Sad news to report

[MzChrista]

I am not sure how this two boards deal works, so I apologize if this is not appropriate here, I posted this also in the Old Gang thread.

For those of you who were here in the very early days of this board, I am sad to tell you that the man who posted here by the name James Blandings died a few weeks ago from a pulmonary embolism.He was a moderator here back in the day.

I wasn't sure if he would want me to put a notice here. When he left he left for good. But, when he was here, he loved this joint and put his soul into helping people here.

If you remember me at all, I was the tough litle bitch of the board. Well, this tough little bitch has a broken heart.

He was my best friend and the best person I ever met in my life. When I was young loud and snotty, as they say, and thought I knew all the deals, he took me in and taught me the REAL deal, not just about Bdsm but about life. He got me out of trouble more times than I can count. He got me into trouble a few times too, but that's what friends are for, I guess. People used to make jokes that he tamed me. He would tell them that he pulled a thorn out of my paw when I was a pup. Hahaha.

I wish I had been there at the end, but it happened all of a sudden. At least he was with the love of his life, who some may remember as Mistress Respendent Cybele. And I introduced them, so I got that on my balance sheet.

If you didn't know him, do yourself a favor and look up some of his old posts. Dude knew fucking everything about Bdsm.

He liked Guinness, so if you knew him, knock one back and remember.

 

[Loverskitten]

Sorry for your loss

 

[IrisAlthea]

I remember reading posts by him when I first found this place and dvoured old library threads.
I'm sorry for your loss!

 

[CutieMouse]

I remember him, and always enjoyed reading things he'd written on the boards. I'm so very very sorry for your loss.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I remember James. In fact I went the other day, as I sometimes do, into the Library and picked a thread at random to review, and amongst the contributions to it were several by James Blandings, and I remembered having felt, "way back when," that he was a wise and giving person. His wisdom has been missed since he left the forum, as I'm sure his real-life contributions will be missed.

I'm sorry for your loss, and the loss of all those close to him

 

[MzChrista]

You guys are kind. Thank you.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I'm sorry you have this hole in your heart. He sounds like a once-in-a-lifetime friend.

 

[DVS]

It's perfectly appropriate to post this here. Like you said, I don't know how James would have liked it. If I remember correctly, he could rub a few regulars the wrong way. But, he just offered his opinion and was never rude. It was others that were rude.

I didn't know him that well, but I remember some friends of mine liked him a lot. One in particular, if I could remember her name. She left the forum, too.

I know we all die, but it's always sad to hear someone you knew even a little has passed. I can only hope he was happy when he died and satisfied with how he had lived his life.

 

[TwoShades]

I am sorry for your loss.

It sounds like he was an integral part of making this the wonderful place it is.

I will do the only thing I can to honour him and raise a Guinness to him today.

 

[MzChrista]

It's perfectly appropriate to post this here. Like you said, I don't know how James would have liked it. If I remember correctly, he could rub a few regulars the wrong way. But, he just offered his opinion and was never rude. It was others that were rude.

I didn't know him that well, but I remember some friends of mine liked him a lot. One in particular, if I could remember her name. She left the forum, too.

I know we all die, but it's always sad to hear someone you knew even a little has passed. I can only hope he was happy when he died and satisfied with how he had lived his life.

Thanks, dude.

He lived the life he wanted to live. I think anybody who does that goes out on top.

 

[MzChrista]

I am sorry for your loss.

It sounds like he was an integral part of making this the wonderful place it is.

I will do the only thing I can to honour him and raise a Guinness to him today.

Appreciated.

This old joint did turn out all right after all.

 

[navarre]

May his memory be eternal.

 

[FurryFury]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[dreamykitten2]

I didn't know him but..........

He sounds like a person I'm inspired to be !!! I will look up his writings and I hope u draw comfort from knowing how much his influence will live on! Finding a friend like that is rare! Be glad u had him for the length of time u did but know he lives on in your memories forever! I'm truly sorry for your loss!
Kitten

 

[MzChrista]

He sounds like a person I'm inspired to be !!! I will look up his writings and I hope u draw comfort from knowing how much his influence will live on! Finding a friend like that is rare! Be glad u had him for the length of time u did but know he lives on in your memories forever! I'm truly sorry for your loss!
Kitten

When I was young and even more obnoxious, I worked as a pro dom, but it was a sleezy situation and me and the other girls who worked at the place had no thoughts about anything but that there were men who would pay to get tied up or spanked or whatever. We had no respect for them, we thought they were pathetic fucking losers.

Then I had one guy who told me that if I would go with him to a party he would pay me some big bank. I didn't even know there were parties like that.

So I went with him and there were all these people doing all these crazy things with each other and it blew my mind. But, like I said, I was pretty stupid about it and I acted like a dick. They probably wouldn't have even let me come back but there was one guy there, called himself James Blandings, like Cary Grant in the movie Mr Blandings builds His DreamHouse.
And he took me aside, and without being an asshole about it, told me what was expected. And he was very smart and knowledgeable and I was really impressed with him.

The next month I wanted to go to the party again and they told me that after you come the first time as a guest, you have to get accepted as a member of the club to come again, and so you have to have a meeting to be approved. So, ok, they tell me go to such and such coffeehouse for a meeting. And I get there, and it's just me and JB. And we sat there and talked for hours. I guess you would say he became my mentor. And not just on kink, but music and books and politics, you name it.

Thanks to everyone who has had kind things to say.