I don't play baseball. But since you seem to like both baseball and numbers. Let's see if I can hit a home run with this one.
First, if you have that chemistry and commitment with someone so wonderful, then perhaps you should be spending a little more time talking with him and a little less time posting explicit pictures on Lit. Sounds like you are both using technicalities as an excuse when the most important thing should be the connection which you have. Not a job or temporary distance. Try to actually show some of the passion that for so long you have always claimed to have. Run the bases. Don't merely walk them. Isn't that how the game is played?
Second, yes, your time may end. All of our times may end each and every day. Our lives are all so very fragile. So why not embrace what time you do have rather then worry about what right now does not exist? Take a chance and choose to live. Don't let trivial things bog you down. Try to get a hit every time you come to the plate. Either make it work with Mal permanently or simply move on and choose to try to open yourself up to all that human interaction has to offer. Do not choose to stay in the dugout.
Third, I was not even referring to a PM that I sent. You do not owe anyone anything at all. You are woman. Hear you roar! But seriously. I actually responded to you on the thread once when you went off on a rant of your own. Looking for the advice of others. I took the time to give you a long and well thought out reply. I did not even get any acknowledgement back. So I figured you just did not have the time. Till I saw that you basically responded to everyone else who gave you a response. I feel that such selective replies are not really fair. Not so "appealing" to ignore someone who is trying to help you so to speak. Especially since you tend to go on and on about how you crave human interaction. That is why I felt it was necessary to call you out because you cannot just be a sponge and take what the situation may call for without thinking about another person being on the other end. Cannot have a conversation with your own self and just use other people when the situation calls for it. Yeah, you have shit in your life going on. But so do they. You try to sound so fancy and eloquent and pretend to be an expert on interactions. You should want to acknowledge those who take the time to notice you. Not that you should ever have to. Seems like you are playing both offense and defense at the same exact time. There is always a team when it comes to baseball and most other sports. You should not try to be a coach of what you simply fail to understand.
Fourth, I am not out of line at all. I happen to be running the bases just fine.
First, if you have that chemistry and commitment with someone so wonderful, then perhaps you should be spending a little more time talking with him and a little less time posting explicit pictures on Lit. Sounds like you are both using technicalities as an excuse when the most important thing should be the connection which you have. Not a job or temporary distance. Try to actually show some of the passion that for so long you have always claimed to have. Run the bases. Don't merely walk them. Isn't that how the game is played?
Second, yes, your time may end. All of our times may end each and every day. Our lives are all so very fragile. So why not embrace what time you do have rather then worry about what right now does not exist? Take a chance and choose to live. Don't let trivial things bog you down. Try to get a hit every time you come to the plate. Either make it work with Mal permanently or simply move on and choose to try to open yourself up to all that human interaction has to offer. Do not choose to stay in the dugout.
Third, I was not even referring to a PM that I sent. You do not owe anyone anything at all. You are woman. Hear you roar! But seriously. I actually responded to you on the thread once when you went off on a rant of your own. Looking for the advice of others. I took the time to give you a long and well thought out reply. I did not even get any acknowledgement back. So I figured you just did not have the time. Till I saw that you basically responded to everyone else who gave you a response. I feel that such selective replies are not really fair. Not so "appealing" to ignore someone who is trying to help you so to speak. Especially since you tend to go on and on about how you crave human interaction. That is why I felt it was necessary to call you out because you cannot just be a sponge and take what the situation may call for without thinking about another person being on the other end. Cannot have a conversation with your own self and just use other people when the situation calls for it. Yeah, you have shit in your life going on. But so do they. You try to sound so fancy and eloquent and pretend to be an expert on interactions. You should want to acknowledge those who take the time to notice you. Not that you should ever have to. Seems like you are playing both offense and defense at the same exact time. There is always a team when it comes to baseball and most other sports. You should not try to be a coach of what you simply fail to understand.
Fourth, I am not out of line at all. I happen to be running the bases just fine.
Strike one.
I do have someone wonderful in my life. I simply choose not to share that aspect of my life with you. We have great chemistry and a commitment to each other for the time being.
But, due to the nature of his work, he will only be in my life for a limited time. We’ve talked about the future, we both had hopes and still sometimes fantasize about what could be… but he finds his work very satisfying – and it requires him to be away from home for about ¾ of the time. I can’t be satisfied with so little time together. So while we are enjoying our time together, we both recognize that it comes with an expiration date. And when his work takes him away again, we will say goodbye.
It’s an odd situation for me because I am missing out on the opportunity to connect with men who could be a good match for me in the long run. And I realize that that is the reason that I’m resisting connecting with people o an emotional level. For the time being, my emotional cup runs over – but it’s tinged with the melancholy of knowing that our time together will end, even though our feelings will continue.
Strike two
Oh Sweetie. This is wrong on many levels. First – having been faithful to my husband for 11 years without any physical intimacy left me with masturbation as my only outlet. It was fine for a while, but gawd… it is terribly boring after a while.
