Does any other women feel that...

[Eastcoast1956]

I wonder if any other women feel betrayed when their husband has sex with other women after the woman has betrayed him.
Husband found out that i had been having sex with other men for years, so he decides to move us out west, it is very isolated there.When my sister came to help us move, she had found out what I had done. When we were traveling cross country we stopped for the night for two nights, she asked why we needed two rooms and stayed in ours, The first night, My husband took his shower and then my sister. I was too keyed up, so I went out to a club down the street and went dancing, when I came back to the room i heard my sister sot of crying out. I walked in and her and my husband were on on the bed she is on her hands and knees, with my husband fucking her from behind.
I started yelling that this was unacceptable and they answered that I had been doing this with other men for years. That i could not say anything.
Would other women feel betrayed.

 

[vibes]

Does it make a difference that he did it with your sister?

 

[Verycurious18]

I wonder if any other women feel betrayed when their husband has sex with other women after the woman has betrayed him.
Husband found out that i had been having sex with other men for years, so he decides to move us out west, it is very isolated there.When my sister came to help us move, she had found out what I had done. When we were traveling cross country we stopped for the night for two nights, she asked why we needed two rooms and stayed in ours, The first night, My husband took his shower and then my sister. I was too keyed up, so I went out to a club down the street and went dancing, when I came back to the room i heard my sister sot of crying out. I walked in and her and my husband were on on the bed she is on her hands and knees, with my husband fucking her from behind.
I started yelling that this was unacceptable and they answered that I had been doing this with other men for years. That i could not say anything.
Would other women feel betrayed.

To some degree yes I would be. Not saying that an eye for an eye is always right and I would have wished said person would have discussed it with me first.

I do understand your betrayal, not only did he betray you but your sister did as well. Both of them using the excuse that you did it before is pathetic in my eyes. Just because you were unfaithful at some point doesn't give him the right to do so as well. If he wanted to cheat because you did he should have say you down and had a discussion about how he felt and how to move on.

No offense but in my eyes they are both acting like pathetic scum! I would personally sit them down and have a talk about your feelings with both of them and different times. Make things clear with both of them as well. ( yes easier said and done, but if to dot nip it in the bud it could get way out of hand)

My sincerest apologies that this happened to you, we all know Karmas a bitch but regardless his an her actions were not right. I hope for everyone's sake that things get worked out! Good luck!

 

[twister947]

You are a cuckold's dream. Except, that doesn't appear to be his kink.

Feel betrayed all you want to, but you set this table.

 

[bps]

You are a cuckold's dream. Except, that doesn't appear to be his kink.

Feel betrayed all you want to, but you set this table.

yup to this. you opened the door. don't expect a thoughtfully calibrated response, or even a timely one when you've hurt someone.

 

[RedAllan]

When you went out dancing would you have screwed another guy if you had scored?

 

[Hans101]

Fidelity for thee but not for me?

You can't expect him to uphold his end of the bargain when you haven't upheld yours.

 

[policywank]

To some degree yes I would be. Not saying that an eye for an eye is always right and I would have wished said person would have discussed it with me first.

I do understand your betrayal, not only did he betray you but your sister did as well. Both of them using the excuse that you did it before is pathetic in my eyes. Just because you were unfaithful at some point doesn't give him the right to do so as well. If he wanted to cheat because you did he should have say you down and had a discussion about how he felt and how to move on.

No offense but in my eyes they are both acting like pathetic scum! I would personally sit them down and have a talk about your feelings with both of them and different times. Make things clear with both of them as well. ( yes easier said and done, but if to dot nip it in the bud it could get way out of hand)

My sincerest apologies that this happened to you, we all know Karmas a bitch but regardless his an her actions were not right. I hope for everyone's sake that things get worked out! Good luck!

We don't control how we feel. If you feel betrayed, you can't will yourself not to feel that way.

However, we can control how we respond to our feelings. Based upon what you have said you know damn well that you don't have a leg to stand on. As the person who has clearly done the most cheating it is pretty rich to get angry and I don't buy the idea that your sister's involvement somehow crosses a different line than you yourself have already crossed.

Presumably he is still with you because he forgave you.

Don't deny your feelings but deal with them through forgiveness, not retribution.

 

[BradBigBrain]

I wonder if any other women feel betrayed when their husband has sex with other women after the woman has betrayed him.
Husband found out that i had been having sex with other men for years, so he decides to move us out west, it is very isolated there.When my sister came to help us move, she had found out what I had done. When we were traveling cross country we stopped for the night for two nights, she asked why we needed two rooms and stayed in ours, The first night, My husband took his shower and then my sister. I was too keyed up, so I went out to a club down the street and went dancing, when I came back to the room i heard my sister sot of crying out. I walked in and her and my husband were on on the bed she is on her hands and knees, with my husband fucking her from behind.
I started yelling that this was unacceptable and they answered that I had been doing this with other men for years. That i could not say anything.
Would other women feel betrayed.

Dear Penthouse Forum,

I never thought that this would happen to me....

 

[DirtyAllie]

If you were having sex behind his back(which it sounds like) you can feel betrayed all you want, you can't control your feelings.

But the only way to say it is, "how's it feel?" you betrayed his trust and now that he has decided to go out and do the same, he's betraying you?

In fact if I read correctly at least he had sex with your sister when it was "over" you said he was moving out west and no longer sleeping with you.

On another note, I think I would feel betrayed by my sister. That was a little low on her part. I could understand him being upset to the point he would try to really "stick it to you" by doing your sis, but on her end it was kind of shitty.

