Something for the ladies: having sex on a first date.

[carol_will1]

In my "dating years", it was not at all unusual for me to have full intercourse on a first date. I was never worried if the person would call again, or respect me in the morning. If I decided I wanted to do it, I would. Not every time, that depended on the circumstances and if there was any "turn on" factor at all. That said, it happened quite a few more times than not. Any ladies out there that care to weigh in on the topic? Guys, we all know you would do it anytime it was offered.

 

[beingtrue2me]

I have had sex more than a few times just because I wanted to. I told a guy on here the other day that I have fucked for things other than pleasure and he acted like women never do that. wrong. This chikee does.

 

[BongoGal]

I told a guy on here the other day that I have fucked for things other than pleasure and he acted like women never do that.

What does that mean, "for things other than pleasure"? I've done it on first dates on more than a couple of occasions, but it's always been for pleasure. What other things motivate you to fuck besides seeking pleasure? (Maybe I am being dense, but I really don't know what you mean.)

 

[carol_will1]

What does that mean, "for things other than pleasure"? I've done it on first dates on more than a couple of occasions, but it's always been for pleasure. What other things motivate you to fuck besides seeking pleasure? (Maybe I am being dense, but I really don't know what you mean.)

I agree, I always fucked because it felt so good. Not to say thank you for a wonderful dinner.

 

[Scrubber]

I've done it on first dates, too. I never thought about whether the guy might not respect me afterwards.

 

[BongoGal]

I've done it on first dates, too. I never thought about whether the guy might not respect me afterwards.

I have to say that if I did think that the guy wouldn't respect me for having sex with him on a first date, I very probably wouldn't be on a date with him at all.

 

[beingtrue2me]

What does that mean, "for things other than pleasure"? I've done it on first dates on more than a couple of occasions, but it's always been for pleasure. What other things motivate you to fuck besides seeking pleasure? (Maybe I am being dense, but I really don't know what you mean.)

It means if you have ever given a bj or had sex for reasons other than personal enjoyment or the fulfillment you might get from giving pleasure to a partner. One example: I spent a week in the Bahamas a couple of years ago and all it cost me was rocking his world while we were there. Simple as that.

 

[davenjenn]

I always liked to fuck the shy ones on first dates -- the ones who had to be seduced

 

[dougsan]

I always enjoyed when women fucked on the first date. Back in the 50s, and 60s first date fucking was not very common. Then the pill and "free love" made the lives of males a lot more enjoyable.

 

[NikiCole]

I shocked the hell out of a male friend when I told him that I have kicked a few guys out after having sex when I was younger. If it wasn't great or I had to work, they had to go. Never met so many guys that wanted to cuddle.....

 

[carol_will1]

It means if you have ever given a bj or had sex for reasons other than personal enjoyment or the fulfillment you might get from giving pleasure to a partner. One example: I spent a week in the Bahamas a couple of years ago and all it cost me was rocking his world while we were there. Simple as that.

But you must have enjoyed the sex I would imagine. Not just as paying your "share of the bill". Maybe I'm wrong.

 

[carol_will1]

I always liked to fuck the shy ones on first dates -- the ones who had to be seduced

Agree. The full of themselves BMOC never interested me.

 

[carol_will1]

I always enjoyed when women fucked on the first date. Back in the 50s, and 60s first date fucking was not very common. Then the pill and "free love" made the lives of males a lot more enjoyable.

The years between advent of "the pill", and the appearance of HIV were certainly interesting!

 

[davenjenn]

Sex always seemed such a nice friendly thing. So if I had a nice date and the guy obviously wanted me, I was happy to oblige.

It was also kind of exciting being slutty like that. I almost always come when a fuck a guy on a first date

 

[carol_will1]

Sex always seemed such a nice friendly thing. So if I had a nice date and the guy obviously wanted me, I was happy to oblige.

It was also kind of exciting being slutty like that. I almost always come when a fuck a guy on a first date

I always approached it with the attitude that he was obliging me as much as me him.

 

[davenjenn]

I agree. But as long as he doesn't get too serious or jealous . . . tomorrow I might be on another first date and . . .

I always approached it with the attitude that he was obliging me as much as me him.

 

[carol_will1]

I agree. But as long as he doesn't get too serious or jealous . . . tomorrow I might be on another first date and . . .

Hard to get jealous after just one date.

 

[davenjenn]

Hard to get jealous after just one date.

Actually it seems it is really easy for some guys; which is the downside of sleeping with a guy on the first date. The inexperienced ones think it means more than it does. My experience anyway

 

[Ex Princess]

Actually it seems it is really easy for some guys; which is the downside of sleeping with a guy on the first date. The inexperienced ones think it means more than it does. My experience anyway

Mine too -- some people think sex is when a relationship commences. I always felt relationships just form naturally once two people realize they really just want to be with each other (okay, this is just monogamous relationships, never have attempted polygamy yet!) and maybe that is why I have had difficulty defining relationships in the past.

 

[davenjenn]

Mine too -- some people think sex is when a relationship commences. I always felt relationships just form naturally once two people realize they really just want to be with each other (okay, this is just monogamous relationships, never have attempted polygamy yet!) and maybe that is why I have had difficulty defining relationships in the past.

Then there are the guys who you want to be with, but don't really want to sleep with . . . . sigh, it's complicated

 

[KatnissSexiBi90]

I've had sex on the first date... And one night stands. I.was and still am okay with it

 

[DallasDonna]

I've had sex on the first date... And one night stands. I.was and still am okay with it

I have, too- but it's much more common for me to not fuck that first date.
More likely heavy petting, and sometimes a blowjob.

 

[beingtrue2me]

But you must have enjoyed the sex I would imagine. Not just as paying your "share of the bill". Maybe I'm wrong.

Sometimes. Sometimes it could have been better. I have few regrets and make no apologies for how I act. If a guy is really working hard to make our date something to remember but that certain buzz just isn't happening, does that mean I won't go to bed with him? Nope. If there are still women out there that are old fashioned and think first date sex is a no no I have no problem with that either. We are all different and that's ok too. I have been between the sheets within hours of meeting a guy for the first time before. It happens.

 

[carol_will1]

Sometimes. Sometimes it could have been better. I have few regrets and make no apologies for how I act. If a guy is really working hard to make our date something to remember but that certain buzz just isn't happening, does that mean I won't go to bed with him? Nope. If there are still women out there that are old fashioned and think first date sex is a no no I have no problem with that either. We area all different and that's ok too. I have been between the sheets within hours of meeting a guy for the first time before. It happens.

That it does.

 

[Asian_Flower]

I have, too- but it's much more common for me to not fuck that first date.
More likely heavy petting, and sometimes a blowjob.

This!