What's your number?

[lil_jenni]

I have been thinking about something. A few weeks back, my BF and I watched the movie, What’s Your Number, on HBO GO. For those lucky enough not to have seen it (I did not think it was that funny), the premise is that women who have had 20 or more sexual partners likely suffer from low self-esteem and are increasingly unlikely to get married the more partners they have, which causes the main character to try to find an ex-boyfriend to marry so she would not have to reach 20+ partners (she was at 19 or 20, I cannot remember which).

My BF and I both thought it was hilarious, but not for the movie itself. While my BF does not know my exact number (and does not care to), he knows that it is more than 20. I’ll come clean and admit that I believe I have had 42 partners (more than double the woman in the film, who was almost double the national average), and it is more than a little possible I am not remembering a few. And I am not counting just oral sex -- my number for oral sex partners is well into the triple digits, but as we all know, oral sex is not sex, despite the fact that the word ‘sex’ is part of it… LOL. And I know girls who have had more partners than I have (again, excluding my oral activity). Hell, I had a friend who surpassed 100 partners in college, something that was her goal.

So is this “number” thing just old fashioned, or did I know too many slutty girls (like me)? Anyone willing to volunteer their number?

 

[englishkev]

I have been thinking about something. A few weeks back, my BF and I watched the movie, What’s Your Number, on HBO GO. For those lucky enough not to have seen it (I did not think it was that funny), the premise is that women who have had 20 or more sexual partners likely suffer from low self-esteem and are increasingly unlikely to get married the more partners they have, which causes the main character to try to find an ex-boyfriend to marry so she would not have to reach 20+ partners (she was at 19 or 20, I cannot remember which).

My BF and I both thought it was hilarious, but not for the movie itself. While my BF does not know my exact number (and does not care to), he knows that it is more than 20. I’ll come clean and admit that I believe I have had 42 partners (more than double the woman in the film, who was almost double the national average), and it is more than a little possible I am not remembering a few. And I am not counting just oral sex -- my number for oral sex partners is well into the triple digits, but as we all know, oral sex is not sex, despite the fact that the word ‘sex’ is part of it… LOL. And I know girls who have had more partners than I have (again, excluding my oral activity). Hell, I had a friend who surpassed 100 partners in college, something that was her goal.

So is this “number” thing just old fashioned, or did I know too many slutty girls (like me)? Anyone willing to volunteer their number?

Personally, I like a girl who's number is not low. Who wants a girl who's scared of sex?

Mine? More than yours, less than your college friend.

 

[Scheherazade73]

I have been thinking about something. A few weeks back, my BF and I watched the movie, What’s Your Number, on HBO GO. For those lucky enough not to have seen it (I did not think it was that funny), the premise is that women who have had 20 or more sexual partners likely suffer from low self-esteem and are increasingly unlikely to get married the more partners they have, which causes the main character to try to find an ex-boyfriend to marry so she would not have to reach 20+ partners (she was at 19 or 20, I cannot remember which).

My BF and I both thought it was hilarious, but not for the movie itself. While my BF does not know my exact number (and does not care to), he knows that it is more than 20. I’ll come clean and admit that I believe I have had 42 partners (more than double the woman in the film, who was almost double the national average), and it is more than a little possible I am not remembering a few. And I am not counting just oral sex -- my number for oral sex partners is well into the triple digits, but as we all know, oral sex is not sex, despite the fact that the word ‘sex’ is part of it… LOL. And I know girls who have had more partners than I have (again, excluding my oral activity). Hell, I had a friend who surpassed 100 partners in college, something that was her goal.

So is this “number” thing just old fashioned, or did I know too many slutty girls (like me)? Anyone willing to volunteer their number?

Thanks for taking one for the team, sister, and putting it out there.

I just had this conversation yesterday with someone, actually, and had to cringe a bit when I confessed that I wasn't exactly sure of my number (it is 20-ish...22? 23? 21? dunno...) but that it was considerably more partners than the person with whom I was having the conversation. It's not that I care - I had a heck of a time racking up that number, and I'm nowhere close to done (I hope) - but I do feel a bit judged. I should've hung out with Hundred Partner Helen in college and I would've been far less self-conscious.

"Slut" is a term I'd like to drag out, dust off, and start using as a compliment. It's a fun little word, and it implies a certain joy in the act. Sounds like a perfect word to use.

But, yeah, guys get a little...weird about the number. It's all fun & games until they're pissed and you're the one who fucked 25 guys. Ya know?

 

[lil_jenni]

"Slut" is a term I'd like to drag out, dust off, and start using as a compliment. It's a fun little word, and it implies a certain joy in the act. Sounds like a perfect word to use.

But, yeah, guys get a little...weird about the number. It's all fun & games until they're pissed and you're the one who fucked 25 guys. Ya know?

I call myself a slut, and my BF is comfortable calling me that too... he was not for some time, but he has relaxed about that. We don't do it in public, of course, but we do at home.

And yes, guys can be weird. My BF knows the general nature of my sexuality before him, and that I truly believe that he is the best lover I have ever had, but he does not want ANY details, although he has admitted he benefits from what (and who) I did before him.

 

[spartapd]

Mine is 11.

I think that there is far too much emphasis on this number, and I agree that I'm looking for a more experienced girl. One of my 11 was a virgin and while enthusiastic, she needed a LOT of guidance, which I was able to give, but still. Great practice though...

I alsow think that the world 'slut' only has we're if you let it have power. If you feel ashamed, you give it substance. If you hold your head up and say that you made the decisions you made, and you are just fine with the results, it's just a word.

My two cents...

