If You Knew Something

[Killswitch]

About the length of time you had an erection when you met Freya.

I was courteous and polite to Freya and her friends. Bought drinks and the whole shot.

Sex was not the objective of our meeting up.

Her parents own property on a lake near me that she visited now and then.

You seem angry.

 

[Cheyenne]

Two words: Magic Merlin.

And no one but the REALLY REALLY oldtimers will have any idea what that means.

 

[Sean]

Scotty (aka Scotty's Cousin aka DateRape aka DV81) was a classic. He contacted me via email and sadly informed me that my "wife" VermillionSkye was whoring it up on a site called Literotica. To this day I don't know A) how he got my email or B) how he determined she was my "wife".

Damn, I miss Scotty. That fucker provided me with more entertainment than the rest of Lit put together.

 

[kotori]

The problem with "If You Knew Something" is that most likely you don't know everything.

 

[lovetoread]

Two words: Magic Merlin.

And no one but the REALLY REALLY oldtimers will have any idea what that means.

Oh my. Your memory is amazing.

 

[Squibbs]

I'm not telling.

 

[BoyNextDoor]

about somebody on the GB - about who they really were, the type of horrible person they were and the sort of things they'd done to others - would you tell?

Is it your duty to warn others and to prevent further predatory behaviour?

Or is it your duty to protect the victims because the information getting out would hurt them - not to mention potentially result in backlash against them? (And also yourself?)

Is it better to keep quiet and retain your pride or to air the dirty laundry and reap what comes?

Obviously the KRC stuff got me thinking. Discuss, etc.

"All is fair in love and war" - no?

 

[Cheyenne]

Oh my. Your memory is amazing.

Easy to remember personal involvement. But the same outcome wouldn't be possible 13 years later on the GB.

 

[ChinaBandit]

Tell all, especially if it's funny.

 

[evesdream]

A lot of things come out here on the boards, but in fact most of it is none of our business.

I think you need to tell people on a need-to-know basis. Or simply warn people off of doing things that you think would put them in danger if you can't tell them the whole story.

 

[koalabear]

I'm just glad I got the zoloft concession here.

 

[Adre]

I'm just glad I got the zoloft concession here.

Who are your best customers?

 

[koalabear]

Who are your best customers?

I can't say until Obamcare goes into effect.

 

[run_silent]

Two words: Magic Merlin.

And no one but the REALLY REALLY oldtimers will have any idea what that means.

I'm not an oldtimer. Without getting into specifics what is lesson we should learn?

 

[Recidiva]

Ethical conundrum.

I try to keep stuff told to me in confidence...in confidence.

I got to know someone online and she was a good friend, I met her, she was reckless and crazy, but fun and smart. She called me one day and told me that if I didn't hear from her again, I should call the police because she'd have killed herself.

I did. I took her at her word, I called her local police, she was fine. I wasted the police's time and ended our relationship. Whatever she was doing with that comment wasn't clear, but it does mean that even a real relationship with someone or threats don't mean they happen.

So obviously if I think it's life threatening and I have the info, I'll do something. That is not to say it works out that I was right, because I'm getting this info all by hearsay.

I'd have to be pretty sure before I'd either break confidence or intervened in any way than probably just withdrawing from that individual and not being active with them.

If I'm really disturbed about something like that, I'll probably go off Lit for a while.

 

[run_silent]

Ethical conundrum.

I try to keep stuff told to me in confidence...in confidence.

I got to know someone online and she was a good friend, I met her, she was reckless and crazy, but fun and smart. She called me one day and told me that if I didn't hear from her again, I should call the police because she'd have killed herself.

I did. I took her at her word, I called her local police, she was fine. I wasted the police's time and ended our relationship. Whatever she was doing with that comment wasn't clear, but it does mean that even a real relationship with someone or threats don't mean they happen.

So obviously if I think it's life threatening and I have the info, I'll do something. That is not to say it works out that I was right, because I'm getting this info all by hearsay.



I'd have to be pretty sure before I'd either break confidence or intervened in any way than probably just withdrawing from that individual and not being active with them.

If I'm really disturbed about something like that, I'll probably go off Lit for a while.

Be calm. Sometimes we get sucked into things. Your decision was based on what you knew at the time. How would you have felt if you ignored it and it ended in death?

 

[Recidiva]

Be calm. Sometimes we get sucked into things. Your decision was based on what you knew at the time. How would you have felt if you ignored it and it ended in death?

Right. I do know that, which is why my current strategy is to withdraw. We all know I might try to talk someone to death...but actually interfere in their real lives? That would take...a lot more than hearsay.

 

[pointless]

I'm not an oldtimer. Without getting into specifics what is lesson we should learn?

back to pretending you're a noob? neat.

 

[Noor]

Two words: Magic Merlin.

And no one but the REALLY REALLY oldtimers will have any idea what that means.

Wow, that was so long ago and far away, pre-Noor and my silly man even, can't remember who I was then, I mainly lurked.

This might help the interested.

 

[Phelia]

It's tough. Drama here gets so ugly - everyone feels entitled to it and has an expert opinion, and the carcass is picked over by vultures for weeks. If we could be cool and mature about it, accept it for what it is, and move on, we'd probably see a lot more personal drama play out on the boards, but our gluttony has made it scarce. Sins can be cruel.

