How to more accurately pidgehole people

[Que]

I find that when I don't know much about someone but I find a couple of things of interest I tend to fill up the rest of their character and personality with traits that I would like to see, with little to no evidence that such qualities exist.

Huge waste of time.

I seem to have the best results when I recognize a personality type. But for me I associate it with a particular person from my past. Both the positive experiences such as oh she's very accommodating like so and so was.... or the cautionary examples oh lord it's another one of THOSE!

I am vaguely where aware of a personality classification methodology that involes four letters I don't know what for letters mean. I do know that it has to do with for example if they're introverted or extroverted whether there this or whether they are that it seemed to show some promise.

I'm sure that I'm going to get these letter arrangements wrong but for example they look like this: ENTI ITNI EQFG Or whatever.

Can someone provide me a link to a decent tutorial on this idea?

Does anyone use this sort of mindset in how they screen people effectively?

If so have you found that at times but I'm jumping to the wrong classifications that you dismiss the wrong people are keep the wrong people around too long?

 

[subdued_passion]

You're referring to MBTI, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.

There are 16 personality types and the letters are:

E- Extraversion
I- Introversion
S- Sensing
N- Intuition
T- Thinking
F- Feeling
J- Judging
P- Perception


ETA- I know of a lady who is certified to administer the MBTI test and I know she uses it to filter out personalities that would be unsuitable to her personality type.

 

[Que]

Yes...that is it.

Now that I have the terms in front of me I'm not sure whether it will or won't help but I'm going to read up on it.

 

[Bramblethorn]

There are a bunch of different personality-typing schemes. There's MBTI, DISC, Western astrology, Chinese astrology, and lots of others. Or you can go on the Internet and do a "which My Little Pony character are you?" quiz.

As far as I can tell, they all have roughly equal scientific validity. Any of them can be used to describe observed behaviour, and they benefit from the "Barnum effect". But it's not clear that any of them is especially useful for predicting interactions outside the behaviour you've already seen.

MBTI in particular is a business - you have to pay for the full testing - so they work hard to present it as a scientific method, but there's considerable doubt about its scientific merits. For instance, if you retest people five weeks after giving them a MBTI test, close to 50% will get a different result in at least one of those four axes. Some reading:

http://www.recruiter.com/i/critique-of-the-myers-briggs-type-indicator-critique/
http://www.recruiter.com/i/a-critique-of-the-myers-briggs-type-indicator-mbti-part-two/
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=636491

I've done a lot of these tests at work, including the commercial version of MBTI, and so many of my yes/no answers are "well it depends on context".

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Yes...that is it.

Now that I have the terms in front of me I'm not sure whether it will or won't help but I'm going to read up on it.

http://www.sillymusic.com/yiddish_dictionary_definitiions.asp

Jews have some wonderful terms to describe people.

As a retired psychologist I know all the jargon for describing people to other professionals...like EUTHYMIC...the term for a normal, healthy mood. But readers have no clue. I wouldn't say HISTRIONIC, I'd say DRAMA QUEEN and ATTENTION WHORE. I might sat that a BORDERLINE PERSONALITY is a STRESS JUNKIE. I'd call a SCHIZOTYPAL PERSONALITY a UNICORN COWBOY or AN ARMY OF ONE MARCHING TO THE BEAT OF AN UNSEEN DRUMMER. A hebephrenic schizophrenic I'd call a SHIT BIRD cuz they love to play with excrement and wear it.

 

[sunandshadow]

http://www.sillymusic.com/yiddish_dictionary_definitiions.asp

Jews have some wonderful terms to describe people.

As a retired psychologist I know all the jargon for describing people to other professionals...like EUTHYMIC...the term for a normal, healthy mood. But readers have no clue. I wouldn't say HISTRIONIC, I'd say DRAMA QUEEN and ATTENTION WHORE. I might sat that a BORDERLINE PERSONALITY is a STRESS JUNKIE. I'd call a SCHIZOTYPAL PERSONALITY a UNICORN COWBOY or AN ARMY OF ONE MARCHING TO THE BEAT OF AN UNSEEN DRUMMER. A hebephrenic schizophrenic I'd call a SHIT BIRD cuz they love to play with excrement and wear it.

Unicorn cowboy is awesome, I totally want to read a humor erotica story title that. What's the kind of person who, when they get a little stressed they stop talking, and when they get a lot stressed they unplug/turn off the phone and do some kind of "make a den and hide in it" behavior?

 

[sunandshadow]

You're referring to MBTI, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.

