Non reply to PMs

[Porkwarrior]

There is your problem, only SLIGHTLY depraved, you needed to go totally depraved because that's what women want on here!

Not pleasant get to know one another, bit of banter, bit of innuendo chat that NEVER works.

Damn it, all I wanted was a cuddle while we watched Oprah & smelled the muffins baking!
Pics, audio's, stainless steel contraptions that look like Medieval torture devices...all that wasn't on Sex And The City reruns!

Verbally lashing someone in a forum is only slightly as fun as lashing otherwise. Handjob be damned--foreplay better involve blood.

But you're my Lit BFF. You crazy fucking horndog.

I'll get the lube, you get the cheese grater...let's go blow up an "everyday items as sex toys" th'd next.

 

[hapahulagal]

I don't need full on depravity...in fact I'm not looking for that but no one likes a whiner that's for sure. I do try to answer PM's, but it can be overwhelming and eventually I may just skim through them and delete them because I know right away it's just there. I have also left PMs and have not been answered, but c'est la vie.

 

[hapahulagal]

It's just not there, I mean

 

[MonCher]

I don't need full on depravity...in fact I'm not looking for that but no one likes a whiner that's for sure. I do try to answer PM's, but it can be overwhelming and eventually I may just skim through them and delete them because I know right away it's just there. I have also left PMs and have not been answered, but c'est la vie.

Oui, oui. Sometimes it is overwhelming. I avoid the ones that sound like 1) they crafted a vague and general message to send out en masse; 2) when they say shit like "Hi, I'm looking for a nice girl. I'm a nice guy and I like things." So dull.

 

[thaneofcawdor]

Wow,
I didn't become the Forums most popular dude, after my first 50 posts, or posting pics...
I made some errors in my personals posts (thanks, again for the advice MonCher) and on the few occasions when I PM someone, I don't always get a response, semi frustrating, for sure, especially when your horny.... but...
this place is supposed to be fun.... so.. have fun... quit stressing dude...

 

[MonCher]

Wow,
I didn't become the Forums most popular dude, after my first 50 posts, or posting pics...
I made some errors in my personals posts (thanks, again for the advice MonCher) and on the few occasions when I PM someone, I don't always get a response, semi frustrating, for sure, especially when your horny.... but...
this place is supposed to be fun.... so.. have fun... quit stressing dude...

Anytime! Confidence gets you a long way. Not false pride, not an inflated ego. Zen confidence. That, or explicit messages involving fantastic acts of terror. It all depends on their interests, really. I hear some like long walks on the beaczzzzz...

 

[pfflyerhot]

Apology offered...

pre-emptively, if necessary.
Sometimes, it's about the volume of PMs and the passing of time. That's all. I clean out my mailbox all the time going, "oops. well... shit. that was a looong time ago. shoulda, coulda... didn't".
Profile details help, too. Sways me one way or another about answering. And, of course, there's message content. What you say matters.
That's my take.

 

[MILFSauce]

Get an av, even if it is not a picture of you. Make it something comparable to this;


Crop the photo, removing the head. It will appear as though you're some super hot guy on Lit, that is attempting to be incognito.

You'll get more responses than you ever had originally. If, for one second, these women believe that you're hot, they'll be opening their virtual vagina for grotesque banging of all sorts.

I'm assuming you posted this tongue-in-cheek. At any rate, I strongly disagree with it. Having a hot picture, especially if you're trying to fool me into thinking it's you when it isn't, doesn't affect whether I respond to a guy's pm. In fact, it's rather insulting to even think that it would.

To me, it's simple ... was the pm nice, respectful, friendly? Or was it obvious you just want someone to get you off? In the former case, I always answer, even if it's just to say "thank you". In the latter case, I never answer. Why the hell should I be obligated to be a jerk-off toy for some dude who solicited me totally out of the blue?

Some days I get lots of pm's, other days, none. If I didn't want to get them, I wouldn't have the pm feature enabled. And I can appreciate it sucks being ignored or rejected.

But it's not too much to ask that you be polite and mannerly, and not come on to me expecting me to get you off.

 

[MonCher]

I'm assuming you posted this tongue-in-cheek. At any rate, I strongly disagree with it. Having a hot picture, especially if you're trying to fool me into thinking it's you when it isn't, doesn't affect whether I respond to a guy's pm. In fact, it's rather insulting to even think that it would.

