So my new friend is into having his balls hurt

[girl4use]

Okay I am in the very early stages of dating a guy who likes to have his testicles hurt. I have zero experience in this area and I am a very gentle person by nature. We haven't had sex yet, but if we do, I am sure he will want to incorporate this early on. I am GGG, but I'd like to know your experiences. I am sure he will help me know what works for him, but I like to be prepared.

Thanks

 

[tkinsc]

You could try some light squeezing, some gentle tugging, and some soft slaps. From his reaction you should be able to tell what he likes and if he wants some more.

 

[FGB]

OWWW!

 

[NippleMuncher]

This is something that you're totally going to have to get from him, as most men protect the family jewels from such things. I recommend at least one, if not several, conversations OUTSIDE of the bedroom about what it is he expects and wants, and how to go about providing it for him.

Until then, you could look up vids about CBT (cock and ball torture ) for some general ideas, but again, make sure he tells you what he wants/needs/expects.

 

[Cathleen]

Ask him about his experiences, the basics of what and how. Ask him to show you what and how too. We have to be able to teach someone about our likes/preferences, most especially when it involves things of which we're unsure.

 

[NightL]

I had a partner who got off on pain - total mind fuck for me - in a bad way - but I was very deeply in love with this person. While my brain screamed NO I realised I was providing something that was craved. Would I spend hours giving to a partner - totally yes, so in the end this is how I looked at it. I never got a kick out of the giving - but I did get a kick out of how it was being received. As Rainshine mentioned communication is totally the key early on. "More? Harder?" etc

We caught up years later for a one night reminisce and I just switched straight back into what I knew was wanted. I felt like an observer - not my thing - but damn did they get off on it.

 

[Joeknoxville]

Don't worry about it. He'll let you know what you should do and how hard you should do it when the time comes.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

With people things are never what they seem, and COMMUNICATION is always the process of deciphering the real meanings of words and actions. Be alert for confounding.

I'm retired from psychology, and it was only recently that I discovered how females constantly signal the world for sexual partners. Most of the time its scouting rather than hunting. They wanna know who's interested and who's easy prey. Guys fuck up when they confuse scouting for a romantic assault, or ignore real sexual provocations.

 

[NightL]

Jim, this is not about you.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Okay I am in the very early stages of dating a guy who likes to have his testicles hurt. I have zero experience in this area and I am a very gentle person by nature. We haven't had sex yet, but if we do, I am sure he will want to incorporate this early on. I am GGG, but I'd like to know your experiences. I am sure he will help me know what works for him, but I like to be prepared.

Thanks

You might consider asking this over on the BDSM board too. Like the others have said, he can tell you what he likes, but it'd also be worth knowing what you can and can't do without risking permanent damage.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Jim, this is not about you, its about the delicious thrill I get busting balls or even thinking about busting balls. Gotta go.

Have fun.

 

[twister947]

I like pain, and I like a certain amount of ball pain. I said, a certain amount. There's a line there, a do not cross line...like others have said, communicate.

I do not favor modeling on porn. Porn is porn. It is not instructional. It is stuntfucking. Don't try that shit at home.

 

[Eilan]

Don't worry about it. He'll let you know what you should do and how hard you should do it when the time comes.

Yup. I agree. Been there, done that.

 

[Aphro]

With people things are never what they seem, and COMMUNICATION is always the process of deciphering the real meanings of words and actions. Be alert for confounding.

I'm retired from psychology, and it was only recently that I discovered how females constantly signal the world for sexual partners. Most of the time its scouting rather than hunting. They wanna know who's interested and who's easy prey. Guys fuck up when they confuse scouting for a romantic assault, or ignore real sexual provocations.

Sometimes, it's hunting...

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[chillywilly2]

Just grab his balls and squeeze till he tears up

 

[girl4use]

Thanks for the advice encouragement. I'm sure he will let me know what pleases him.

At first I was freaked out, but I love giving my partner pleasure so I just had to adjust my thinking a little. He seems to be as eager to please me as I am him.

 

[Leigh81]

Ask him what the capital of Thailand is.
When he says he doesn't know, then you punch him and yell Bangkok!!!

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