Ladies, turn him on when you're not in the mood

[Steve2694]

It's an age old problem, he wants it all the time..and you want it some of the time. I'm a guy, and it's true that we have this real need to ejaculate often. For me, I can last about two days before I need to get off.

Here's an idea for women, which I promise, will absolutely drive your man wild. You won't have to do much, and I'm quite certain your man will: a) Have one of the best orgasms ever, and b) Will be something he masturbates about later (rather than the so-called teens on porn site)s. Heck, I think you'll have fun with this also!

The next time your guy is in the mood, and you aren't, rather than make excuses simply do the following. I'm going to present it as a role-play, so you get the whole picture.

You: Honey I can tell you're horny, and I bet it would feel so good to shoot a big load. You need this, particularly at the end of a long day. I love the look on your face after you've cum in front of me. Rather than our normal sex, I'd like to propose something different. It would turn me immensely to see you turned on by looking at me naked, and for you to pleasure yourself like I'm a porn star. I want to see your big strong hand on your cock, I want to see your muscles on your forearm, and I want you staring at my pussy like I'm a porn star. I'm not wearing underwear, so I'm just going to lean back and spread my legs. I want to see your eyes feasting on my pussy, while I see your strong hand wrap itself around your stiff cock. (You're now adjusting your position)

Honey, can you see my pussy? Can you see that I'm getting wet just from you staring at me. I love when you adore me and make me feel so beautiful. Just look at my pussy lips, aren't they hot? Now, stroke yourself, and show me how turned on your are. I know you usually hold back to make it last longer, but this time I want you to just let it fly. I can tell you're getting closer, and I can't wait to see that silky smooth cum. I'm gad you're using astro-gel, because I know it feels like the inside of my pussy as your stroking. (You're now going to tell him to cum. What you say next is very important)

Baby, I want you to shoot your load on my pussy. I want to see that beautiful cum on me, and I want to see you so satisfied and happy. You work so hard, and I just love it when you shoot out for me. Look at my pussy while you're stroking, and imagine how much I'll love feeling your hot cum on me. I'm going to touch my clit, but I'm not going to masturbate. This is about you, and I don't want the attention. I really makes me feel like I'm with a strong man when I see cum like yours. (It's about to happen)

There you go baby, I can see you're about to cum. Stroke it for me, shoot it on me, just show me your cum. (As it's happening) There you go baby, pump it out, get it all out. Oh baby, that's perfect, keep stroking it. Wow, that is such a great load. You're so hot when you cum, I love seeing you like this. You look so strong, and your cock was as big as I've ever seen it get. (Now smear the cum around your pussy, so he knows you're turned on, not turned off by his orgasm). Oh baby, that was so hot, I love seeing your strong hand on your cock, and I love knowing just looking at my pussy was enough to get you off. Wow, my man is so hot.

One important point. Women never know what to say when men have an orgasm. This is a time when we're little boys again, and we love to hear your encouragement. Our society has made male cum a bad thing (e.g, the debate about swallowing), and you'll score huge points by being encouraging, and saying nice things about his cumming. To you, it's not gross or scary, rather it's, something that turns you on, particularly when it happens because of you. Show his that you LOVE when he gets off. I promise, he'll look forward to the next time you're not in the mood.

 

[peejay4u]

That's all fine and well and in a perfect world......

But the reality (at least for me in my sad world) is that if she was truly not in the mood to begin with she is not very likely to start the porn star talk and most certainly will not be willing to wipe my cum on her snatch. Jus sayin....

If she was in the mood for the porn talk, she'd likely want my hard cock for some of her own pleasure. Dontcha think....

 

[sweetnsassysuzi]

Ha! It was usually (not always) the exact opposite with my soon to be ex! And anything different? Forget it. Classic Madonna/Whore complex.

 

[sunandshadow]

If one isn't in the mood for sex, one probably isn't in the mood to spend time roleplaying and get sticky as a result. Me personally, if I am not in the mood for sex I'm probably really busy gaming or working on some project, or I feel sick. Not compatible with the scenario suggested here.

 

[Cratchit]

Yeah, i tend to think what everyone else is saying. While that sounds good in fantasy, being not in the mood is just that. And clearly your roleplay is for two people in the mood but wanting to mix it up

 

[lk2011]

I'd be happy if she just took her shirt off for a few minutes and let me look while I got off... There's not a chance in hell she'd go with that whole RP you just shared.. haha

 

[sweetnsassysuzi]

LOVE IT! LOL!