To me, it's simple ... was the pm nice, respectful, friendly? Or was it obvious you just want someone to get you off? In the former case, I always answer, even if it's just to say "thank you". In the latter case, I never answer. Why the hell should I be obligated to be a jerk-off toy for some dude who solicited me totally out of the blue?

Some days I get lots of pm's, other days, none. If I didn't want to get them, I wouldn't have the pm feature enabled. And I can appreciate it sucks being ignored or rejected.

But it's not too much to ask that you be polite and mannerly, and not come on to me expecting me to get you off.

Rock on, gold dust woman.

 

[SmileyGirl]

Ya know.....I'm not everyone's "type" and I understand that....I'm good with that. I am a nice oerson and come here for interesting chat, to make a few friends (which I have) and to find women that I can please both mentally and physically. Now, I also know that the ratio of men to women is quite high and that when women come here they get bombarded with PMs....I got that too.

What I have a fucking problem with is that when I take the time to see someone online, read their profile, and do a little checking on their previous posts BEFORE I send them a PM and then DO NOT get a response from that person. I'm not just throwing darts at a dartboard when choosing which people to PM.....I do a little research first to find out what the interests of the person are and then make sure that I would be able to converse with them.

My PMs are not just "hey....wanna chat?". I describe myself and my reason for PMing. When the receiver is so fucking stuck on themselves to not feel the need to respond with something, it really irritates me. I'm not expecting a long drawn out bullshit story....a simple " thank you for taking the time to PM me, but I dont think we are compatible" would suffice.

Am I asking for or expecting too much? What the fuck?

Mayyyyyyybe they're not compatible to cyber

Nobody needs to reply to pm's, just because you choose to pm, that person has the same right to choose not to respond. That could be for many reasons not just because you think they are being rude. Stop being a drama llhama!!

 

[satindesire]

Somewhere in the Asshat PM's th'd was a link to a great Jezebel.com article on vapid, entitled, "nice guy", cunts.

I suspect the OP would see himself being described to a T.

I love this response. Yes. Thank you.

 

[Pondlife]

I'm assuming you posted this tongue-in-cheek.

It definitely was.

 

[Domesticity]

You sound like a whiner. Most women don't like whiners. You will probably get even less responses now, as those who look at your posts before responding will see this rant.

Miraculously enough, some of us are just here for good wank material and a place where we can read things posted by other perverts.

If you pm'd me and I responded, it would be to chit chat about random stuff, as I'm not here to cyber, and then you'd probably pout because I don't want to talk about your cock.

 

[babyvee_]

I'm assuming you posted this tongue-in-cheek. At any rate, I strongly disagree with it. Having a hot picture, especially if you're trying to fool me into thinking it's you when it isn't, doesn't affect whether I respond to a guy's pm. In fact, it's rather insulting to even think that it would.

To me, it's simple ... was the pm nice, respectful, friendly? Or was it obvious you just want someone to get you off? In the former case, I always answer, even if it's just to say "thank you". In the latter case, I never answer. Why the hell should I be obligated to be a jerk-off toy for some dude who solicited me totally out of the blue?

Some days I get lots of pm's, other days, none. If I didn't want to get them, I wouldn't have the pm feature enabled. And I can appreciate it sucks being ignored or rejected.

But it's not too much to ask that you be polite and mannerly, and not come on to me expecting me to get you off.

Ahh words right out of my mouth, soul sista.

 

[RjThoughts]

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[VinceGraves]

While I understand your frustration, brother. Let me give you some life advice, man to man. You want a woman to respond to you, especially in a favorable manner? Give her something favorable to respond to. While yes, you've done your five minutes of research on this PERSON (and I DID say person, not sexual object) she is just as likely to give your profile a glance. From the two seconds I spent on your profile, I can assure you no one in their right mind WOULD respond to you. It's all about how you represent yourself. Do so in a positive manner (just like a job interview) and you'll be more LIKELY to get a response. Nothing is a sure thing, not even life tomorrow. If you're truly a soldier like myself, you'll know the depth of my last.

I don't want to beat you up, that might be exactly what you're after. Just be aware, we're all here to have fun, get to know some like minded people, and maybe get turned on.

If you need someone to respond, please know that I would be glad to talk to you.

