tiny_tits journal and random thoughts

[tiny_tits]

You could try sending her a link to something that talks about STDs from shared toy use... in an 'I was on the weird side of google and I found this' kind of a way.

There's a risk it could backfire, and she could spread rumours about you having an STD, but you can always say 'I was really surprised about finding this out, and I thought more women should know - I'm a bit of a geek about this stuff, cos I feel like I should be responsible.'

http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/chlamydia-sex-toys - Go Ask Alice
http://publichealth.lacounty.gov/dhsp/Lesbian-Bisexual.htm - LA County department of Public Health

Grabbing the hand sanitizer....

 

[GrrlFriday]

Unfortunately, alcohol-free hand sanitisers themselves can have some pretty nasty chemicals in them... A lot of toys can be cleaned with mild soap and water.

 

[Cumference]

Hahaha
Just got PM ' put cayenne pepper on it'

That was my first thought too.

But not cayenne. Put on a pair of rubber gloves, cut a Habanero in half an use it like a little stamp to mark the toy.

...... Make a very good mental note, of which one you marked.



Or you could just buy one of the creative ones made by "Bad Dragon" and place it topmost in the toy drawer.

A dragon's pecker the size of a forearm should surprise her.



(Apart from that, borrowing other peoples property without having an agreement about it, is what I consider to be really bad style. Especially when it is "private items" like toys)

 

[Cumference]

Double post, sorry!

 

[tiny_tits]

That was my first thought too.

But not cayenne. Put on a pair of rubber gloves, cut a Habanero in half an use it like a little stamp to mark the toy.

...... Make a very good mental note, of which one you marked.



Or you could just buy one of the creative ones made by "Bad Dragon" and place it topmost in the toy drawer.

A dragon's pecker the size of a forearm should surprise her.



(Apart from that, borrowing other peoples property without having an agreement about it, is what I consider to be really bad style. Especially when it is "private items" like toys)

Its one in particular. And I don't wanna stir things up.

 

[Cumference]

Its one in particular. And I don't wanna stir things up.

If it is not worth the fight, just move them to a locked drawer.

It will be a totally non-aggressive act.... And still make the message clear.

 

[buckboy]

Masturbation is a deeply personal and exciting thing. That others are interested is a layer we all share here on lit especially. Buy her one with love, we all benefit from acts of kindness. Having compassion evolves our humanity. Conversations with friends can be the hardest and most rewarding we can have in our life. Friends rarely explore things at exactly the same time but help guide each other and support each other as we grow. Perhaps you will gain a greater friendship and understanding. You certainly have experience now with sharibg. : ) Good Luck, and Love!

 

[ZenPretzel]

Or you could just buy one of the creative ones made by "Bad Dragon" and place it topmost in the toy drawer.

A dragon's pecker the size of a forearm should surprise her.



Had to go look up Bad Dragon.... wow. Just.... wow. Still trying to decide if I would be incredibly shocked, or incredibly turned on.

Likely the latter.

 

[elite2013]

Fake positive std clinic letter?

 

[tiny_tits]

Fake positive std clinic letter?

Oh yes.

Much better to have everyone think I'm diseased than to let her use my dildo

 

[Aphro]

They do sell locked boxes for sex toys...something you need once you have children around.

http://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_kw=Locking+Adult+Toy+Box+Sex

 

[Paul_Chance]

It's not a bad idea to have a lock box in general in a shared housing situation.

 

[tiny_tits]

They do sell locked boxes for sex toys...something you need once you have children around.

http://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_kw=Locking+Adult+Toy+Box+Sex

I'm gonna do it

 

[tiny_tits]

Masturbation is a deeply personal and exciting thing. That others are interested is a layer we all share here on lit especially. Buy her one with love, we all benefit from acts of kindness. Having compassion evolves our humanity. Conversations with friends can be the hardest and most rewarding we can have in our life. Friends rarely explore things at exactly the same time but help guide each other and support each other as we grow. Perhaps you will gain a greater friendship and understanding. You certainly have experience now with sharibg. : ) Good Luck, and Love!

Wow BB- that was nice.

If you were going to open this conversation, how would you do it?
I mean, there is still the issue of privacy, and I think that needs to be addressed, don't you?

But I still want to preserve our friendship.

 

[Que]

This is weirdly hot in a plot-sense and just icky knowing it has happened to someone I feel I know in the way we tend to feel we "know" a favorite celebrity...

#conflicted.

The whole thing has such a weird vibe.

If you didn't KNOW she was the kind of person that would a) invade your space after inviting you to move there, and b) use something so personal.

Would she have been a potential playmate?

I am in my mind conflating Airka4real's saga with a roomate with yours and wanting a fun happy, kinky outcome...

hmm

Wow BB- that was nice.

If you were going to open this conversation, how would you do it?
I mean, there is still the issue of privacy, and I think that needs to be addressed, don't you?