Another handy thing you could try is signal to your kind woman that you are in the mood for some fine lovin'. Usually waving your erect peni in her face and saying "Hey, time for some fine lovin, eh?"

If she is in the mood, have her give the soldier a tug or two, and you know you are heading upstairs.

If she is not in the mood, have her indicate this by giving the wee soldier two to three hundred tugs, just so you're sure that she in fact is not in the mood.

 

[Lazy_lay]

It's an age old problem, he wants it all the time..and you want it some of the time. I'm a guy, and it's true that we have this real need to ejaculate often. For me, I can last about two days before I need to get off.

Here's an idea for women, which I promise, will absolutely drive your man wild. You won't have to do much, and I'm quite certain your man will: a) Have one of the best orgasms ever, and b) Will be something he masturbates about later (rather than the so-called teens on porn site)s. Heck, I think you'll have fun with this also!

The next time your guy is in the mood, and you aren't, rather than make excuses simply do the following. I'm going to present it as a role-play, so you get the whole picture.

You: Honey I can tell you're horny, and I bet it would feel so good to shoot a big load. You need this, particularly at the end of a long day. I love the look on your face after you've cum in front of me. Rather than our normal sex, I'd like to propose something different. It would turn me immensely to see you turned on by looking at me naked, and for you to pleasure yourself like I'm a porn star. I want to see your big strong hand on your cock, I want to see your muscles on your forearm, and I want you staring at my pussy like I'm a porn star. I'm not wearing underwear, so I'm just going to lean back and spread my legs. I want to see your eyes feasting on my pussy, while I see your strong hand wrap itself around your stiff cock. (You're now adjusting your position)

Honey, can you see my pussy? Can you see that I'm getting wet just from you staring at me. I love when you adore me and make me feel so beautiful. Just look at my pussy lips, aren't they hot? Now, stroke yourself, and show me how turned on your are. I know you usually hold back to make it last longer, but this time I want you to just let it fly. I can tell you're getting closer, and I can't wait to see that silky smooth cum. I'm gad you're using astro-gel, because I know it feels like the inside of my pussy as your stroking. (You're now going to tell him to cum. What you say next is very important)

Baby, I want you to shoot your load on my pussy. I want to see that beautiful cum on me, and I want to see you so satisfied and happy. You work so hard, and I just love it when you shoot out for me. Look at my pussy while you're stroking, and imagine how much I'll love feeling your hot cum on me. I'm going to touch my clit, but I'm not going to masturbate. This is about you, and I don't want the attention. I really makes me feel like I'm with a strong man when I see cum like yours. (It's about to happen)

There you go baby, I can see you're about to cum. Stroke it for me, shoot it on me, just show me your cum. (As it's happening) There you go baby, pump it out, get it all out. Oh baby, that's perfect, keep stroking it. Wow, that is such a great load. You're so hot when you cum, I love seeing you like this. You look so strong, and your cock was as big as I've ever seen it get. (Now smear the cum around your pussy, so he knows you're turned on, not turned off by his orgasm). Oh baby, that was so hot, I love seeing your strong hand on your cock, and I love knowing just looking at my pussy was enough to get you off. Wow, my man is so hot.

One important point. Women never know what to say when men have an orgasm. This is a time when we're little boys again, and we love to hear your encouragement. Our society has made male cum a bad thing (e.g, the debate about swallowing), and you'll score huge points by being encouraging, and saying nice things about his cumming. To you, it's not gross or scary, rather it's, something that turns you on, particularly when it happens because of you. Show his that you LOVE when he gets off. I promise, he'll look forward to the next time you're not in the mood.

Whether a woman was in the mood or not in the mood, this would be a totally hot thing for her to do. The reason is that she's affirming what the guy's doing in private. Maybe it would work if she was to play like she wasn't in the mood, just to pull this stunt on her guy. Suppose the guy's been whacking off to porn stars. I guarantee you if his girl did this, from then on he's only going to see her in his fantasies. She's just one upped them.

The stuff the guy was embarrassed about or insecure about, the woman has just told him is hot.

I'd like to know from a woman, though, what the equivalent dialogue and action set would be for a woman to receive, when the man didn't want to do it....

