Have you been "The other man"?

[MrSneakyinPA]

Like many men here, I want to share my wife, sexually! She doesn't express an interest in having sex with other men even with her full knowledge I would let her. But she does like dancing, which I don't. After several suggestions over the years, she finally agreed that she would probably go "dancing" with another man. Even asked me if I'd let her slow dance. "OF COURSE!!!!" I was thinking, but said, sure, you should, really. Now, if I can actually get her to go dancing with a man, hopefully, with her knowing I'd like her to go home with him and..... dance naked in bed on his hard cock, she might have a drink, feel all romantic slow dancing, he'd kiss her then who knows. In my dreams, SHE DOES go home with him.

Now here's the question.

I'd hope that she, and he would feel free to enjoy themselves in bed that night, but that he would not pursue anything else, unless she and I wanted them too. But it may very well be a one time thing that satisfied us both and we move on. Have you been "that guy" and was able to just enjoy a married woman and not make a big deal of it? It that rare?


BTW: She's a 47yo red head. Still nice and "tight".

 

[yougotmepegged]

I bet it is not that rare. Guys are good at separating sex from emotion. And your wife has a stunning body. lucky man!

 

[Somehowyou]

Yes, bit if it is really good he may want a second helping...and so may your wife. The question is where does it stop? That could get out of control. That's all I'm saying. But it would be hot as hell.

 

[Yachtsman69]

I have been the "other guy" with a few different couples over the years. To me it is all about what they want. That includes what sort of scenario we play out during our encounter(s), what sexual & behavioral boundaries there are, as well as whether they want to do it again after. I have no expectations beyond that and am fine with that.

 

[RedAllan]

I have been the "other guy" a couple of times, usually having an affair with married women. There was one time when I became a married woman's FB, her husband knew about me but we never met and she wasn't allowed to say anything about me to him (his rules)

This went on for a couple of months until I moved to another area and never saw her again, the emotional connection was minimal but we enjoyed each others bodies, and she reckoned her relationship with her husband was better.

BUT. this situation doesn't suit everybody, so be certain you both want it.

 

[MrSneakyinPA]

I suspect fantasy and reality are a strange thing to reconcile. While a lot of us men really do want this. It's a journey into the unknown and unforeseen. Which probably adds to the eroticism. Soooo , who wants to have passionate sex with my 47yo redhead wife?

 

[vegasflasher]

The other man

I was the other man. WWAAYY back in 66. I was 18? They were customers at our service station. She was, 7 yrs older than me. When she would come in for gas or whatever, there was a little flirting. But you have to be nice to the customers. "right".Then one day when I took her back to her house so we could work on her car back at the garage. She kissed me!!!! That was the beginning of an affair that ended in her getting divorced, her and I running away to Calif. OOHH I forgot about the day that her husband came to our house to confront me about seeing his wife. Just as my mother and I were going out for lunch.!!! A whole nother thread. Anyway I was THE OTHER MAN.

 

[MrSneakyinPA]

I got a PM asking why I wanted to share her. Interesting question actually. Not sure if I answered clearly, but this was my response"

"I want her to try something adventurous, and enjoy "letting herself go" with another man sexually. She's actually quite passive in bed. But she loves being fucked. I'd like whoever she lets fuck her be able to fuck her alllllll night. She was sexually active before we met with an older b/f who used to pick her up in his car and take her home everyday after school to his house before taking her home to hers. She has always loved her pussy being licked, and thankfully he liked doing it. Of all her b/f's, it didn't take long after they started dating for them to get her in bed and while she wasn't the aggressor, she certainly let them have their way with her as often as they wanted to. She's happy now, and feels no desire to explore being sexual with another man. But I'm sure once she spent a little time flirting and slow dancing close and hopefully making out, she'd be willing to let him have her redhaired pussy."

 

[MrSneakyinPA]

I will add one more thing. While she says she won't do it again. At a party a long time ago, She did end up in a bedroom with 2 guys one time that took turns fucking her after she "drank too much".

 

[beingtrue2me]

I have in fact been the "other woman" but it was with a woman so would that make me kinda sorta the "other man"? Hope not. Looking back on it I wish it had never happened. It did and I paid dearly for it and learned a hard lesson.

 

[MrSneakyinPA]

I have in fact been the "other woman" but it was with a woman so would that make me kinda sorta the "other man"? Hope not. Looking back on it I wish it had never happened. It did and I paid dearly for it and learned a hard lesson.

Awe, sorry it didn't work out. I suppose that's the risk those considering this need to account for.

 

[vegasflasher]

Beingtrue, PLEASE share with us the rest of the story.I think it would be very interesting reading. I shared my story about being the other man earlier

 

[Porkwarrior]

It's hard enough to find a FWB relationship that fits...a cuckold FWB, well no wonder it's gone on for years without it happening!

I've been the "other man", though it was either cheating spouses, a poly arrangement with all of us under the same roof, or swinger couples that played together.

The key is boundaries, established beforehand and written in stone.
If your wife says "only dancing"......let her dance with another man. And that's IT!

For now. Or forever.
Even if it doesn't happen, you can still picture his hand sliding over her ass slow dancing when you two are back home and you are pounding that gorgeous red pussy with all you've got.

 

[TJReilly]

Sure, it can be a “one time thing”, that satisfies both of you, and then both of you move on together, but life holds few guaranties. There is always the possibility that she could find someone she likes in bed better than you. You need to listen to your wife, and if she says no, then accept it. You could be pushing her into something that in the end, you may not want. Yes, I have been the other man, and yes, it can work out, but don’t bet anything on it that you don’t want to lose, like your marriage. Your wife is telling you no for a reason.

 

[Beck31]

"the other man"

In the sense that I have been involved with married women before then yes.

 

[andymusic35]

I suspect fantasy and reality are a strange thing to reconcile. While a lot of us men really do want this. It's a journey into the unknown and unforeseen. Which probably adds to the eroticism. Soooo , who wants to have passionate sex with my 47yo redhead wife?

Hi there, 35 year old guy from pa. Love your thread here. I have some experiences with couples and have a little thing for redheads . I would love to hear from you

 

[Touch_72]

I've been the other guy in a couple of mild (mainly oral) threesomes in the past. I've also been the other guy flirting and emailing online and have played a little (moreso just foreplay) with a couple of married women.

If all involved are on the same sheet of music, it can work as just sex. I've been able to separate it, myself, though I do care about the woman. Even in cases where she's unhappy at home and seeking a little life and attention, I have an odd set of morals about it even though people would say cheating doesn't have morals. And when it's not cheating (him knowing), I respect the boundaries they have.

 

[tonguedancer]

Yes, I have enjoyed the company of multiple married women. It has always been a friendly and respectful but strickly sexual relationship that would not threaten her marriage. FWB relationship. For me, sex and love and friendship are three different things. It's possible to have one, two, or all three of the mix without necessarily negatively impacting the other. In one case, her husband knew about me and basically didn't make an issue of it. I don't know how he really "felt" about it, but his wife didn't seem to worry about it so neither did I.

 

[MrSneakyinPA]

I'd certainly hope that she would be able to go dancing, them home with him, let him fuck her like crazy all night, then come home and tell me about it. I'm sure that anything as wonderfully simple as that is a rarity. But like others.....it's a spark of hope, even if misplaced, that keeps us fantasizing.

I suppose, if a woman reads this. Is this a crazy thing? Does it ever happen this simply?

 

[TheLM]

I have been the bull before, yes.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Only with women who cheat.