Have you ever cheated before?

[yourwhitewife]

and if so, did it turn you on knowing that you were doing something you weren't supposed to?

 

[MarathonATL]

It was definitely a major turn on...

 

[highconcept]

Yes and Yes

I always subscribed to the "I'm not sorry I did it. Only sorry I got caught school." Getting away with it is half the fun.

But you have to pick a partner who enjoys that part too.

 

[DaveOnFire]

and if so, did it turn you on knowing that you were doing something you weren't supposed to?

To a level you would not believe possible. Would do it again in a heartbeat, if the opportunity presented.

 

[xjasminex]

I feel like someone needs to speak up for the no cheating group. I have urges to have sex with people who are not my partner but I don't want to do it behind their back or do it in anyway that would hurt them - aka. cheat. If I care enough about someone to be in a serious relationship with them, I wouldn't let myself do something I know is going to damage them. And no, don't even try to use 'what they don't know won't hurt them'.

 

[Deacon13]

I feel like someone needs to speak up for the no cheating group. I have urges to have sex with people who are not my partner but I don't want to do it behind their back or do it in anyway that would hurt them - aka. cheat. If I care enough about someone to be in a serious relationship with them, I wouldn't let myself do something I know is going to damage them. And no, don't even try to use 'what they don't know won't hurt them'.

I can understand your point, but I guess the old adage applies - " everyone to their own device"

 

[Deacon13]

and if so, did it turn you on knowing that you were doing something you weren't supposed to?

Have you?

 

[Pervertedhub]

yes and yes

But after being caught it the feeling wasn't so good.

 

[smallgirl]

Yes. Is it right? But sometimes when you are truly stuck in a place where your needs aren't being met, and your S/O refuses to acknowledge that? Then it happens

 

[policywank]

yes

It was exciting, but ultimately but I wasn't able to deal with the dishonesty.

If you have an obligation to someone else, that obligation is in no way diminished by the pleasure or excitement you derive from betrayal of that trust. I don't think any logical person can truly believe the notion that what others don't know won't hurt them. This is a nice way of saying you are a lier. You can't know for sure they will never find out, it will affect your own view of yourself and your partner and any number of other people may know which has a multitude of implications. If they find out their pain is magnified by the knowledge that the cheating spouse was too selfish or weak to come clean.

That is why I am a hot wife. Many will find that morally dubious, but I am not lying or misleading anyone. And hubby nows I am in control of events. He has always said that the control aspect is key. He can live with my promiscuity and actually prefers that other people know he knows. He couldn't live with the notion that men treat me like a doormat or that I am betraying him behind his back.

The first time I cheated, I was not a hot wife. When I confessed it was a hard discussion, but he told me later that the only reason he didn't dump me was the fact that I didn't pretend to be a victim of circumstances beyond my control. In his rather crass and angry words at the time "there is a big difference between a slut and a dumb slut."

 

[policywank]

Yes. Is it right? But sometimes when you are truly stuck in a place where your needs aren't being met, and your S/O refuses to acknowledge that? Then it happens

Not having your needs may be a valid reason for seeking sex elsewhere, but it is not justification for being dishonest about it. The dishonesty comes from your unwillingness to take responsibility for you actions or the desire to have your cake and eat it too.

We all have the option of accepting or rejecting the terms of any of our relationships. Accepting the terms then ignoring them is simply dishonest - the fact that the terms no longer suit you has nothing to do with it.

 

[Leigh81]

Never
Although my husband likes to share me and to have me cuckold him it's all controlled and open. I have permission to "cheat" if the chance arises, but that's not me.

L

 

[smallgirl]

Not having your needs may be a valid reason for seeking sex elsewhere, but it is not justification for being dishonest about it. The dishonesty comes from your unwillingness to take responsibility for you actions or the desire to have your cake and eat it too.

We all have the option of accepting or rejecting the terms of any of our relationships. Accepting the terms then ignoring them is simply dishonest - the fact that the terms no longer suit you has nothing to do with it.

Everyone's different and sees things differently. We all have our reasons. I'd love to be able to get my needs met in my marriage...at one time I did. Did I cheat then? No. I had no desire to. Would I continue cheating if hubby stepped up and was there for me? No. It's not always about having your cake and eating it too.

