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My wife says that better than 50% of the time she enjoys foreplay and just fucking. That just the thrusting of my dick in and out is enjoyable and that she doesn't need an orgasm to enjoy herself. I have always lived by the,she comes first rule and this just throws that out the window. So my question to you is this true and what are your opinions?
 
So I just read your question to the bride...her response: "she may be yelling the truth...although I love cumming during, before and after penetration, the act of sex is enjoyable with you and the connectedness I feel with you during is amazing"...having said that, she gets off during sex alone about 75% of the time but she legitimately thinks its about the journey, not the destination
 
This is just my opinion but I agree. I love cumming, don't get me wrong. But the foreplay and sex is enjoyable whether I cum or not. Ok, especially the foreplay! ;) Also, riding the edge of an orgasm without spilling over for an extended period of time is enjoyable in and of itself.

Although, there are also times when I just need to cum and make him get to it until the fireworks happen. LOL
 
I agree with your wife as well, I'm sort of the same. I think the right kind of sex is the one where you don't require coming for it to have been worth it :)
 
Yes, I can agree, with really good foreplay and if its loads of fun, I really enjoy the thrusting.
 
idontk said:
My wife says that better than 50% of the time she enjoys foreplay and just fucking. That just the thrusting of my dick in and out is enjoyable and that she doesn't need an orgasm to enjoy herself. I have always lived by the,she comes first rule and this just throws that out the window. So my question to you is this true and what are your opinions?
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I'd be more inclined to think that perhaps the take-home from this is not to beat yourself up if sex isn't 'perfect'. (i.e. the rule that she always comes first.) That just puts more pressure on you and takes away from the connectedness that can be had, and the varieties of sex that you can have with your partner. This isn't to say that you should never try to help her out, it'd be irritating if your partner didn't care at all about your pleasure, but just relax and go with it.

So... yes and no. :) It depends. :)
 
Sex can be just as fun without an orgasm, although I would never say no to it lol
 
I agree with the posts above in general. For me great sex doesn't have to finish in cumming, as long as I enjoy the foreplay like kissing, touching, cuddling, whispering (and many more) and feel loved and intimacy between the two. With these things, women can feel very excited and we can feel orgasms...I am sure many would agree! But then again I am not saying I don't like to cum ;)
 
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Meh. I'm selfish. Get me off or I'm killerizing your face.
 
Corbal said:
Meh. I'm selfish. Get me off or I'm killerizing your face.
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Mmm... I do love selfish in bed girls. ;)

When my wife and I started sleeping together I realized that me being worried about making sure she came was just putting pressure on her, accidentally. Now that I just enjoy making her feel good she cums at least once every time.
 
Idontk has posted a very interesting Q, and I am agreeing with his wife, because the sexual experience can become more stressful than enjoyable, if and when it seems to have a goal: the Orgasm.
I am a giving woman who enjoys an extended foreplay, and any kind of arousing, exciting play that my man is willing to give me, especially kissing which makes my body respond in a very effusive and powerfully sexy way. So not many times does he have to "make me" orgasm, he can watch as I play with myself and reach several little ones, I like that he can feel comfortable to ride me and I love it when he pumps and strokes me deep, fucking together and feeling that intimate connection.
Mostly I want to share is that I believe the orgasm is muy importante for him, maybe not so much for her, although it is a wonderful feeling of closeness with your man when we cum, right ladies? :)
CBM514 his wife said it just right, so enjoy the journey and take a long hard time to get to the destination ;)
 
I would agree with the OP's wife, too. It's not always about getting off. Sometimes, in the past, I've been too tired or too distracted to focus on an actual orgasm, but still thoroughly enjoyed the closeness and intensity, and getting him off.
 
Yes, if this is what she said, then you can believe her. I have experienced this with my current boyfriend... I don't necessarily need to get off to feel completely satisfied. That said, we have sex a LOT (usually twice or three times a day, with me typically having multiple orgasms each time) so I'm certainly not lacking any O's.

idontk said:
My wife says that better than 50% of the time she enjoys foreplay and just fucking. That just the thrusting of my dick in and out is enjoyable and that she doesn't need an orgasm to enjoy herself. I have always lived by the,she comes first rule and this just throws that out the window. So my question to you is this true and what are your opinions?
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Nah, I'm quite happy to fuck and not cum. Not for lack on input on his part, I just often find the fuck itself more satisfying.

I really hate using food analogies in reference to sex, because I don't get food play, but the way I describe it is orgasms, for me, are like sweets. It's a short flash of intensity, but I'd need like 15 to feel fully satisfied, and often I haven't the energy for it. Meanwhile, a fuck is like some wonderful roast dinner and when we're done I'll feel like I could be satisfied for days.

If I have both, that's cool. But often he asks me if I want to slow down a bit and cum a few times and I get all "NOFUCKMENOWPLEASE"

:D
 
Corbal said:
Meh. I'm selfish. Get me off or I'm killerizing your face.
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I have days like that too. It's not selfish. I think that secretly, that is probably how men feel. I mean, imagine what would happen if you asked a bunch of men how they felt about sex without orgasm. xD

I think to feel like that about it is fine.
 
idontk said:
My wife says that better than 50% of the time she enjoys foreplay and just fucking. That just the thrusting of my dick in and out is enjoyable and that she doesn't need an orgasm to enjoy herself. I have always lived by the,she comes first rule and this just throws that out the window. So my question to you is this true and what are your opinions?
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is she happy with this arrangement? If it works well and you are both satisfied, then keep it up.
 
I'd also have to agree with the majority here - it's about the total experience. That being said let me add the codicil that it also depends very much on having 'the right partner'. There have been times in the past when it's been all about the 'O'. With my current SO, it is all about the loving, and the mutual pleasure - and if it doesn't always result in orgasm for one or the other of us I couldn't begin to tell you, neither of us is keeping score...
 
I think...

... normally, I'd nod in agreement with your wife's opinion... however, I'm having a tough time remembering clearly my last orgasm involving sex, in person, with a man. Right now, I'd be happy with any kind of physical closeness involving a man... Not ANY man, but a man I'm into, that I like, and feel I can trust.
 
Having said that I do agree with your wife, I would also add that it only works on the basis that he doesn't assume I don't want one, because then if I do it makes it difficult to have to ask for one. He always assumes I'd like one unless I change tack and personally that is ideal for me. I'd be upset if I really wanted one and he assumed I didn't.

(I'm not one of those that just seems to magically have them)
 
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