 

[Edensgarden]

Whether a woman was in the mood or not in the mood, this would be a totally hot thing for her to do. The reason is that she's affirming what the guy's doing in private. Maybe it would work if she was to play like she wasn't in the mood, just to pull this stunt on her guy. Suppose the guy's been whacking off to porn stars. I guarantee you if his girl did this, from then on he's only going to see her in his fantasies. She's just one upped them.

The stuff the guy was embarrassed about or insecure about, the woman has just told him is hot.

I'd like to know from a woman, though, what the equivalent dialogue and action set would be for a woman to receive, when the man didn't want to do it....

This made me laugh. We watch porn together at times and get off on it. I guarantee you that neither he nor I only see each other in our fantasies, no matter what kind of fucking or role playing we do with each other. And trust me when I say that I've one upped a porn star or two in his eyes.

 

[Sheana_V]

Having reflected on this thread it doesn't make sense to me:

"It's an age old problem, he wants it all the time..and you want it some of the time."
Sometimes it's the opposite. Sometimes I want to get off but I don't want to have sex with him.


"I'm a guy, and it's true that we have this real need to ejaculate often. For me, I can last about two days before I need to get off."
WTF does "need" to get off mean?


"Here's an idea for women..."
You are pitching this as fun and 'something to do when you don't want to have sex'.


"The next time your guy is in the mood, and you aren't, rather than make excuses"
Your normative gender ideas are disturbing.


"Honey I can tell you're horny, and I bet it would feel so good to shoot a big load."
Ew...

"You need this, particularly at the end of a long day."
Really? You know I work as well right?

"(... diologue ...) I'm not wearing underwear"
Wait? Now I have to anticipate not wanting to have sex?

"so I'm just going to lean back and spread my legs. I want to see your eyes feasting on my pussy, while I see your strong hand wrap itself around your stiff cock."
So, here you have established that I have to sit in a particular position and that I have to look at them. That means I can't do any physical activity, and I can't do anything that involved looking at something. Also, I have to talk a lot. So pretty much you are suggesting that because 'my guy' wants to 'get off' I should put aside everything I'm doing.

"(... diologue ...) (You're now going to tell him to cum. What you say next is very important)"
I also apparently need to memorize a script.

"Baby, I want you to shoot your load on my pussy."
So, I'm also going to end up with spunk all over my pussy. This "easy" thing just gets progressively more expensive.

"I want to see that beautiful cum on me, and I want to see you so satisfied and happy. You work so hard"
*sigh*

"(... diologue ...) I'm going to touch my clit, (... diologue ...)"
So, I'm actually not engaging in no sexual activity.

"(It's about to happen)"
Because he's on a timer...

"(... diologue ...) (Now smear the cum around your pussy, so he knows you're turned on, not turned off by his orgasm). (... diologue ...)"
I have to was my hands as well. Also, there's a good chance I now have to change and wash my clothes.

"Women never know what to say when men have an orgasm. This is a time when we're little boys again, and we love to hear your encouragement."
Ew...

"Our society has made male cum a bad thing (e.g, the debate about swallowing), and you'll score huge points by being encouraging, and saying nice things about his cumming."
Teh poor menz...


So, I get that this is obviously some sort of fantasy for you. That's cool. I hope your SO appreciates that and you have it fulfilled. However, don't pretend that this is doing us women some sort of favor.
Check it out. It is easier to let him titfuck me that do what you described. Hell, I could even watch TV while he did that. What you are actually describing is "here is a fantasy for a completely one sided sexual encounter", which is of course the exact opposite of "here's something for you ladies".

 

[DarkPleasures]

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[tonguedancer]

That's all fine and well and in a perfect world......

But the reality (at least for me in my sad world) is that if she was truly not in the mood to begin with she is not very likely to start the porn star talk and most certainly will not be willing to wipe my cum on her snatch. Jus sayin....

If she was in the mood for the porn talk, she'd likely want my hard cock for some of her own pleasure. Dontcha think....

I have to agree. If she's ready to give you the dirty talk marathon and crank you up that way, it could well put her in the mood or if she's not in the mood, that kind of behavior is probably the last thing on her mind. Women are a lot different from guys. Most of them, unless they are being paid as professional whores or porn actresses, don't generally like playing that slut role just for the hell of it. If they ARE in the mood, SOME women will play that way. Many, probably most, won't even give you that scene even if they're wanting sex.

