find a couple simple things to start with that can give you both pleasure.

tip #5 Chat about it in a slightly distracted place, like in the car....sometimes that can ease the conversation.
 
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