But I still want to preserve our friendship.

I don't think the privacy part of this can be "addressed' effectively. This person lacks boundaries, and you can't instill them now I suspect.

If you do as he suggested and generously buy her one that in and of itself IS a conversation of sorts...., if she has a conscience surely she will blush, maybe apologize, and maybe give you privacy in the future.

I think you have to assume going forward you DON'T have privacy, and limit what you leave available, ie unlocked phone, computer, papers, mementos...

 

[Cumference]

By the way:
Are you sure that it has been used, and not just admired?

 

[tiny_tits]

This is weirdly hot in a plot-sense and just icky knowing it has happened to someone I feel I know in the way we tend to feel we "know" a favorite celebrity...

#conflicted.

The whole thing has such a weird vibe.

If you didn't KNOW she was the kind of person that would a) invade your space after inviting you to move there, and b) use something so personal.

Would she have been a potential playmate?

I am in my mind conflating Airka4real's saga with a roomate with yours and wanting a fun happy, kinky outcome...

hmm



I don't think the privacy part of this can be "addressed' effectively. This person lacks boundaries, and you can't instill them now I suspect.

If you do as he suggested and generously buy her one that in and of itself IS a conversation of sorts...., if she has a conscience surely she will blush, maybe apologize, and maybe give you privacy in the future.

I think you have to assume going forward you DON'T have privacy, and limit what you leave available, ie unlocked phone, computer, papers, mementos...

(1) Potential Playmate? No. Would you kiss your brother? She is like a sister to me.

(2) Instilling boundaries: I'd like to think it isn't too late.

(3) Assuming: I agree.

 

[tiny_tits]

By the way:
Are you sure that it has been used, and not just admired?

No, I'm not sure. But admired twice

 

[buckboy]

I think sex and sensibility are one of the weirdest weaves culture has..it works like oil and vinegar which universally works on sandwhiches and salads and little else. It seems like people will do things sexually that don't apply to anything else in their lives so they share it with very few trusted or loved individuals. That said, if you have a good friendship I imagine her sexual curiousity might trump her sensibility to privacy only in this case and she feels close enough to you to violate this one thing because she is too shy to do it in a better way. So if you can leave the privacy issue out of it, lock your things as your own lesson and look at a 'toy' site together.

 

[tiny_tits]

I think sex and sensibility are one of the weirdest weaves culture has..it works like oil and vinegar which universally works on sandwhiches and salads and little else. It seems like people will do things sexually that don't apply to anything else in their lives so they share it with very few trusted or loved individuals. That said, if you have a good friendship I imagine her sexual curiousity might trump her sensibility to privacy only in this case and she feels close enough to you to violate this one thing because she is too shy to do it in a better way. So if you can leave the privacy issue out of it, lock your things as your own lesson and look at a 'toy' site together.

She isn't what I would call the shy type.
She is on the small size, and cute, but (as a bartender) if she tells you to back off, you back off.

 

[Tyrus]

Maybe an easy way to bring up the issues without actually calling her out would be like this...You starting a conversation about a particular toy and tell her how amazing it is and say....Maybe I should buy you one to try...Drop it after that and actually buy her one and tell her you want to know if she likes it as much as you liked it...

You avoided the confrontation.....hopefully having one of her own will keep her away from yours...You only out the cost of the toy and kept it confidential to avoid embarrassment....

 

[tiny_tits]

Maybe an easy way to bring up the issues without actually calling her out would be like this...You starting a conversation about a particular toy and tell her how amazing it is and say....Maybe I should buy you one to try...Drop it after that and actually buy her one and tell her you want to know if she likes it as much as you liked it...

You avoided the confrontation.....hopefully having one of her own will keep her away from yours...You only out the cost of the toy and kept it confidential to avoid embarrassment....

Thing is, as easy as talking about masturbation is here, I never have talked about it IRL (and my friends don't either)

 

[buckboy]

Yes, I understand that violation of privacy and masturbation are both very personal subjects. Unless it is because they are your toys that she enjoys them then her own toy would likely solve the privacy issue. Since one topic is less vioating then the other you might just pick the self pleasure topic, 'grab your tits and jump' into getting her a toy to avoid the less pleasant topic of snooping as that one seems especially awkward.

 

[tiny_tits]

Yes, I understand that violation of privacy and masturbation are both very personal subjects. Unless it is because they are your toys that she enjoys them then her own toy would likely solve the privacy issue. Since one topic is less vioating then the other you might just pick the self pleasure topic, 'grab your tits and jump' into getting her a toy to avoid the less pleasant topic of snooping as that one seems especially awkward.

Now what I *could* do is wrap a bow around it, say "From <tiny> to <roomie>" then put it *back* in my drawer

 

[buckboy]

That is awesome, and kind!