 

[jimliterotica]

I see this happen all the time. When a sibling cheats on a spouse, this sibling feels sorry for the innocent spouse. They spend time comforting. They often end up having sex. It is not their fault. If you didn't have an affair, this would not happen. You caused them to be together.

 

[funny215]

If you were having sex behind his back(which it sounds like) you can feel betrayed all you want, you can't control your feelings.

But the only way to say it is, "how's it feel?" you betrayed his trust and now that he has decided to go out and do the same, he's betraying you?

In fact if I read correctly at least he had sex with your sister when it was "over" you said he was moving out west and no longer sleeping with you.

On another note, I think I would feel betrayed by my sister. That was a little low on her part. I could understand him being upset to the point he would try to really "stick it to you" by doing your sis, but on her end it was kind of shitty.

i agree with this completely, yes

 

[bootsnz84]

Hmmm whats that old saying... Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
In other words your husband would most likely have stayed faithful if you had to.
Put yourself in his shoes you stated men..Not a nice feeling to be on the other side.
Your sister should be the one feeling shitty she helped make sure there would be no turning back.

 

[policywank]

If you were having sex behind his back(which it sounds like) you can feel betrayed all you want, you can't control your feelings.

But the only way to say it is, "how's it feel?" you betrayed his trust and now that he has decided to go out and do the same, he's betraying you?

In fact if I read correctly at least he had sex with your sister when it was "over" you said he was moving out west and no longer sleeping with you.

On another note, I think I would feel betrayed by my sister. That was a little low on her part. I could understand him being upset to the point he would try to really "stick it to you" by doing your sis, but on her end it was kind of shitty.

Imagine you see your sibling bullying and abusing another person. Sibling or not you know they are in the wrong and you know they are causing serious harm. Finally the assault ceases and you can see the victim is badly beaten and you know you can help. Would you not help for fear of betraying your sibling?

Emotional wounds are often worse than physical ones. Maybe all the sister was doing was applying a few bandages? Maybe expecting her to be complicit in your appalling behaviour is a new low?

 

[Dirtymind65]

You have both been in each other's shoes. Although the sister part added a new dimension. Something similar happened to me. Not with my wife's sister though. Not easy to get over.

 

[TJReilly]

Sounds like you got you just reward. Maybe you and your husband should have a long talk about what you want to do with your future together, if you even have a future together. When you build a relationship on lies, this is what happens. You'll find no pity here.

Maybe with your next husband, you can try being honest. I doubt either one of you can get past him screwing your sister, unless both of you want to get over your selfishness and make it a regular thing. The problem isn't that *both* of you have been screwing around, the problem is that you have been lying about it. Do you really think your sister is the first time he has been with a woman other than you?

 

[panty_aussie]

I think that two wrongs dont make it right


If this is real but then i look at it if was me being cheated on like that theni would like to get some revenge on them

I think its human nature

 

[littlecordelera]

You should be elated with your husband. Up until the point he cheated, he held all the cards. Now he doesn't hold any. I would thank him.

Your sister betrayed you. If she were my sister, I would cut her out of my life, and I (we) don't even practice monogamy.

 

[TwistedJenn]

Ehhh I would have to say the old saying "what's good for the goose is good for the gander" applies here.

 

[Dirtymind65]

From the way the post is written apparently it's only unacceptable if he does it.

 

[Wildcat445]

There's a part of me that thinks if I were in that situation (me being the one cheated on), I would not stoop to their level and do the same myself simply to get revenge. My own "revenge" would be to stay faithful, and set the example.

Yet there is also the temptation angle. Let's face it--one woman, one man, left alone. We don't know the whole story from everyone's point of view, but I know even if my S.O. had NOT cheated, but had left the room for awhile, and her sister and I had flirted in the past, it would lead to an awkward and potentially troublesome situation. We're talking about staying in a single room, the wife leaves, husband and sister-in-law showering, one or both wrapped in a towel afterward...it's a recipe for "we're frisky, let's have a little quick fun, nobody will know." In other words, it might not have been solely about revenge. Yet caught red handed, they naturally shift the blame to the injured party, or justify their infidelities by using the behavior of the injured party as having set the example.

I'm not implying the OP was wrong in any way about what happened, but the idea of temptation and lust can be a factor in this. I know I'd have those same feeling stirring inside me if I were married and left alone with another woman in the same hotel room. It's whether or not I acted on those impulses that makes me who I am.

 

[BiTodd]

I want to meet your sister.......

 

[LadyVer]

I wonder if any other women feel betrayed when their husband has sex with other women after the woman has betrayed him.
Husband found out that i had been having sex with other men for years, so he decides to move us out west, it is very isolated there.When my sister came to help us move, she had found out what I had done. When we were traveling cross country we stopped for the night for two nights, she asked why we needed two rooms and stayed in ours, The first night, My husband took his shower and then my sister. I was too keyed up, so I went out to a club down the street and went dancing, when I came back to the room i heard my sister sot of crying out. I walked in and her and my husband were on on the bed she is on her hands and knees, with my husband fucking her from behind.
I started yelling that this was unacceptable and they answered that I had been doing this with other men for years. That i could not say anything.
Would other women feel betrayed.

This entire story is ridiculous. You screw around on your hub for years, you leave your hub and sis alone in a hotel room while you go dancing after your hub finds out about your cheating, then you want to know if other women would feel betrayed when their sis and hub have sex. I'd be more concerned about hub's feelings of betrayal and rage.

 

[TwistedJenn]

I agree^

 

[Dirtymind65]

After what happened and trying to stay together I guess. Why go to a club and dancing alone? I would imagine I would be trying repair my marriage.