 

[Ekserb]

I've been sitting here for the past few minutes trying to think of how many women I've been with. I think it's less than 20 or so. Maybe closer to fifteen. Not sure.

My girlfriend has been with dozens and she's probably blown close to a hundred. We've never discussed the actual number, but only because it's never come up. I'm not the least bit intimidated by her "number" and, in fact, it turns me on to know that she has all that experience and still says I'm the best she's ever had. (Yeah, I know, everybody says that, but I know from mutual swinger friends that she didn't have orgasms before we met and now she can't stop cumming when we're together.)

She loves being a slut and being called a slut. I happily oblige.

 

[Scheherazade73]

Nice, healthy attitudes about "the number." I love it!!!

 

[snakebyte]

It's a double standard. If us men fuck 20 or more girls we are more manly. But if a woman does it she's a bad person. It's a number. I say girls should be able to fuck however many guys as they want as long as they are happy.

 

[sereneone4u]

My number is five.

 

[ratherabsurd1]

mine is one

 

[Syphus]

But, yeah, guys get a little...weird about the number. It's all fun & games until they're pissed and you're the one who fucked 25 guys. Ya know?

Honestly, maybe it's weird, but I couldn't give a crap about the number, if it's 1 or 50 (although if there was lots of unprotected one night stands that's a different story). It really makes no difference to me, I know virtually all my girlfriend's stories. Why should I care? I think it's guys having a permanent fear of not being able to live up to other people they've been with.

 

[shyandhorny69]

Its only a number, you could fuck 1 guy 200 times or 10 guys 20 times each, whats the difference? My numbers are 6 guys 7 girls.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Its only a number, you could fuck 1 guy 200 times or 10 guys 20 times each, whats the difference? My numbers are 6 guys 7 girls.

Exactly. One of the most judgemental women I've known was a room mate in my 20's, three of us shared a rental house. She was a raving, flaming, slut...but a monogamous one, with a constant string of long term b/f's. Now she would constantly be giving us other two the stinkeye if we hooked up and brought someone new home, dropping the odd "loose", "pig", "horndawg" comments even though she was getting laid more than any of us (when we moved I had to hacksaw her bedframe apart, the bolts holding it together were so mangled from the gymnastics). She would string along someone just for the sex until she had her next "relationship" planned out then upgrade.

Compare to room mate #2, who would NEVER be monogamous, was never attached, her proclivity leaned more towards being independent and preferring her string of acquaintance fuck buddies & one night stands.
Now in 12mos #1's "number" was a whole whopping 2, and Roommate #2's "number" was somewhere in the 20's, but both were healthy sluts with a prodigious appetite.


Personally, my feelings are would you rather play tennis with someone just learning the game, or would you rather spend your recreational time with someone that really knows how to play?
Some men prefer the powerplay of submissive unschooled virginesque types, but I like me some raving sluts.

 

[lil_jenni]

Its only a number, you could fuck 1 guy 200 times or 10 guys 20 times each, whats the difference? My numbers are 6 guys 7 girls.

I like the way you look at it, shyandhorny69.

 

[Scheherazade73]

Me too! Excellent point about numbers. Although, in a perfect world, it wouldn't much matter. We'd all be getting laid as often as we'd like and no one would judge...

 

[Suburbia]

the number thing is all relevant.

1 sexual partner every 3 months "feels" pretty normal. but it adds up to 4 a year... for 5 years and by the time you are 20 (if you start at 15) you are up to 20.

Now you feel like a slut when you say you are 20 and have been with 20 people... but one every three months is certainly not slutty!

I am 40 and I have been with between 90-110.

Society says I am a slut, but I have never fucked more than 5 different guys over the course of a calendar year. Is a different guy every 2 or 3 months slutty?

 

[Suburbia]

but as we all know, oral sex is not sex, despite the fact that the word ‘sex’ is part of it

I disagree. If it counts for gays it counts for straights.

 

[Connubium]

Wow that movie sounds sexist and old fashioned!


I hate the term slut and hate the idea that a woman who has had many different sexual partners is somehow unworthy of marriage and she's only doing it due to low self esteem not because she wants to have sex!

 

[vibes]

I never thought sluttiness had to do with quantity so I guess the number is irrelevant

 

[MonkeyBiz40]

I had an ex that asked me my number once. I sat down with a pen and paper. I remembered the names of 45. There was a few I never knew their names. That put me in the neighborhood of 48ish (I use to get drunk, alot). Since her +3.. So conversationally 51.

 

[lil_jenni]

I disagree. If it counts for gays it counts for straights.

Oh, I agree with you. I was trying to convey the irony of it all.

 

[blackstallion21]

all of my escapades, I don't know but for actual intercourse, with women, I can only say 15. But there is much more than I can tell on this thread!

CENSORED!!! Maybe if you're really interested in hearing about it, you'll PM me!

 

[BongoGal]

My number was zero until I was 19, and it grew to the thirties by the time I was in my 30s. I'd like to be able to give an exact number, but alas, I suspect that I'd forget two or three. One curious note is that I can only think of one guy whom I fellated but did not ever have intercourse with. Another curious note is that I was the 'first time' for at least ten of them. The most in one day is two (once in the morning before an amicable break-up and then later that evening after a party).

 

[stockman35]

My number is 19 and I remember each one. My first girlfriend had already been with a few guys and that got me started into scoring with other girls. I had only two "one-night-stands." The last virgin I got was almost 22 years old.

 

[Syphus]

Its only a number, you could fuck 1 guy 200 times or 10 guys 20 times each, whats the difference? My numbers are 6 guys 7 girls.

Thanks for agreeing.