Non reply to PMs

[Erochic]

Funny thread

When I had my PMs switched on, when I got a PM I would always look at the posters post history to get an idea of what he was writing... And how he wrote to people.
The OPs post history is a combination of 1. demanding PMs, 2.complaining because he didn't get PMs and 3. making lustful comments on amateur picture threads.
Hmmm.....

In my experience replying to a poster with that kind of post history tends to lead to demands for photos or him immediately telling me what he wants to do to me.

Ye reap what ye sow..... Even on erotic sites.

 

[Eilan]

I can tell this will be an unpopular path to take, though it's also my view some people are being extremely OTT about the OP. His profile is very very aggressive but I imagine it was changed just before this thread popped up.

It's no secret women are flooded with PM's on here but I do feel as though if a guy is polite and considerate instead of just sending "Hey sweetie come here and ride my rod, your fucking hot" Then just maybe they do deserve a quick bit of extra consideration.

Even if they're not your cup of tea, if it's obvious they haven't just randomly clicked on your name and sent the pm, if they have spent a bit of time thinking about what they want to say then isn't it fair to take the ten seconds and say thanks but no thanks instead of leaving them in limbo due to aforementioned flood.

The thought process could easily be "She gets flooded with PM's so perhaps mine got missed and I need to resend it." This could easily annoy the person getting PM'ed even more so.

Even if 15 polite guys PM that you don't fancy that's less then three minutes out of your day and i'm willing to bet a polite guy has spent more then three minutes wording their PM and reading recent posts so that they don't offend the person they're sending the message to.

Yeah, and a lot of "polite" men get really abusive after they get a "thanks, but no thanks" PM. Women are often damned if they do and damned if they don't.

I'm not gonna lose a ton of sleep over whether or not my response (or lack thereof) to a PM caused some poor creeper to get all butthurt.

 

[1sickbastard]

Ya know.....I'm not everyone's "type" and I understand that....I'm good with that. I am a nice oerson and come here for interesting chat, to make a few friends (which I have) and to find women that I can please both mentally and physically. Now, I also know that the ratio of men to women is quite high and that when women come here they get bombarded with PMs....I got that too.
Based on your posts, my guess is the women you please mentally are inebriated to the point of near insensibility by a combination of hair-spray, bad eye make-up, cheap booze and were probably not terribly blessed with mental capacity to start. You joined in May 2012 and managed to put up less than 200 posts (where, oh where did you find the time?). You got zero game, Bubba-Ray. The women here tend to be smart, often well read, and can spot flattery in an attempt to get laid from a mile away.
What I have a fucking problem with is that when I take the time to see someone online, read their profile, and do a little checking on their previous posts BEFORE I send them a PM and then DO NOT get a response from that person. I'm not just throwing darts at a dartboard when choosing which people to PM.....I do a little research first to find out what the interests of the person are and then make sure that I would be able to converse with them.
No, your fucking problem is that your interactions on this site have nothing that engages a woman's mind. In seventeen months none of your posts has a thing that makes you stand out.

My PMs are not just "hey....wanna chat?". I describe myself and my reason for PMing. When the receiver is so fucking stuck on themselves to not feel the need to respond with something, it really irritates me. I'm not expecting a long drawn out bullshit story....a simple " thank you for taking the time to PM me, but I dont think we are compatible" would suffice.
That may be true of your pm's. But the same ain't true of your public posts. Your posts scream, "horny lonely guy looking to get laid," so loud it's deafening, so when you do send a pm those women have a hard time hearing anything else.

Am I asking for or expecting too much? What the fuck?

Yeah, you are. You figured out the ratio of men to women here isn't in your favor (you being a guy), but you sure as hell didn't figure out how to stand out and be noticed favorably by anyone, much less the women whose attention you so desperately crave.

 

[yandere]

Yeah, and a lot of "polite" men get really abusive after they get a "thanks, but no thanks" PM. Women are often damned if they do and damned if they don't.

I'm not gonna lose a ton of sleep over whether or not my response (or lack thereof) to a PM caused some poor creeper to get all butthurt.

amen

 

[Powerfulone]

Yeah, and a lot of "polite" men get really abusive after they get a "thanks, but no thanks" PM. Women are often damned if they do and damned if they don't.

I'm not gonna lose a ton of sleep over whether or not my response (or lack thereof) to a PM caused some poor creeper to get all butthurt.

I don't know whether or not you're speaking from experience or perhaps hearsay so I can't really comment on that.

