i was out with some old work friends that i havn't seen in a few years and after a few drinks there was a spark between myself and a girl i used to work with, there was akiss on the cheek and a very slow rub of noses that could have been more if we were both not consious of the fact there were other ex collegues around. i got married and she had a baby since we last saw each other but there was never anything between us before but there is an obvious attraction there now, should i keep in touch and see how she really feels???
should I ????
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NeonKnickers
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Do you like being married?
Miles Long
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Maybe his wife suggested he do this? Maybe not.
Caution, caution, and more caution. Messing around is always dangerous but if you're going to do it, it should be with someone that is not in your normal circle of friends or associates. Total discretion and secrecy is of utmost importance. The fact that "ex coleques" saw you playing "nosie" could lead them to being curious. If anything gets back to your wife, it will as a minimum be a bit awkward. I saw it happen with some of the people I worked with.
Besides, the "nosie play" may have seemed like obvious attraction to you but may have been harmless flirting on her part. Some men seem to have the ability to think every woman wants them. We all used to flirt and play around a lot at work but it was USUALLY meaningless fun.
Nothing wrong with keeping in touch as a friend but don't necessarily expect (or push) for it to be anything more. If it looks like it could be more, be very very careful about the effects it could have on your marriage. I learned the hard way from bitter experience.
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heartoftexasgrl
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You haven't been in touch for a few years. You've been happily married during the time since you've seen or heard from her. What possible good can come of you keeping in contact? Nothing down that road but trouble. . . .
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I am not sure I have been where you are but You can make your marriage be what you don't think you can have.. It sounds like trouble in your marriage to me
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Yes. Flirting is fun, but the shiny newness doesn't last forever, and it's not worth sacrificing a solid relationship.
Of course, if your wife is OK with you pursuing other women, that's another matter entirely, but since you didn't mention an arrangement of that sort I'm assuming that's not the deal here.
i am not going to take it anywhere now all i'm asking is do i want to find out that when we were working together before was there any feelings there and are they still there as if so i would want to know about it so we don't end up in a situation where something could happen as we are back in the situation where our social circles are in sync again so there is a chance we could end up being alone together where there is a lot of temptation and alcohol involved makig us do stupid things.
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You are doing a whole lot of rationalizing and excuse-making right here.
If you're not going to do anything, then it doesn't matter how she felt/feels right now.
What you SHOULD be thinking of is all of the reasons you love your wife and don't want to destroy her by lying or cheating. Then you need to plan to avoid temptation altogether. If that means not going out with these friends if this ex-colleague is going to be there, you don't go out. If she IS there and you need to excuse yourself to call your wife or use the restroom because it looks like you and the other woman might be alone for any period of time, you do that. If that means bringing your wife when you get together with friends, only go if your wife goes with you. If that means staying sober so you have better judgment and can't allow yourself to use alcohol as an excuse for bad behavior, make yourself a designated driver and enjoy your free non-alcoholic beverages all night.
IOW, instead of focusing on what could happen and making excuses, focus on making sure NOTHING happens that your wife doesn't explicitly support. If you don't know where that line is with your wife, you need to ask her - we all have different definitions of what's acceptable and what constitutes cheating and poor behavior in our relationships.
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Do you love your wife do you want to stay married? Yes? then have as little contact with this girl as possible and make sure you don't end up in a situation like that! It's pretty simple really it's not rocket science
Do you want to have your cake and eat it? Sounds very much like it!
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Seems to me that you're pretty determined to get a divorce. Why come here asking for validation? Do you really think that most people are going to happily slap you on the back and TELL you that it's 100% perfectly okay to completely destroy your wife?
Yeah no. No. See, we folks around here typically tend to be very sex positive and friendly, but we certainly do NOT condone hurting a totally innocent person JUST FOR THE SAKE of getting your dick wet.
If you want a divorce that badly, just divorce your wife, and when it's over, THEN you can fuck your co-worker. Don't do it backwards. Divorce courts tend to have a joyful time of plundering cheating bastards for every last red cent they have.
Yeah no. No. See, we folks around here typically tend to be very sex positive and friendly, but we certainly do NOT condone hurting a totally innocent person JUST FOR THE SAKE of getting your dick wet.
If you want a divorce that badly, just divorce your wife, and when it's over, THEN you can fuck your co-worker. Don't do it backwards. Divorce courts tend to have a joyful time of plundering cheating bastards for every last red cent they have.
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You forgot the LOL
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not really useful adding this to the thread when others have effectively said the same but just for the lols...
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I know we guys like to think with our cocks. But think about this. You haven't seem her in years. You weren't really a couple. So you're considering an affair over almost nothing. I'm not saying that having an affair when the circumstances are different makes it any better. But it makes more sense. Go home and masturbate. Then you'll start thinking clearly.
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*dies laughing!*
