Top Drop

[Sweetdaisymae]

There is an awful lot written about sub drop, but what about Top drop?
Does anyone have any info and how to counter it if and when it happens please?

 

[Primalex]

There is an awful lot written about sub drop, but what about Top drop?
Does anyone have any info and how to counter it if and when it happens please?

Isn't this called midlife crisis?

 

[BiBunny]

Isn't this called midlife crisis?

Only if there's a red Corvette convertible involved.

 

[Primalex]

So you are being mean to me

 

[Primalex]

Anyway, to be slightly more helpful:

Nope, never had it. Way too egoistic and content to suffer from it.

 

[midwestyankee]

Only if there's a red Corvette convertible involved.

So a Ferrari doesn't count? How cool is that!

 

[leatherleaf]

There is an awful lot written about sub drop, but what about Top drop?
Does anyone have any info and how to counter it if and when it happens please?

I get it bad.

I feel very depressed about two days after a scene.

I literally need to be squeezed. If I could find something heavy I would lay it on me. I'm not exaggerating.

I would figure it affects everyone differently. So I'd guess as long as you are in tune with your body and mind and what it needs just make sure you get that.

J

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Isn't this called midlife crisis?

I'm glad that you are finally admitting to it, I had my suspicions, but thanks for the confirmation.

I get it bad.
I feel very depressed about two days after a scene.

I literally need to be squeezed. If I could find something heavy I would lay it on me. I'm not exaggerating.

I would figure it affects everyone differently. So I'd guess as long as you are in tune with your body and mind and what it needs just make sure you get that.

J

That's really interesting, you need a physical, almost sensory overload to counter it.
Thanks

 

[leatherleaf]

That's really interesting, you need a physical, almost sensory overload to counter it.
Thanks

No problem. Never really thought about it like that but yeah that makes sense.

I always equated it to having a really bad wound and needing it held together to heal. Kind of like bleeding from the soul.

 

[BiBunny]

So a Ferrari doesn't count? How cool is that!

Totally counts. Anything remotely muscle/sports car-ish in the Corvette price range and up = "midlife crisis."


Ok, I'll stop hijacking now. Back to your regularly scheduled thread.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

No problem. Never really thought about it like that but yeah that makes sense.

I always equated it to having a really bad wound and needing it held together to heal. Kind of like bleeding from the soul.

It might be helpful to google/look into weighted blankets if you are not familiar with them. They feel incredibly grounding. There are even lots of DIY stuff out there as well if you are more crafty.

 

[leatherleaf]

It might be helpful to google/look into weighted blankets if you are not familiar with them. They feel incredible grounding. There are even lots of DIY stuff out there as well if you are more crafty.

I will look into that. Thank you!

 

[Stella_Omega]

It might be helpful to google/look into weighted blankets if you are not familiar with them. They feel incredible grounding. There are even lots of DIY stuff out there as well if you are more crafty.

I was going to say the same.

Regarding Top Drop, it seems to leave me feeling hollow if I expend all of my energy on someone who cannot send any energy back my way...

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

I was going to say the same.

Regarding Top Drop, it seems to leave me feeling hollow if I expend all of my energy on someone who cannot send any energy back my way...

That almost sounds like you are having a "why the fuck did I give so much of me?" type reaction, in a sub role I have had similar feeling, when a Dom (how did I ever let that sucker get past my defences) promised the earth, and delivered non con that was bordering on abuse. The drop was huge.

Do you ever get it when your partner gives masses of positive energy back?
Has anything you have tried helped to lift it?

 

[KlaytonFrost]

I'm pretty in control of my emotions - so all I usually feel is physically tired afterwards.

Sometimes if it's been an unsatisfying scene I do feel a bit put out, but it's very mild. As you say a sort of "well that was a waste of time" kind of reaction.

 

[Backdoorwhore]

A couple days after I have a session I get a little sensitive in regards to what my bf says and I feel more more emotional.

 

[RoseLeaf]

I don't know ...

...what is sub drop?

 

[Relentless0ne]

To outline the condition known as sub space - sub drop and,or Dom space - Dom drop..........one can read here.

http://chicomunch.com/publ/basic_in..._and_sub_drop_and_sometimes_top_drop/1-1-0-23

The withdrawal from the mental chemical dump that ceased after intense scene play can be debilitating. I have 1st hand experience both short term and long term drop syndromes. It can very well be derailing to the point of getting in the way of functioning normally at work, as well as causing family conflicts, issues, ect.

Takes a while to come out of the haze. What works best in the fallout of said withdrawals is person-specific IMO. I.E. Everyone has to find their own cure.

What I'd strongly suggest against is self-medicating with other potentially addictive substances. Reality escapes don't serve a useful purpose, and do pave the way to clinical addiction.