All I can say is personally, i'd prefer and i'd hope that it's the same for some other men that not knowing is worse then knowing.

Some bad apples fall from the tree, it doesn't mean everyone should get tarred with the same brush just because they're in that particular tree.

I'm getting the distinct impression that the message i'm trying to get across is a bit futile though.

 

[satindesire]

I don't know whether or not you're speaking from experience or perhaps hearsay so I can't really comment on that.

All I can say is personally, i'd prefer and i'd hope that it's the same for some other men that not knowing is worse then knowing.

Some bad apples fall from the tree, it doesn't mean everyone should get tarred with the same brush just because they're in that particular tree.

I'm getting the distinct impression that the message i'm trying to get across is a bit futile though.

Go here. Read 10-20 pages. Hell, read it all! Then tell me that you don't understand why women are ambivalent towards men on this site.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=750187

It's called the Asshat thread, and it reports sketchy-as-fuck PMs that women get on this site. You'll start to notice patterns, and the frustration and BS that women go through just trying to LIVE, socialize and have fun.

 

[Mean2sluts]

Why not...

Just assume that when you don't get a response, that is your "I just don't think we are compatible" PM back?

saves a lot of time

 

[Powerfulone]

Go here. Read 10-20 pages. Hell, read it all! Then tell me that you don't understand why women are ambivalent towards men on this site.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=750187

It's called the Asshat thread, and it reports sketchy-as-fuck PMs that women get on this site. You'll start to notice patterns, and the frustration and BS that women go through just trying to LIVE, socialize and have fun.

After spending a chunk of a quiet sunday going through this thread I hereby retract all previous statements I made on this issue.

It's embarassing that there are men like that and it makes it harder for those of us who are good and genuine in our PM's.

If I ever sink as low as to become one of those asshats I deserve every pic of a prolapsed rectum you can find and I vow never to try and hypnotize anyone with the word unicorn.

Any PM that anyone receives from me will be polite, well thought out, researched and consist of more then one sentence asking to go on cam etc.

 

[Lori_the_Hoosier]

I always respond to all PM's even if it's just to say "I'm flattered, thanks, but no thank you", but you...
Don't PM me , for whatever reason. Ever.

 

[WhipLuvr]

After spending a chunk of a quiet sunday going through this thread I hereby retract all previous statements I made on this issue.

It's embarassing that there are men like that and it makes it harder for those of us who are good and genuine in our PM's.

If I ever sink as low as to become one of those asshats I deserve every pic of a prolapsed rectum you can find and I vow never to try and hypnotize anyone with the word unicorn.

Any PM that anyone receives from me will be polite, well thought out, researched and consist of more then one sentence asking to go on cam etc.

I have a pic that I reserve for those sooper speshul assholes that simply will NOT go away.


Its a pic of a man with a table knife up his dick. Blade out, of course.

 

[MonCher]

I have a pic that I reserve for those sooper speshul assholes that simply will NOT go away.


Its a pic of a man with a table knife up his dick. Blade out, of course.

My kind of gal!

 

[satindesire]

After spending a chunk of a quiet sunday going through this thread I hereby retract all previous statements I made on this issue.

It's embarassing that there are men like that and it makes it harder for those of us who are good and genuine in our PM's.

If I ever sink as low as to become one of those asshats I deserve every pic of a prolapsed rectum you can find and I vow never to try and hypnotize anyone with the word unicorn.

Any PM that anyone receives from me will be polite, well thought out, researched and consist of more then one sentence asking to go on cam etc.

Thank you. Really.

 

[Eilan]

I don't know whether or not you're speaking from experience or perhaps hearsay so I can't really comment on that.

All I can say is personally, i'd prefer and i'd hope that it's the same for some other men that not knowing is worse then knowing.

Some bad apples fall from the tree, it doesn't mean everyone should get tarred with the same brush just because they're in that particular tree.

I'm getting the distinct impression that the message i'm trying to get across is a bit futile though.

There's a reason I accept PMs from Friends and Mods only.

I'm here to talk about sex in an open, mostly nonjudgmental setting, but that doesn't mean I have the obligation (or the desire) to be a personal fucktoy for every Tom, Limp Dick, and Hairy who requests an audience.

 

[1millionsecrets]

I get bored with the same Pm over and over. Telling me your age, where you live and what you're into is too much private information all at once. I prefer to get to know a person on my own terms, not be forced to know them within .21 seconds of conversation.

