(Toys) Looking for a little advice

[Solanasandre81]

My better half and I have been together for quite awhile and we've been intimate for for most of it though we have never had intercourse. Things have gotten quite serious and we will probably make love for the first time soon. The issue is that she is very small, and while the things she has done and the things we have done together have helped loosen her a little shes still quite tight.

We've talkedd about it and discussed things that might help, I figured that we may be able to find some toys to gradually help with this issue. However I haven't had much luck finding any. She managed to find a "vaginal dilator set" after many hours looking but thats about it. I'm wondering if any of the ladies around here, or perhaps their significant others might be able to give us some advice or point us in the right direction.

Thanks for any help, be well.

 

[desertslave]

I have to ask...how old is she??? Is she a virgin?

Assuming she's of legal age and you're not excessively endowed, there's very little to prevent you from fitting together just fine. The vagina is designed to stretch sufficiently to allow a newborn to pass through, so you really shouldn't be a particular challenge.

If she's a virgin, the big thing is plenty of lube, either her own by getting her sufficiently excited first, or a good water-based lube. She might be uncomfortable at first, but again, if she's sufficiently excited this will pass quickly.

 

[Solanasandre81]

I have to ask...how old is she??? Is she a virgin?

Assuming she's of legal age and you're not excessively endowed, there's very little to prevent you from fitting together just fine. The vagina is designed to stretch sufficiently to allow a newborn to pass through, so you really shouldn't be a particular challenge.

If she's a virgin, the big thing is plenty of lube, either her own by getting her sufficiently excited first, or a good water-based lube. She might be uncomfortable at first, but again, if she's sufficiently excited this will pass quickly.

We are both in our early twenties but yes she is a virgin. While she's never been diagnosed with it, she's pretty much convinced that she has a condition making her "smaller" then most women. I have bugged her to ask her doctor about it if she thinks she does but shes very.. averse to discussing it with anyone else even including her doctor since it isn't painful for anything we or she has done.

I know I have seen graduated toys, generally for anal use, that are supposed to help slowly get you used to bigger sizes and thought that might be useful here. I do in part wonder if it might also be a mental block for her more then a physical one and thus I thought it may help in that regard as well if she felt a set of toys were helping.

Obviously lots of lube will help as well though. Really I know it's not a matter of if we'd "fit" (feel a little silly saying that), I just want to explore as many ways as I can to make her comfortable.

 

[GrrlFriday]

Can she use tampons, with lube? Does she want to become more comfortable with penetration? Even if there is no pain, she may have a mild case of vaginismus. I will flash you my Weetie box diploma of gynecology, here... but it is a common problem.

Doing some form of exercise first, like dancing, can improve blood flow, release endorphins, and hopefully make things easier. The right kind of dancing can be like foreplay...

Has she been with her doctor all her life? If that's the case, she may feel uncomfortable talking with her doctor about sexual stuff. It would be very helpful, some might say essential, if she can feel unembarrassed about talking to her doctor about sexual stuff, as this will mean she's more likely to look after her reproductive health and notice changes, and seek help if anything goes wrong.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I had a friend who was super small. She was a very tiny framed girl and her parents were pastors and backwards about sex, so I'm quite sure that made her vagina shrivel up like a raisin. She couldn't even use tampons at all. Before she had sex she went to her doctor and he recommended candles. Apparently they work, because that's what she did.

The only downside is if an asshole like me finds out, he will start singing, in my Elton John voice, "Candle In The End" every time she comes around.

 

[culloden]

The only downside is if an asshole like me finds out, he will start singing, in my Elton John voice, "Candle In The End" every time she comes around.

My God, you're an asshole! And I mean that in the best sense of the word.

 

[Lord Pmann]

My God, you're an asshole! And I mean that in the best sense of the word.

Sounds like you've been talking to my wife. My wife would get nervous whenever the girl would come around, because I would say, under my breath, "It seems like you're walking like you've got a candle in your end..."

I had a whole chorus and everything. I just got progressively louder and more obnoxious.