Now when I first discovered Lit, the novelty of it all paired with the pent up frustration, did of course lead to some wonderful self pleasuring.
But the novelty wore off and the thrill abated.
And more importantly, I developed an emotional intimacy with a few people here. Most were friendships, that, had we met in the conventional sense could easily have progressed to something more.
But one of the friendships went beyond that. What started as a flirtation via PM, quickly became much deeper than that. We both realized there was more to our connection than the standard Lit flirtation. We grew very close and shared a love for each other. We were intimate virtually (Wow!) and physically (Even more WOW!). We still share a love though not a physical intimacy (physical or virtual) communicate regularly and cheer each other on though we are so far apart.
And he’s the primary reason I stopped responding to PMs. Partly out of respect for his feelings, but mostly because I recognize the power of PMs. Given how much I’ve shared on the thread, and given the raw honesty that is possible via PMs, it would be too easy to forge yet another emotional bond that would ultimately evaporate and leave an emptiness in my heart.
Now in terms of “selfishly use this site to finger yourself silly whenever the urge happens to strike” (your crude words, not mine): I’m curious about the humanitarian and altruistic work you do by visiting site.
Also, If you revisit the posts where I refer to having pleasured myself, I’m pretty sure you’ll find that in every instance I posted AFTER the fact… and most of the time I wasn’t the only one involved in the act.
You can also see from my posts that I generally don’t respond to overt and crude references to what someone wants to “do to me”. Oh I think I did at first, in the Lit Honeymoon phase. But not after the novelty wore off. I try to respond positively in a way that doesn’t encourage further comments, and have on occasion explained why I don’t participate in that type of interaction. So that negates your following delusion:
Strike Three
It DID turn my on like crazy, as evidenced by my posts during the first few weeks of my thread. But I soon learned that what I valued most was the way men expressed themselves here. They shared their experiences and perspectives and helped me understand what I was experiencing.
It was these candid conversations that brought me back. When Fred emailed me and said I had been gone too long for new posts to be added, I feared losing the warmth and insight of the men on this thread… not their admiration.
Yes, I know that some of the men do fantasize and use my photos for their pleasure. That is flattering and an ego boost. But, please! There is no shortage of visual fodder to fuel their fantasies, on this site, on porn sites, celebrity sites, beer commercials… I don’t kid myself. I’d be insane to invest too much emotion or vanity into the fact that my photos turn men on… that doesn’t make me unique in the least.
I’ve actually tried to recapture that thrill that I experienced early on, because I don’t feel it to the same extent as I did before. But it’s not there. Maybe because it’s no longer new. Maybe because I’m in a different place now than when I started.
As for looking at other threads. The only time I’ve ventured out recently was at the suggestion of another, either via PM or email. (Oh gawd – now you know some people have an email address for me, perhaps anyone who follows the thread should brace themselves for another of your rants since you weren’t offered a direct contact for me.)
I’ve commented many times that I am disturbed by the skewed perception I get from Lit. If I spend time interacting on other threads or via PMs, then 90% of what I see are good men who are frustrated by the lack of affection and intimacy in their marriages and have been driven to Lit seeking affirmation and being emotionally and virtually unfaithful to their wives. It saddens me. (And yes, I know there are many women doing the same, but I hear more from men, so that’s my experience and perception).
You’re Out! (And so am I)
I have been nothing but open and honest and myself on this thread.
I can’t help it if you choose not to believe what I’ve said, and prefer to justify my slow response or lack of response to your PMs by calling me a “whore”.
As for “owing” people a response to their PMs, It simply is physically impossible. Sure, if I was independently wealthy and had nothing better to do than stay on lit for hours on end, I could respond to every PM. I purged my PM folder about 3 weeks ago and, because I posted photos, I now have 190 messages. It’s overwhelming and impossible for me to keep up, earn a living and live a life beyond the blue glare of my laptop.
In terms of my “precious” time, yes it is precious. I spend it working, supporting my family, and enjoying every moment I have with the special person in my life – because I know our days are numbered.
Now, when you say I “manage to make all this time to get off” you may have been thinking of the recent post where I mentioned having three Os that day.
I can understand the misperception, because I intentionally didn’t share that aspect of my life on this thread. So… those Os weren’t from self pleasure. I was counting one when we went to bed after midnight, and two in the morning before he went into the office. Physical intimacy is important to me and I make time for it in my life. It’s how we maintain our connection, express our love and revel in what we have while we have it. We’re very fortunate to both have a high libidos, so, when he is here, 2-3 times a day is the norm… and I will take that over responding to a PM from someone I don’t know and will never meet any day of my life. Even if it results in a perfect stranger calling me a “whore”.
You are rude. You are crass. And you are out of line.
But at least you have helped me resolve the ambivalence that I have felt about Lit for some time now. I thank you for that.