Trade one type of fantasy for another?

[mike2010fc]

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[subwannabe]

I used to write personalized erotic stories for women and they would do the same in return. This was several years ago. I was able to find the women first and then write stories back and forth. I didn't just put things out there for everyone and then hope to hear back from some. Technology and the internet has changed significantly since I did this so what I did is actually harder to do today than it was back then. I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you can find a way to post looking for people wanting to exchange stories then that is better than putting something out there for everyone to view, hoping to "get lucky". 90% of women, including here on lit, are going to think you are just another perv Joe who wants to get his rocks off, kind of like guys posting cock pictures thinking it is going to turn women on and that they will be begging for Cyber. But, good luck. I found several women I enjoyed sharing stories with back in those days and the personalization was liked by both them and me.

 

[fire_breeze]

This is mostly for fun, but, the stories in my signature are from the core of what makes up my sexuality and fantasies. Some of the women I've contacted really enjoy them, and some don't. Sometimes I write and write, but only hear back "congrats on another story" basically.

So I'm wondering what I can do to get women's imaginations going to the point where they want to play back, and tell me their fantasies. You know, the butterflies you get when you open a PM and there's something there meant just for you.

So basically:

* How do I write more in line with what women want to fantasize about, so they write back?

* Is there a way to "trade" my writing, like, I write about something I enjoy and they write something they enjoy back?

* This might be the hardest of all for any writer, but, how does one get a response back along the same lines as the fantasy they wrote about in the first place?

Thanks for any advice/ideas,

Mike

If I understand correctly, you're looking for a writing partner, one in which to write out detailed fantasies with - a sort of private SRP thread?

If so, then note that most women will not collaborate unless they know and build a rapport with their writing partner. In other words, you need to make yourself known, get to know a potential partner OUTSIDE of a fantasy writing environment. Most people who are looking for a quality relationship who posts on literotica, regardless of the nature, will see just how many posts you have and what are the nature of your posts (and you can boost your post count in the Playground. Yes, some of the games does nothing, but threads like Ask me a question or many of the 'vanity' threads do provide a venue for you to quality post). You then can get to know some of the posters and they you - think of it as a preliminary interview.

You have to separate yourself from the hordes of other males who are looking for the same thing - and the most successful are those who are attentive, articulate, respectful and who contribute to the community. I don't know you, so I cannot say if you are attentive and respectful. You are definitely articulate. You may wish to contribute more to the community by finding some forums that spark your interest.

Something NOT to do: do not bomb many women with the same PM. First, most will ignore it. Second, those who don't will let it be known what has happened. Also, please read the profiles and sig-lines of those women whom you think could be interesting in a PM exchange. Nothing rankles people when they have explicitly said that they are not interested in any erotic exchange to receive a PM asking for an erotic exchange. It's not only rude, but it also shows a lack of critical processing skills.

Also, do not cold-send an elaborate scenario. You don't know how it will be received. Start by politely PMing (asking a question or making a comment on a lady's post is a good start), build a rapport and go from there.

Another option is to post an ad in Personals or the SRP forums and hope that someone will bite, no puns intended.

Good luck, happy posting and have fun

 

[amofiga]

Mike

When you write and post/publish a story it's not always going to appeal to everyone the same way. Each person has their particular set of turn-on's and turn-off's. With things I've written, I've gotten comments from "from fantastic" to "I wasted my time reading this". It's just what it is.

If you are looking to trade erotic fantasy stories with someone, you may have to develop your own relationships to do this in private unless you are lucky enough to have a PM from someone who liked your stuff and you can write back and see if they are interested in trading. You might also find a story you like, PM that author with some complements and a sample of your stuff and see if possibly (but not probably) they want to continue such trading. You can also try in the personals section to "advertise" for someone who likes to swap fantasy stories.

In the past, I had several lady friends who liked reading erotic stories and tried their hand at writing them. However, others had no interest in such "banter'. Everybody is different and you can't please all of the people all of the time. I've been happy whenever I've gotten some positive feedback and know that there are some people that enjoyed what I put effort into.

 

[mike2010fc]

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[Eilan]

Also, do not cold-send an elaborate scenario. You don't know how it will be received. Start by politely PMing (asking a question or making a comment on a lady's post is a good start), build a rapport and go from there.

God. This. Many Lit ladies don't want to read unsolicited porn-drivel.

 

[KlaytonFrost]

I'd go for posting in the personals. Or, if you can, perhaps reaching out to someone who has commented or liked one of your stories and asking if they might be interested in reading more, or exploring the theme themselves.

 

[sunandshadow]

It's really difficult to write about a fantasy that isn't your cup of tea, and straight men and straight women don't generally drink the same flavor of tea. If you look at a fanfiction community, which is the only place I know of where it's common for people to trade writing stories for each other, usually you have either women writing stuff that's praised and enjoyed by women, or men writing stuff that's praised and enjoyed by men.

Roleplaying is almost like people trading stories, and my personal experience there has been that, despite the fact that I'm a straight woman, I'm much more likely to have a satisfying roleplaying experience with a female partner RPing a male character, than with a male partner RPing a male character. Pretty sure straight male roleplayers would feel that I don't provide a satisfying female character for them to interact with. I've had some pretty good roleplays with a bi or gay man though, I think that's evidence that the communication gap tends to be about tastes, not differences between male and female brains or communication styles or whatever. As people learn how to produce semi-professional quality writing there are few technical differences between men's writing and women's writing. The persistent difference is the content (and focus, which is sort of content and sort of not).