"Hurt me with it"

[RepressedGuy]

I just thought I'd share this experience, hoping some of you might have suggestions on how to explore this further.

I've been trying to push the limits with my wife a bit, introducing light bondage and alpha behaviors to see how she reacts.

I tied her hands up and took her orally to completion. While waiting to recover, I grabbed a jackrabbit (dildo) and started working her over with it. I untied her hands so she could flip over into a reverse table position (face up, holding herself up off the ground with her hands and bent legs.) In this position, she really got into the dildo and wanted me to basically pound the hell out of her with it. At one point she whispered "hurt me with it" and I did what I could to comply (within reason.) After her orgasm, I was ready again so dumped the dildo, and pounded her over the table to the point she had bruises on her thighs.

I've rarely seen her get into something so much, and never had a request to hurt her before. If she likes it, I have no problem pounding the hell out of her.

Sorry for the naivete here, but is this a kink or a thing? Or do pretty much all women just love to get completely nailed from time to time?

I found ramming the dildo into her to be a little awkward because it wasn't designed to be manhandled as forcefully as I was. I'm thinking of trying to find a larger one with some kind of handle. Any suggestions?

Also, any thoughts on the "hurt me with it" comment?

Thanks,
RG

 

[His_pet_slut]

Ask her. All of us are wired differently. There are some women that like "being nailed" occasionally, but have no desire for anything more than the occasional rough sex session. Others want it routinely. Still others want a more full power exchange relationship. You aren't a mind reader and no one should expect a dominant to be one, so just ask her how she feels about what happened and how she would like to progress.

S~

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

while

While you do what you do, don't forget to thank your lucky stars your wife will explore with you.

 

[DominicDarling]

don't forget to thank your lucky stars your wife will explore with you.

Amen to that

 

[Foxyrox]

I think it's brave that she actually told u to hurt her. She is probably trying to make a hint that she likes it rough and possibly more. You should definitely ask her and bring it up again. Don't let that opportunity slip by..

 

[RepressedGuy]

Thanks everyone for the replies.

I will ask her about it. It's tricky, because she's hard to talk to about sexual topics. In fact, she claims to have next to no libido, but seems to enjoy herself most of the time when I initiate. She says that she feels awkward during sex, like she doesn't know what to do. I'm perplexed by this, honestly. I guess that's just more motivation to instruct her.

Now to figure out how to bring this up ..