I would probably want to keep something private unless it were really egregious and I felt people had a right to know, like pink did. Especially if other people could get hurt. Can be hard to draw that line, and I imagine emotions play a large role.

There are probably a few things I'd restrict to telling a handful of people in private, but if I were the one who had done the shitty thing, I'd want the chance to read what was being said about me and respond. If I'd done something SUPER shitty, I'd deserve to be excoriated publicly for it.

I don't know. I am kinda sad. I'll snap out of it, but I just wish people would stop doing bad things. That's not naive, right?

 

[Noor]

Ethical conundrum.

I try to keep stuff told to me in confidence...in confidence.

I got to know someone online and she was a good friend, I met her, she was reckless and crazy, but fun and smart. She called me one day and told me that if I didn't hear from her again, I should call the police because she'd have killed herself.

I did. I took her at her word, I called her local police, she was fine. I wasted the police's time and ended our relationship. Whatever she was doing with that comment wasn't clear, but it does mean that even a real relationship with someone or threats don't mean they happen.

So obviously if I think it's life threatening and I have the info, I'll do something. That is not to say it works out that I was right, because I'm getting this info all by hearsay.

I'd have to be pretty sure before I'd either break confidence or intervened in any way than probably just withdrawing from that individual and not being active with them.

If I'm really disturbed about something like that, I'll probably go off Lit for a while.

I am quite literal that way, although I did refrain from killing my former best friend when her stay of committment was to being released into the custody of her parents. I feel bad about that but I had no way to stop it. I also didn't think it would be go for her kids.
I have another friend who told me to shoot him if he ever got religious, so far he has had cancer and not gotten it so I think I am safe.

 

[Recidiva]

I am quite literal that way, although I did refrain from killing my former best friend when her stay of committment was to being released into the custody of her parents. I feel bad about that but I had no way to stop it. I also didn't think it would be go for her kids.
I have another friend who told me to shoot him if he ever got religious, so far he has had cancer and not gotten it so I think I am safe.

20 years or so ago I was much more intertwined with the real lives of the people I played online with. Knew everybody's story. I'm much less inclined to do that just...well...it isn't a unique and small community now, it's huge. I suppose it's the difference between living in a small town where everybody knows your name and your business and moving to a big city where you avoid making eye contact on the street or you'll be there all day and can't get to where you're going.

You and I may have the same male friend.

I might be very, very manipulative and attempt to get someone to spill the beans publicly after being provoked. I've done that too. Possibly not morally superior, but effective.

 

[Saint Peter]

Joe Jackson

Mother doesn't go out anymore
Just sits at home and rolls her spastic eyes
But every weekend through the door
Come words of wisdom from the world outside

If you want to know 'bout the bishop and the actress
If you want to know how to be a star
If you want to know 'bout the stains on the mattress
You can read it in the Sunday papers
Sunday papers

Mother's wheelchair stays out in the hall
Why should she go out when the TV's on?
Whatever moves beyond these walls
She'll know the facts when Sunday comes along
If you want to know 'bout the mad punk rockers*
If you want to know how to play guitar
If you want to know 'bout any other suckers
You can read it in the Sunday papers
Read it in the Sunday papers

Sunday papers, don't ask no questions
Sunday papers, don't get no lies
Sunday papers, don't raise objections
Sunday papers, ain't got no eyes

Brother's headin' that way now, I guess
He just read somethin', made his face turn blue
Well I got nothin' 'gainst the press
They wouldn't print it if it wasn't true
If you want to know 'bout the gay politician (oh yeah!)
If you want to know how to drive your car
If you want to know 'bout the new sex position

You can read it in the Sunday papers
Read it in the Sunday papers
Sunday papers, don't ask no questions
Sunday papers, don't get no lies
Sunday papers, don't raise objections
Sunday papers, ain't got no eyes
Sunday papers, don't ask no questions
Sunday papers, don't get no lies
Sunday papers, don't raise objections
Sunday papers, ain't got no eyes
Read all about it, Sunday papers

Get your Sunday paper, get your Sunday paper, get your

 

[run_silent]

back to pretending you're a noob? neat.

My but you like to follow me. I had in my sig line "the artist formally known as daedalus77. I just put it back to make you happy.

When did I piss in your cornflakes? Did I say something to upset you? Are you the harbinger of gloom to someone that changed their name?

I have over 3,300 posts under my current name. I am not claiming to be a noob.

Magic Merlin was before my time as daedalus.

I was simply asking what we should have learned from this. Do you know?

 

[Noor]

Difficult question

I don't usually tell people unless I know them well. I do tend to tell the jerks if I know and ask them to stop. I also out married guys on the board if I can find a post of theirs where they refer to it.

I rarely get involved in the drama here, though quite a while ago a friend posted something that should have been private on one of my threads and though it was obscure to most of lit, it wasn't to the 30+ ladies who then filled my Inbox with "oh, it was you! Tell me what is happening, please" messages.

I also walked into the cheap ass spice mess on behalf of the above friend. One of the ladies also mentioned above was involved and I knew that my friend would have helped her if they could, so I did it for them in their absence. I may have also been the person to explain US sizing before the lingerie incident