Most women seem to want the romantic "oh honey I love you more than anything in the world" missionary fuck if they're willing. Some, but not the bulk of the population will give you the slut fuck, but a lot of the women I've known, don't really like behaving like sluts. They've been conditioned out of it by their mom's and dads and nuns and grandmothers and everybody else from the time they were toddlers. For a woman to want to play the slut for you, she has to have wanted to "reject" all that childhood conditioning in favor of something that makes them feel a certain desire to want to be bad. It's not something that's common in the bulk of the female population. Most want to have that romance thing going on.

Ladies, if you disagree with me, tell me I'm wrong. My experience has been that maybe one out of 5 women really have that hidden slut desire and can go at sex like a dirty porn star because they like it that way. Most have varying degrees of "horny" behavior down to "don't touch me", but not many really really love in their heart of hearts being a dirty little slut. IF they play that role for their guy, it's more for HIS benefit and not because they get off on it.

It's like when I read some of that ridiculous shit in Cosmo and some of the other supermarket rags (yes I've read some that my girlfriends have had). There's some article that says, "How to talk dirty to your guy and light his fire." Then you read the article and the examples are like, "Ohhh baby I love when you touch me there. It makes me tingle all over." It's nursery school dirty talk. I've never seen Cosmo cover the proper use of terms like "sopping snatch" or "dripping twat" or "hungry cunt hole" or "buckets of sticky jizz from your cum cannon all over my face." You know, the real porn movie cliches.

 

[amofiga]

Some of the "less inhibited" women I've known have gone as far as things like "I want to do you with my mouth" and "I love when you eat my pussy" and "Oh God, use me, fuck me hard". Hot talk for sure, but not total porno talk.

 

[subwannabe]

I'll have to run this one by my wife - when she's in the mood. Not gonna work if she's not in the mood.

 

[chargergirl]

Funny how my comment was removed, when all I said was "it looks like the newest advice guru bombed out", but the rolling eyes icon and tongue-in-cheek comments remain.

You have a history of posting nasty, rude comments. It becomes tiresome, people get sick of it, and I hear about it.

 

[Edensgarden]

I have to agree. If she's ready to give you the dirty talk marathon and crank you up that way, it could well put her in the mood or if she's not in the mood, that kind of behavior is probably the last thing on her mind. Women are a lot different from guys. Most of them, unless they are being paid as professional whores or porn actresses, don't generally like playing that slut role just for the hell of it. If they ARE in the mood, SOME women will play that way. Many, probably most, won't even give you that scene even if they're wanting sex.

Most women seem to want the romantic "oh honey I love you more than anything in the world" missionary fuck if they're willing. Some, but not the bulk of the population will give you the slut fuck, but a lot of the women I've known, don't really like behaving like sluts. They've been conditioned out of it by their mom's and dads and nuns and grandmothers and everybody else from the time they were toddlers. For a woman to want to play the slut for you, she has to have wanted to "reject" all that childhood conditioning in favor of something that makes them feel a certain desire to want to be bad. It's not something that's common in the bulk of the female population. Most want to have that romance thing going on.

Ladies, if you disagree with me, tell me I'm wrong. My experience has been that maybe one out of 5 women really have that hidden slut desire and can go at sex like a dirty porn star because they like it that way. Most have varying degrees of "horny" behavior down to "don't touch me", but not many really really love in their heart of hearts being a dirty little slut. IF they play that role for their guy, it's more for HIS benefit and not because they get off on it.

It's like when I read some of that ridiculous shit in Cosmo and some of the other supermarket rags (yes I've read some that my girlfriends have had). There's some article that says, "How to talk dirty to your guy and light his fire." Then you read the article and the examples are like, "Ohhh baby I love when you touch me there. It makes me tingle all over." It's nursery school dirty talk. I've never seen Cosmo cover the proper use of terms like "sopping snatch" or "dripping twat" or "hungry cunt hole" or "buckets of sticky jizz from your cum cannon all over my face." You know, the real porn movie cliches.

I disagree to some extent. But I'm a freakin' tease, so what do I know?

I'm curious about your 1:5 "slut desire" ratio. Was this really from personal experience or did you actually pull it from the pages of Cosmo as well?

As for the porn cliches, you forgot "fuck my ass first baby", "ready for your rim?" and "i love to taste my pussy on your cock".

 

[Sheana_V]

Women are a lot different from guys. Most of them, unless they are being paid as professional whores or porn actresses, don't generally like playing that slut role just for the hell of it.

Do you typically like playing the slut role just for the hell of it?

