If You Knew Something

[bg23]

about somebody on the GB - about who they really were, the type of horrible person they were and the sort of things they'd done to others - would you tell?

Is it your duty to warn others and to prevent further predatory behaviour?

Or is it your duty to protect the victims because the information getting out would hurt them - not to mention potentially result in backlash against them? (And also yourself?)

Is it better to keep quiet and retain your pride or to air the dirty laundry and reap what comes?

Obviously the KRC stuff got me thinking. Discuss, etc.

 

[vidiman]

to do or not to do

It is your judgement call.

My gut is that you should let it be known - especially if it is to prevent future possible harm to others.
But as I said you have the facts and the tools to act upon them.

Congrats for posting it to.

 

[planetqueen]

If I knew that someone was pretending to be a woman to get friendly with women and get into their knickers - then yes I would tell them.

If I had heard rumours about someone being a bit of a cad - then I would probably let people get on with it to be honest - we are all adults (well some of us)

 

[pete]

i wouldn't say anything unless i had fairly solid proof.
otherwise, it just come across as gossipy rancor.

 

[MonaLittle]

Depends on what kind of predator the person in question was.

I've personally run into this kind of situation on the GB and I've told my close friends on here about the person in question. I did not make a public drama out of it.

 

[bg23]

this is all hypothetical, since i'm not actually sitting on a huge secret or anything. just wondering what i'd do if i was in that situation. like if i was in pink's situation, i don't know if i'd be brave enough to say it.

 

[bg23]

If I knew that someone was pretending to be a woman to get friendly with women and get into their knickers - then yes I would tell them.

If I had heard rumours about someone being a bit of a cad - then I would probably let people get on with it to be honest - we are all adults (well some of us)

what about if they were taking advantage of people in other ways than purely sexual?

i wouldn't say anything unless i had fairly solid proof.
otherwise, it just come across as gossipy rancor.

really? but even without solid proof wouldn't you still want to warn people from a predator?

Depends on what kind of predator the person in question was.

I've personally run into this kind of situation on the GB and I've told my close friends on here about the person in question. I did not make a public drama out of it.

that's a good point. but then i suppose you have to weigh up not making drama vs potential victims getting taken advantage of too, right?

 

[MonaLittle]

Agreed. Her situation was extreme and twisted. I would have said something in her case.

 

[planetqueen]

what about if they were taking advantage of people in other ways than purely sexual?

If I knew someone had befriended someone purely to take advantage of them - and I knew they had done this by lying about something crucial (gender, etc) then I would say something.

 

[fgarvb1]

What was that dudes name? ...Adams


"We need Dirty Laundry"

 

[RobDownSouth]

Miles had two "real life" affairs here, cheating on his wife with two different women. He told both of them he wanted to leave his wife and live happily ever after with them.

I knew one of these women, and a friend of mine here knew the other. I was talking with my friend about how sleazy miles was, how he strung Female A along. This friend said, you mean Female B. We found out he had made the exact same promise to both women.

I simply introduced the two ladies to each other.

 

[pete]

really? but even without solid proof wouldn't you still want to warn people from a predator?

rumors fly all around, and most people are already aware of them.
but *knowing* and *suspecting* are completely different. if i know something for sure, and if it's harming someone, even if it's someone i hardly know, then i'll probably send them a pm. but if it's just a rumor then that leaves open the possibility that i'm wrong, or that the rumor's just unfounded, and if i said anything at that point i'd just be perpetuating a lie, and i hate drama so i'd rather not do that.

and, it also depends on the circumstance. if the story is something along the lines of pink's situation, i might send a pm based on a rumor. but if the story is relatively benign, then i won't bother.

 

[IndieSnob]

Yeah, I almost would feel it's my duty. Then again, sometimes it's a whole bunch of they said vs what you said, and it could end up people rooting for the other person if you leak it out on the board.

This coming from someone who is still dying in ways to blast how much of a manipulative and lying piece of shit someone is on this board.

 

[MonaLittle]

Yeah, I almost would feel it's my duty. Then again, sometimes it's a whole bunch of they said vs what you said, and it could end up people rooting for the other person if you leak it out on the board.

This coming from someone who is still dying in ways to blast how much of a manipulative and lying piece of shit someone is on this board.

I told you I was sorry.

 

[planetqueen]

Miles had two "real life" affairs here, cheating on his wife with two different women. He told both of them he wanted to leave his wife and live happily ever after with them.

I knew one of these women, and a friend of mine here knew the other. I was talking with my friend about how sleazy miles was, how he strung Female A along. This friend said, you mean Female B. We found out he had made the exact same promise to both women.

I simply introduced the two ladies to each other.

Did you do that because you were jealous or because you genuinely felt it was the right thing to do?

 

[IndieSnob]

I told you I was sorry.

Funny enough, it's the same person that you saw red flags raised on.

 

[IndieSnob]

Also, I warn people that BG is not the snarky bitch she pretends to be.

She's actually one of the more emotional and big softy people you could ever meet. I will not let out that fact of truth though cause I kind of like having her in the cool clique we have.

 

[Killswitch]

this is all hypothetical, since i'm not actually sitting on a huge secret or anything. just wondering what i'd do if i was in that situation. like if i was in pink's situation, i don't know if i'd be brave enough to say it.

With all due respect to Pink, her thread about KRC was entirely self serving and had zero to do with protecting anyone or bravery.

 

[pink]

I felt I had to say something. She was lying to everyone on this board. You deserved better. That thought was what kept me up at night, hence my late night post.

 

[MonaLittle]

With all due respect to Pink, her thread about KRC was entirely self serving and had zero to do with protecting anyone or bravery.

Who made you Judge and Jury?

 

[pink]

With all due respect to Pink, her thread about KRC was entirely self serving and had zero to do with protecting anyone or bravery.

Fine, from now on I will let you be lied to.

 

[cjh]

With all due respect to Pink, her thread about KRC was entirely self serving and had zero to do with protecting anyone or bravery.

Sort of like your Blacksnake moan?

 

[Killswitch]

I felt I had to say something. She was lying to everyone on this board. You deserved better. That thought was what kept me up at night, hence my late night post.

Look...I like you but thats utter bullshit and you know it.

 

[koalabear]

With all due respect to Pink, her thread about KRC was entirely self serving and had zero to do with protecting anyone or bravery.

KRC is back!

 

[IndieSnob]

With all due respect to Pink, her thread about KRC was entirely self serving and had zero to do with protecting anyone or bravery.

With all due respect, you really should just go back and find another woman or whatever it was that kept you away from the board.

You can't cast any stones. You lost that ability many times over.

So go take your monopoly money and go fuck yourself, champ.