This question goes out to the women who have had a bad experience their first time, or any time and now won't do anal sex. Men, I don't mind getting responses from you about your wife or girlfriend either. I ask this question because I have had a couple of partners that will not even think about anal sex because of someone else. It's not a must have for me, I'm just curious who else falls in this category.
How many women will not do anal because of a bad experience?
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I've only had a couple of girlfriends that wouldn't do it. But all the rest have always gotten to the point where they just started asking for it and really love it. Some i had to convince to try it. A couple they just loved it before they even met me.
I've only had one fuck buddy that loved anal, and on girlfriend that was okay with it. The rest we never did or was never brought up because I wasn't with then very long. The ones that didn't was all because a previous guy had no idea what he was doing and they never wanted to try again. It doesn't bother me that we never tried anal, I'm more concerned of giving oral than anything. Just hard to believe that there were a decent amount of guys out there had no idea how to have anal sex.
Bad experience or just didn't like it? I know a few women that didn't enjoy it, wasn't the guy that did anything wrong.
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I didn't like it. It wouldn't have mattered who I was with. I figure if a man can't accept that his female partner doesn't want anal sex, he should find one who does.
I completely agree with you, no matter what you are doing with each other you both should enjoy.
That's kind of the same response I had with a few women, the previous person they did it with was such a bad experience they never wanted too again. One woman wouldn't even let me go near her ass with my tongue, too afraid I would try something. I respected her boundaries and never approached the subject again.
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A bad experience could one of a number of things and it's proably best not to be too specific but I'd like to ask if the women who don't think it's icky, if it's a hygiene concern or if it's just painful?
Putting waste disposal next to recreation was never a great evolution development. Given the choice I'd prefer not to do anal - it's complcated though.
Putting waste disposal next to recreation was never a great evolution development. Given the choice I'd prefer not to do anal - it's complcated though.
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Why is everything aimed at women?
The question would be more suitable for men
The question would be more suitable for men
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Because he's asking women
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Thanks for that 'misses state the obvious'
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Couldn't resist It's a fair point but then the thread would just get swamped with men as always happens... If you're keen to have that discussion then pop over to LGBT where that would I'm sure be welcomed
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They're all swamped with men anyway, my point was everything is aimed at a women's perspective
Equal opportunities an all that, you know the script
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My first experience was pretty bad but thats because neither of us knew what we were doing. Anal is an aquired taste IMO. I like it now, but didn't used to, more because vaginal felt better (still does) and was less of a hassle.
If you fear anal, you're gonna have a bad time. Relax, use plenty of lube and the woman needs to be in control, NOT the man. It's your ass, guide him accordingly.
If you fear anal, you're gonna have a bad time. Relax, use plenty of lube and the woman needs to be in control, NOT the man. It's your ass, guide him accordingly.
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[QUOTE=stickygirl;50503145]A bad experience could one of a number of things and it's proably best not to be too specific but I'd like to ask if the women who don't think it's icky, if it's a hygiene concern or if it's just painful?
Putting waste disposal next to recreation was never a great evolution development. Given the choice I'd prefer not to do anal - it's complcated though.[/QUOTE]
I find it a bit uncomfortable and it can be, hmmm, messy, Which I find embarrassing.
Putting waste disposal next to recreation was never a great evolution development. Given the choice I'd prefer not to do anal - it's complcated though.
[/QUOTE]I find it a bit uncomfortable and it can be, hmmm, messy, Which I find embarrassing.
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If you fear anal, you're gonna have a bad time. Relax, use plenty of lube and the woman needs to be in control, NOT the man. It's your ass, guide him accordingly.
That is soooo not true - trust me when i say i know what i am doing in this department and the girls always let me have my way and let me take control.
You girls have obviously been with guys that either don't care about you or don't know what they are doing.
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If you are having a mess back there then you are not cleaning yourself properly back there and it is simple as that.
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It is hard to be enema fresh and anal ready at all times.
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Never had that much of a problem with any of my girlfriends. And none of them ever complained.
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None complained - were they as keen as you? Would it have been a deal-breaker for you if they had? Just asking because I just don't know
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As keen as me? Not sure what that means. Are you referring to hygeine? No one complained because there was nothing to complain about. Either you are a clean person or you are not. If you take a bath or shower every day i don't see where there should be a problem.
The only dealbreaker for me would be if i bent her over and it was filthy back there. Poor hygeine is not only a turnoff it is disgusting and it is grounds for an immediate break up.
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