Interested in exploring Femdom...

[YoungToy]

As a male in his young 20s, Ive been interested in the topic for a while. Nothing TOO extreme (by my regards, at least), but Ive been interested in the topic for years, and Ive only done minimal exploring. Most girls I meet my age are turned off by it, and always want to be the submissive ones, and it gets boring honestly.

Ive been browsing this website for quite a while and I love a lot of the stories here, and they turn me more than porn at this point. Ive noticed theres a little something for everyone here, so I decided to make an account.

Ive only done a little bit, one or two girls have done some minimal things and everytime its mind blowing, but Im curious in exploring it more I guess. Especially with older woman, but one man can only dream.

I guess Im just curious in learning more about it and exploring it more, I guess. Im not too sure where to turn to, but this section seemed the most fitting!

 

[Stella_Omega]

Welcome! It is difficult to find young women who are aggressive and want to do unto a guy. That starts coming in later in life for most women-- I think it's because of our culture, but the "why" is not really important for you right now... You'll probably find older women are a better match for your tastes at this time...

(you should read the essay in my signature, by the way)

 

[YoungToy]

I prefer older woman anyway, more mature and experienced. Too bad its even harder to find them.

 

[ecstaticsub]

It would be easier if you put your location on your profile


just a friendly hint

 

[YoungToy]

Im looking for something more online right now, and maybe if I feel comfortable enough then do that...

 

[Stella_Omega]

I prefer older woman anyway, more mature and experienced. Too bad its even harder to find them.

Hmm. Try fetlife.com which is like a balls out facebook.

(don't use a dick pic for your avatar over there, if you want to attract women)

 

[ecstaticsub]

Im looking for something more online right now, and maybe if I feel comfortable enough then do that...

I completely understand.

Though, you may want to enable private messaging if you want to get email from people.

 

[YoungToy]

I completely understand.

Though, you may want to enable private messaging if you want to get email from people.

How do I do that? I thought I had that automatically enabled.

 

[YoungToy]

Nevermind, figured it out

 

[irishblade]

I think you'll find it pretty tough to find that online here. I think most women here don't go that way because they think men just want to do it to get their rocks off so they've become jaded to the whole thing. Start by talking to dommes in threads and build your relationships that way. Best of luck!

 

[YoungToy]

I think you'll find it pretty tough to find that online here. I think most women here don't go that way because they think men just want to do it to get their rocks off so they've become jaded to the whole thing. Start by talking to dommes in threads and build your relationships that way. Best of luck!

Thank you! Im trying to find any dommes but its hard. Seems like not many lurk here.

 

[irishblade]

Thank you! Im trying to find any dommes but its hard. Seems like not many lurk here.

Yeah, the fetlife suggestion is probably best for you though you gotta be careful about the ones that just want you to buy them stuff or send them cash. The women are out there. Google it too.

 

[YoungToy]

Yeah, the fetlife suggestion is probably best for you though you gotta be careful about the ones that just want you to buy them stuff or send them cash. The women are out there. Google it too.

I dont plan on spending money for it, unless someone seems like a meet-up. I dont trust google and anything involving sex Too risky. I came upon this site a few years ago and Ive loved it ever since, its so open and free.

 

[SouthernBiGuy]

The only Doms you will have to spend money for are professional dominatrixes.

As has been said, go join FetLife. I took the same advice from someone on here and joined and shortly there after I was in a great relationship with a married couple that helped me explore all sorts of exciting new facets of the BDSM lifestyle. Honestly, it was the best sexual advice I have ever received.

 

[WishItsTrue_TG]

I think the women posters (guys too) have given great advice, especially irishblades advise to talk to women and get to know them.
There's a proverbial "slippery slope" that has to be avoided. If you talk to a woman in order to use her as a Dom, don't be surprised if she realizes you're trying to use her! Put your desire for a scene on a back burner. Forget about it for a while. It's turn will come, sooner or later (emphasis on '"later")
Pay attention to her for awhile, and forget about having a scene. Think of something else to distract yourself. A great distraction to use is....paying attention to her! Good distraction. Listen to her. Try to put yourself in her position.
I've always found it fascinating. Women think so different from men. I would never think of the things they think of. Listening to women, I'm constantly surprised by how they feel and the thoughts that flow from that. It's like opening a box, and always finding something different. When you listen to, "I don't like to do that," and "but I can't do this," (and you think about it) you realize, "You do have a problem there, Lady."
I'm going to say something that isn't very nice. There are a lot of women who very sensibly take the position that most men are out to use them.....because most men are out to use them. And they very sensibly put us a defensive wall ......to protect themselves from some selfish bastard who's trying to exploit them. There is a vicious cycle operating in this, that just gets worse and worse.
I think you'll find it much easier to really like a woman if you can find a sincere woman who isn't operating from behind a wall. Than, you get to see who she really is, and that usually means you're going to grow to like her. I think sincere people grow to like it other more and more, and defensive people dig wider and wider gulfs separating them. And there is a tragedy in that because the women often have very good reason to do it.
YoungToy, I would suggest you talk to a lot of women. And when you find one you think is sincere, pay attention to her and think about what she is saying. And I think nature will take it's course from there, and you'll be on the road to being two happy people.
PS. One other piece of bad news. There are 100 subs for every domme. Dommes are few and far between. And every domme will have a hundred guys trying to get her attention. It is an unpleasant fact of like. Grin and bear. Learn to live with it as best you can. I would suggest you distract yourself from getting gloomy over this. Find a woman who's sincere and pay attention to her. That's a good distraction.

 

[reallyunsure]

As a male in his young 20s, Ive been interested in the topic for a while. Nothing TOO extreme (by my regards, at least), but Ive been interested in the topic for years, and Ive only done minimal exploring. Most girls I meet my age are turned off by it, and always want to be the submissive ones, and it gets boring honestly.

My condolences. Nice to have someone else in the boat with me, though.

 

[midwestyankee]

Have you ever considered getting married? Quickest route to being dominated by a woman, some would say.