Most women seem to want the romantic "oh honey I love you more than anything in the world" missionary fuck if they're willing.

I somehow doubt this. It's not my personal experience, nor the experience from my friends. I'd venture that most women want a good hard fuck. That being said, most women also want romantic, close, missionary tingling sex as well.

Some, but not the bulk of the population will give you the slut fuck, but a lot of the women I've known, don't really like behaving like sluts.

I still don't know what you mean by 'slut'.

Most want to have that romance thing going on.

Since when is romance the antithesis of a wild romp? Can't there be room in ones life for both?

Ladies, if you disagree with me, tell me I'm wrong. My experience has been that maybe one out of 5 women really have that hidden slut desire and can go at sex like a dirty porn star because they like it that way. Most have varying degrees of "horny" behavior down to "don't touch me", but not many really really love in their heart of hearts being a dirty little slut. IF they play that role for their guy, it's more for HIS benefit and not because they get off on it.

I'd venture mosr women can fuck like a porn star, at least some of the time. (Also, try avoid using 'dirty' as an adjective for sexworkers unless you're actively engaging in play)

You know, the real porn movie cliches.

Jenna Jameson is especially talented at dirty talk, most of us lack that level of skill. However I'd venture most ladies can beat cosmo.

 

[Sheana_V]

Also:

Edensgarden

 

[chargergirl]

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[Steve2694]

Wow, I'm surprised by the negative comments. Isn't this a fetish and sexuality forum that's supposed to be fun? Aren't we supposed to be turned on by the words, rather than criticizing the discussion? For the women who are saying "not if I'm not in the mood", the whole point is to support your mate despite your state of mind. This is non sexist, as I believe men need ideas on how to satisfy their wives when she's horny, and he isn't.

In a perfect world, both people would always be in harmony and always be in the mood. We all know that isn't reality. Sometimes sex is about giving to the other person, and not being so focused on yourself. Yes, you're not in the mood, but it's a wonderful gift to your soul mate to meet his her needs despite your current mood. The world would be a happier and more sexually pleased place if people realize that giving is just as important as receiving. Why not do something for your man that will have him reminiscing and fantasizing about you for weeks or months?

I would love to hear a woman's view of what she would love to experience, when he's not in the mood. For men, the idea masturbating to his wife's pussy is a turn-on. Let's use the example of a guy that's had a bad day at the office, and he can get his mind into love making mode. Ladies, you're horny and you want to get off, how can your not-in-the-mood man help?

 

[Lazy_lay]

This made me laugh. We watch porn together at times and get off on it. I guarantee you that neither he nor I only see each other in our fantasies, no matter what kind of fucking or role playing we do with each other. And trust me when I say that I've one upped a porn star or two in his eyes.

This whole thread makes me laugh. You are supposed to reply something like "IF he ever thinks about only seeing me in his fantasies I take my belt out and give him twenty until he promises to only jerk off to other women" or whatever other totally off the wall thing that seems to stretch the envelope...

....and there's almost no way a porn star can match the frenzy resulting from genuine affection...

 

[Lazy_lay]

....What you are actually describing is "here is a fantasy for a completely one sided sexual encounter", which is of course the exact opposite of "here's something for you ladies".

one sided encounter is totally hot, but not if the other is watching tv.

 

[SunDevilGirl]

The next time your guy is in the mood, and you aren't, rather than make excuses simply do the following. I'm going to present it as a role-play, so you get the whole picture.


One important point. Women never know what to say when men have an orgasm. This is a time when we're little boys again, and we love to hear your encouragement.

Thanks for the role-play dialogue....I found it amusing and somewhat arousing. Would this still work if I printed this out and read it word for word? Of course, I'd insert his name...

Is that true??? Men need encouragement when having an orgasm? I've never heard it put that way. Interesting!

 

[Steve2694]

It's not that we "need" encouragement, rather, we secretly love the idea that it turns you to see us cum. I'm a single guy with an active sex life, and most women retreat looking uncomfortable after a male orgasm. It might date back to the stigma of cum being gross, and the constant dialog about whether women swallow, or spit. The best way to counteract all this is for you to get into it, and to say nice and encouraging things leading up to, during, and after his orgasm. Personally, I love when I woman goes into nuturing mode, telling me how nice it is to see me pumping out my load. Heck, I have a raging hard-on just typing it!

 

[EvaRimes]

If I'm not in the mood, talking like this would probably get me in the mood!