Casual is my favorite approach. And the majority of the time I'm ignored, Sooo get over it, shit happens and like it or not it will continue to happen.

 

[Eilan]

I've never had a sexual interaction via PM with anyone from Lit, unless you count my husband, and we were already married before we registered. My Lit friendships developed from our interactions on the boards and moved to PMs and, in some cases, to Facebook. If I were going to cyber, cam, phone, text, etc. with someone from here, I'd want to have at least interacted positively with that person in the past.

After looking through the OP's posts, I can why he wasn't getting many takers. He may have had 150+ posts, but they were superficial, meaningless posts. He wasn't making a real effort to get to know anyone. This may be a "porn board," but shit like that matters, particularly when horny men are in such supply that women can afford to be choosy.

If you're a creepy lurker who's reading this, take some time to "stalk" some of the popular Lit guys to see what they're doing. If you don't have the time to cultivate even the smallest of connections with other Litsters, you should hire hookers or stick to masturbating.

 

[Blase]

I avoid the ones that sound like 1) they crafted a vague and general message to send out en masse; 2) when they say shit like "Hi, I'm looking for a nice girl. I'm a nice guy and I like things." So dull.

Uh... Oh.

Oops.

 

[hisdirtysecret]

Good topic

.. although you seemed a bit angry, and may have stopped reading your thread here, I would like to add my two cents as well.

The guys that just send me their measurements and ask if I want to chat, usually do not get a response.

The guys that ask me personal questions about my real life may get a response or two from me, then I get nervous they know me or are trying to get info so they can come find me and skin me alive.

Otherwise...as other posters have said before me... a polite pm, a witty observation, a compliment, or a hot avi, even if it is not them, usually illicits a response from me.

The pm that I will almost always respond to is the smart-ass funny guy that can keep some witty banter going. I usually move this guy or gal over to my instant messaging.

Hope I was helpful and not redundant. Good luck yo!

 

[ashesatwork]

I always thought that my profile would be enough to not get the *wanna see my dick* messages.. you come at me with even a hint that you plan on me ever seeing your dick... you are out...


Sorry. Not sorry


I do try to message back even if I dont plan to chit chat..some do slip through the cracks...and for that I apologize. .

But I really dont get why people message me who I have had zero interactions with... the people who want mps request them...why not stick to those?

Then get your panties in a bunch when you get no response.

 

[jdc38]

Its a pic of a man with a table knife up his dick. Blade out, of course.

Funny. But ouch! Just thinking about that made my penis retract into my body.

 

[Sheana_V]

I'm just going to throw my 2 cents in here and say that the men and women have given solid advice. Quit blaming the women for your problems.

 

[hisdirtysecret]

Word Sheana. Fabulous avi!

I'm just going to throw my 2 cents in here and say that the men and women have given solid advice. Quit blaming the women for your problems.

 

[SC_Chiver]

Word Sheana. Fabulous avi!

I agree! That is a great AV!

 

[YAK411976]

Sounds like he needs therapy. Spoilt by his mummy maybe? Seriously guys like him give the rest of us a bad name. Doubt he will return but could be amusing.

 

[DanWOW]

Ya know.....I'm not everyone's "type" and I understand that....I'm good with that. I am a nice oerson and come here for interesting chat, to make a few friends (which I have) and to find women that I can please both mentally and physically. Now, I also know that the ratio of men to women is quite high and that when women come here they get bombarded with PMs....I got that too.

What I have a fucking problem with is that when I take the time to see someone online, read their profile, and do a little checking on their previous posts BEFORE I send them a PM and then DO NOT get a response from that person. I'm not just throwing darts at a dartboard when choosing which people to PM.....I do a little research first to find out what the interests of the person are and then make sure that I would be able to converse with them.

My PMs are not just "hey....wanna chat?". I describe myself and my reason for PMing. When the receiver is so fucking stuck on themselves to not feel the need to respond with something, it really irritates me. I'm not expecting a long drawn out bullshit story....a simple " thank you for taking the time to PM me, but I dont think we are compatible" would suffice.

Am I asking for or expecting too much? What the fuck?

Well now, are you a special snowflake. I am amazed, no, SHOCKED that people don't riot in the streets for the opportunity to reply to you.

I have also found the absolute best way to get a woman to want to reply and converse with someone is to refer to them as cunts. Works every time.

I am going to PM you for further advice on how to impress the lady folk since you seem to be a winner.

 

[mwmnpa]

How about that? He really did stop posting, at least under that name.