There are 16 personality types and the letters are:

E- Extraversion
I- Introversion
S- Sensing
N- Intuition
T- Thinking
F- Feeling
J- Judging
P- Perception


ETA- I know of a lady who is certified to administer the MBTI test and I know she uses it to filter out personalities that would be unsuitable to her personality type.

Oh, MBTI, yeah there's a book about romantic compatibility between types (and also parenting challenges between types). Me, I'm an INTJ. I find Es' interests are usually not very compatible with mine, it's hard to find something fun we can do together because they want to do social things and I don't usually; I have little interest in sitting around talking or playing team sports or going to parties. I find S's usually look at me like an alien because I'm an abstract theoretical thinker, while they seem short-sighted and details obsessed to me. I do ok with Fs and Ps because I'm more in the middle on those two axes, whereas I'm pretty far on one end for the first two. Ts are more interested in logic and Fs are more interested in feelings, but I think they are both important and a balance between the two is necessary. Ps are indecisive and compelled to moderate extreme statements and play devils's advocate, while Js make snap decisions that they are resistant to changing and are impatient with long contemplative conversations that don't get to a point. I wish I was more decisive but I also wish I was more patient.

 

[quietlylooking]

MBTI in particular is a business - you have to pay for the full testing - so they work hard to present it as a scientific method, but there's considerable doubt about its scientific merits. For instance, if you retest people five weeks after giving them a MBTI test, close to 50% will get a different result in at least one of those four axes.

I was tested when I was in high school and again 25 years later; both times I was an ISTJ. At least I'm consistent (tee hee).

 

[Que]

There are a bunch of different personality-typing schemes. There's MBTI, DISC, Western astrology, Chinese astrology, and lots of others. Or you can go on the Internet and do a "which My Little Pony character are you?" quiz.

As far as I can tell, they all have roughly equal scientific validity. Any of them can be used to describe observed behaviour, and they benefit from the "Barnum effect". But it's not clear that any of them is especially useful for predicting interactions outside the behaviour you've already seen.

MBTI in particular is a business - you have to pay for the full testing - so they work hard to present it as a scientific method, but there's considerable doubt about its scientific merits. For instance, if you retest people five weeks after giving them a MBTI test, close to 50% will get a different result in at least one of those four axes. Some reading:

http://www.recruiter.com/i/critique-of-the-myers-briggs-type-indicator-critique/
http://www.recruiter.com/i/a-critique-of-the-myers-briggs-type-indicator-mbti-part-two/
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=636491

I've done a lot of these tests at work, including the commercial version of MBTI, and so many of my yes/no answers are "well it depends on context".

Does sound a little more convoluted in a little less accurate for my purposes than just assigning them like: oh that one is a Becky.

I once shared some office space with a dental group that overflowed into our area so we gave them some space. Margarita was in charge of hiring and I were talking one day. I mentioned that too often to be coincidence I find myself compatible people that work in dentist office or nurses and people like that in the helping professions... I asked her do those professions just attract a certain type of person?

Her answer was that they actively seek the "those kind of people"

I probably should have gone to dental school, or perhaps get my teeth cleaned more often.

http://www.sillymusic.com/yiddish_dictionary_definitiions.asp

Jews have some wonderful terms to describe people.

As a retired psychologist I know all the jargon for describing people to other professionals...like EUTHYMIC...the term for a normal, healthy mood. But readers have no clue. I wouldn't say HISTRIONIC, I'd say DRAMA QUEEN and ATTENTION WHORE. I might sat that a BORDERLINE PERSONALITY is a STRESS JUNKIE. I'd call a SCHIZOTYPAL PERSONALITY a UNICORN COWBOY or AN ARMY OF ONE MARCHING TO THE BEAT OF AN UNSEEN DRUMMER. A hebephrenic schizophrenic I'd call a SHIT BIRD cuz they love to play with excrement and wear it.

Oy... Maybe what I need is a Jewish matchmaker. Maybe they could steer me away from the Unicorn cowgirls.

 

[feverplanet]

I have a list of questions that I ask in order to pigeonhole new people I meet.
I don't ask them all at once though, because that would be too obvious.

 

[Peachyfish]

Enneagram

PErsonally, I like the ennegram.

http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/intro.asp#.Umqf-CSE4xc

There's a lot about it on the internet (as there is just about everything!)

But I find that it's a little easier for me than Myers Briggs.

Someone who holes up and gets overwhelmed by people might be a 5, for example.

Just throwing in my .02!

 

[subdued_passion]

Does sound a little more convoluted in a little less accurate for my purposes than just assigning them like: oh that one is a Becky.