I'm sure my hubby had his reasons for fucking a girl at work on his desk in his office too....for me personally i'd rather be cheated on than talked to like a dog. Cheating I can understand. Being verbally abusive I can't deal with.

 

[October46]

and if so, did it turn you on knowing that you were doing something you weren't supposed to?

yes, there was an excitement of what was happening at the time, we were in the house while our spouses were just outside in the pool. We were in wet bathing suits which was a turn on to start with and our tryst was a spur of the moment thing, not planned.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Never
Although my husband likes to share me and to have me cuckold him it's all controlled and open. I have permission to "cheat" if the chance arises, but that's not me.

L

And what boundaries does he have? What if he confessed to "cheating" when you won't avail yourself of the same temptation?

My wife gave up on sex after her libido took a nosedive during menopause, and after a faithful decade I cheated twice over another four years before finally calling it off. We talked about the various options for opening our marriage up, but she was firm in her all or nothing stance, so we ended it.

That said I never got a rush out of cheating, and since I have had a few relationships with married women and knowing I am taking another man's wife really doesn't factor in for me. I look at it as they have their relationship, and we have ours.

Now knowing that their spouse has full knowledge, either because they are there, or you know they will be giving them full details once they get home...that brings a certain edgy excitement.

 

[Leigh81]

And what boundaries does he have? What if he confessed to "cheating" when you won't avail yourself of the same temptation?

My wife gave up on sex after her libido took a nosedive during menopause, and after a faithful decade I cheated twice over another four years before finally calling it off. We talked about the various options for opening our marriage up, but she was firm in her all or nothing stance, so we ended it.

That said I never got a rush out of cheating, and since I have had a few relationships with married women and knowing I am taking another man's wife really doesn't factor in for me. I look at it as they have their relationship, and we have ours.

Now knowing that their spouse has full knowledge, either because they are there, or you know they will be giving them full details once they get home...that brings a certain edgy excitement.

I don't worry about him. His penis is only 3 1/2".

L

 

[policywank]

Everyone's different and sees things differently. We all have our reasons. I'd love to be able to get my needs met in my marriage...at one time I did. Did I cheat then? No. I had no desire to. Would I continue cheating if hubby stepped up and was there for me? No. It's not always about having your cake and eating it too.

I'm sure my hubby had his reasons for fucking a girl at work on his desk in his office too....for me personally i'd rather be cheated on than talked to like a dog. Cheating I can understand. Being verbally abusive I can't deal with.

what verbal abuse are you referring to?

 

[Porkwarrior]

I don't worry about him. His penis is only 3 1/2".

L

Oh poor gal...okay the cuck thing makes sense now.

And I thought his hesitation to stray might have something to do with your love of kickboxing

 

[dade37]

I have sexually, but not emotionally, if that makes since. For me it was honestly to fuck a hot chick (mind you I had a little to drink.)
the second time wasn't cheating cause it was a threesome

 

[Sheana_V]

Twice.
Neither time did the 'naughtiness' excite me.
One time I was so happy, and I realized I was dating the wrong person and immediately ended the relationship.
The second time I felt too guilty to really enjoy it and wondered to myself "Why the fuck am I doing this".

*sigh*

 

[southern_gal]

I have never and will never cheat on my husband. Having said that I have been with another woman before but it was with his blessing. Without it (and him being sincere) I could not and would not have done it.

 

[drinkz]

Query Wins. When you win the internetz, all it says is that you're a sad, pathetic, man in real life.

 

[Blazexx]

The act itself did not but the boyfriend did. Hubby was out of town at the time.

 

[daisycee]

and if so, did it turn you on knowing that you were doing something you weren't supposed to?

I believe that if you get the urge to cheat you should bring up some new things in the bed room that may satisfy the urges.

 

[thaneofcawdor]

Yes, but never on the wife... Before her, every gf I ever had, I cheated on... But, when I met my wife, I became monogamous, by choice and never regretted it... Even now, during a dry spell, a very hot female college student has been blatant about fucking us both and I have had the opportunity, I have politely declined... My parents divorced, when I was young. So, I think marriage is "sacred"... Unless you count yahoo chat and Second Life...