 

[Pondlife]

From the two seconds I spent on your profile, I can assure you no one in their right mind WOULD respond to you.

I kind of assumed the profile was changed when they gave up on the site, if it was always like that then Doh!

 

[LadyVer]

Ya know.....I'm not everyone's "type" and I understand that....I'm good with that. I am a nice oerson and come here for interesting chat, to make a few friends (which I have) and to find women that I can please both mentally and physically. Now, I also know that the ratio of men to women is quite high and that when women come here they get bombarded with PMs....I got that too.

What I have a fucking problem with is that when I take the time to see someone online, read their profile, and do a little checking on their previous posts BEFORE I send them a PM and then DO NOT get a response from that person. I'm not just throwing darts at a dartboard when choosing which people to PM.....I do a little research first to find out what the interests of the person are and then make sure that I would be able to converse with them.

My PMs are not just "hey....wanna chat?". I describe myself and my reason for PMing. When the receiver is so fucking stuck on themselves to not feel the need to respond with something, it really irritates me. I'm not expecting a long drawn out bullshit story....a simple " thank you for taking the time to PM me, but I dont think we are compatible" would suffice.

Am I asking for or expecting too much? What the fuck?

Sometimes, the person you may be pm'ing may be so deluged with pm's, especially by pm's from men who want a teacher, mommy, or keyboard artist, they don't have the time or inclination to respond to each and every pm. Sometimes I get so many pm's I feel overwhelmed, and I don't respond for a while. And people come and go here. Maybe they're dealing with health issues and have busy lives.

Lit is like anywhere else. You make the best of it. Just because this is a free internet porn site doesn't mean women are automatically available 24/7. It's not personal. It probably doesn't have to do with anyone being stuck on themselves. And if a woman does take the time to respond to a pm with "thank you for taking the time to PM me, but I don't think we are compatible," do you know what kind of response that will bring? "Well fuck you, cunt."

 

[BrownIslandGurl]

Yeah I get what you mean, it does suck. I replied though Anyways, sometimes I cant being busy or whatever, you cant expect to get a reply all the time no matter how much work you put into it.

On a side note, whys everyone being such a bully come on guys lighten up Were all here for fun arent we? Or something close to it.. ... ... ...

 

[WhipLuvr]

What?
Did I miss a clause in signing up here that states us ladies somehow owe sanctimonious twats like you a reply? Buddy, I get at least 10 other messages like yours a day. What makes you think you're so special? You "read a few of my posts" ? You " like my avatar"? Been there, done that. Your entitled bullshit won't fly on here.

 

[InaNYMinute]

Face palm to OP

 

[SwimmerSamantha]

Another thing that I don' think has been mentioned is that I don't come on here every single day, when I get back and someone had sent me multiple messages asking where I am or why I haven't responded it also another pretty big turn away for me anyway..

 

[Powerfulone]

I can tell this will be an unpopular path to take, though it's also my view some people are being extremely OTT about the OP. His profile is very very aggressive but I imagine it was changed just before this thread popped up.

It's no secret women are flooded with PM's on here but I do feel as though if a guy is polite and considerate instead of just sending "Hey sweetie come here and ride my rod, your fucking hot" Then just maybe they do deserve a quick bit of extra consideration.

Even if they're not your cup of tea, if it's obvious they haven't just randomly clicked on your name and sent the pm, if they have spent a bit of time thinking about what they want to say then isn't it fair to take the ten seconds and say thanks but no thanks instead of leaving them in limbo due to aforementioned flood.

The thought process could easily be "She gets flooded with PM's so perhaps mine got missed and I need to resend it." This could easily annoy the person getting PM'ed even more so.

Even if 15 polite guys PM that you don't fancy that's less then three minutes out of your day and i'm willing to bet a polite guy has spent more then three minutes wording their PM and reading recent posts so that they don't offend the person they're sending the message to.

 

[MonCher]

Yeah I get what you mean, it does suck. I replied though Anyways, sometimes I cant being busy or whatever, you cant expect to get a reply all the time no matter how much work you put into it.

On a side note, whys everyone being such a bully come on guys lighten up Were all here for fun arent we? Or something close to it.. ... ... ...

I don't know about you, but I find this incredibly fun.

 

[nicknatural]

When I was young, my mother said "If you've nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all..."

Needless to say, we've had a quiet 20 years since.