You're not going to be able to figure out their "letters" yourself. Your personality type is determined by your responses to the scenarios in the questionnaire.

Oh, MBTI, yeah there's a book about romantic compatibility between types (and also parenting challenges between types). Me, I'm an INTJ. I find Es' interests are usually not very compatible with mine, it's hard to find something fun we can do together because they want to do social things and I don't usually; I have little interest in sitting around talking or playing team sports or going to parties. I find S's usually look at me like an alien because I'm an abstract theoretical thinker, while they seem short-sighted and details obsessed to me. I do ok with Fs and Ps because I'm more in the middle on those two axes, whereas I'm pretty far on one end for the first two. Ts are more interested in logic and Fs are more interested in feelings, but I think they are both important and a balance between the two is necessary. Ps are indecisive and compelled to moderate extreme statements and play devils's advocate, while Js make snap decisions that they are resistant to changing and are impatient with long contemplative conversations that don't get to a point. I wish I was more decisive but I also wish I was more patient.

^^^Example of how to use MBTI.

 

[sunandshadow]

PErsonally, I like the ennegram.

http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/intro.asp#.Umqf-CSE4xc

None of those ennegram types seem to really fit me. :/ I'm kind of like #1 - Reformer, kind of like #5 - Investigator, and kind of like #7 Enthusiast. But they all have some aspect that doesn't really describe me.

 

[Que]

PErsonally, I like the ennegram.

http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/intro.asp#.Umqf-CSE4xc

There's a lot about it on the internet (as there is just about everything!)

But I find that it's a little easier for me than Myers Briggs.

Someone who holes up and gets overwhelmed by people might be a 5, for example.

Just throwing in my .02!

Looks kind of interesting.

I have a list of questions that I ask in order to pigeonhole new people I meet.
I don't ask them all at once though, because that would be too obvious.

Fair point... probably wouldn't be practical without a bubble sheet and have people fill it out.

You know what I actually had in mind when I was asking the question was a couple of dating sites I looked at 3 years ago, intersecting with the fact that I have a disproportionate number of nurses and dental hygienists that display interest towards me.

Last night I was out and about having a one man wake for my father...( none of my relatives that I know of drink... I've only recently acquired the skill)

Met a girl... trying to quantify the personality type, sort of compliant but not a doormat.high spirits, but not looking to top. It kind of occurs to me that I guess the point isn't necessarily figuring out what I like because if I like them I like them. Maybe the point should be figuring out which ones are going to like me. Anyway sometime in between meeting her and her deciding that she yes did want to go home with a man in a Brooks Brothers blazer... I found out what are background was and lo and behold she was a nurse.

Also to my Nascient career typing dating technique... I'm adding pastry chef to the career types that I apparently am compatible with. I met a girl at a club a couple of weeks ago and the place was too freaking loud I couldn't hear myself talk. I attempted to politely have a word with the DJ. He seems less than receptive and I made the mistake of thinking that the loud mouth girl near the DJ stand that told me what do I expect I'm in a club deal with it was an actual manager turns out she wasn't. But in between that girl pissing me off and finding out she wasn't I was in quite a mood. I don't enjoy my own company when I'm angry so I try not to subject others to it especially random strangers... so I withdrew.

When I ran into the pastry chef again she would rather cheerfully remembered how are irritated I was. Didn't phase her at all. Personality type that doesn't let someone else is stormy moods impact them is kind of a keeper in my view. I'm just puzzled why such as sunny personality would find dark and stormy attractive but I guess that's not my problem if is she"s happy right?

 

[SillyBilly1993]

For some people anything to make them horny. But the thought of trying to bang your mom is as messed up as diddling kids and committing beastiality!

 

[NippleMuncher]

For some people anything to make them horny. But the thought of trying to bang your mom is as messed up as diddling kids and committing beastiality!

So, do you have an original thought, or do you just cut/paste this as your pat answer to everything?

 

[Que]

I think he meant to post that on an adjacent thread..

At least I hope so. My mom is 74; even in her younger days I never had an Oedipus complex.

Matter of fact it kinda bugs me just a little bit I seem to be most compatible with nurses which is mom's vocation.

The girl I picked up Saturday night, was definitely not dressed as a nurse... but we get to talkin and lo and behold yet another nurse. Renowned teaching hospital nearby so I guess maybe that's part of it. I've been trying to figure out why the nurses like me... this one doesn't even work in a psych ward she does wound care. Perhaps I seem a bit pustuelent. In this case I think she just liked my suit. I've decided that I'm never walking into a nightclub attired any other way.