Inviting your "real life" into Lit world

Farrah

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A friend of mine needs a creative, interactive outlet. He's smart, and he's sarcastic and witty and sometimes dark, but always friendly. I think this could be a good place for him. But I'm not sure how I feel about overlapping different aspects of my life...worlds colliding, and all that.

Have any of you referred a person from your day-to-day life to the boards? Was it weird for you to let someone you know well into your experience here? Were you right when you thought that they might be a good fit for the GB? Or, if it's not a scenario you'd be comfortable with, care to explain why?
 
Unless you are posting nudes you do not wish to have posted on your local supermarket bulletin board, I see no problem with inviting someone to Lit who you know in physical life.
 
Have you told your friend about this place? Are you worried this is your world and should not shared with others from you r/l?
 
A friend of mine needs a creative, interactive outlet. He's smart, and he's sarcastic and witty and sometimes dark, but always friendly. I think this could be a good place for him. But I'm not sure how I feel about overlapping different aspects of my life...worlds colliding, and all that.

Have any of you referred a person from your day-to-day life to the boards? Was it weird for you to let someone you know well into your experience here? Were you right when you thought that they might be a good fit for the GB? Or, if it's not a scenario you'd be comfortable with, care to explain why?

personally, i wouldn't do it.
it's not that i don't want them to see a different side of me, i'm the same person here as i am in real life (though i think i'm actually 10% funnier in real life).
i just prefer to keep this world for myself, something that's MY outlet. on facebook, if i need to vent i can do it in a way that will allow my friends to reach out to me. but this place is where i go to get away from the rest of my life, and if part of my life is here then it's not *really* getting away.

hi farrah :)
 
I invited my friend. I won't reveal his name, so I'll just call him DB. He's a coach! I think it's worked out really well.
 
One of my sisters lurks here every now n then. She has been at my house many time when Ive been here so yes, she reads some of the threads. However, she does not see the fascination in the place. Im perfectly comfortable letting my RL friends know about this place and some of them have also seen it when I was on. Again, no fascination for them.

We must be a unique crowd.
 
A friend of mine needs a creative, interactive outlet. He's smart, and he's sarcastic and witty and sometimes dark, but always friendly. I think this could be a good place for him. But I'm not sure how I feel about overlapping different aspects of my life...worlds colliding, and all that.

Have any of you referred a person from your day-to-day life to the boards? Was it weird for you to let someone you know well into your experience here? Were you right when you thought that they might be a good fit for the GB? Or, if it's not a scenario you'd be comfortable with, care to explain why?

My friend left after a few posts, she said LIT is a collosal waste of time.
 
Unless you are posting nudes you do not wish to have posted on your local supermarket bulletin board, I see no problem with inviting someone to Lit who you know in physical life.

Those nudes could end up on her supermarket bulletin board with or without her friends presence here at Lit.

If you post nudes here, they are pretty much fair game. Same goes for giving out your personal info.
 
I've brought exboyfriends here, good friends from other areas of my life and romantic interests. I would not invite my family or coworkers here just because this is where I'm able to vent how I feel and they shouldn't see it.
 
Do you say things here you wouldn't say in front of him? If his presence would keep you from being yourself, I would refrain.

I've only brought two people here and neither ended up being a good idea. Live and learn, but this is MY place.
 
A friend of mine needs a creative, interactive outlet. He's smart, and he's sarcastic and witty and sometimes dark, but always friendly. I think this could be a good place for him. But I'm not sure how I feel about overlapping different aspects of my life...worlds colliding, and all that.

Have any of you referred a person from your day-to-day life to the boards? Was it weird for you to let someone you know well into your experience here? Were you right when you thought that they might be a good fit for the GB? Or, if it's not a scenario you'd be comfortable with, care to explain why?

Personally, I wouldn't give the Butcher of Siam this web address as a recommend.... total waste here..
 
A friend of mine needs a creative, interactive outlet. He's smart, and he's sarcastic and witty and sometimes dark, but always friendly. I think this could be a good place for him. But I'm not sure how I feel about overlapping different aspects of my life...worlds colliding, and all that.

Have any of you referred a person from your day-to-day life to the boards? Was it weird for you to let someone you know well into your experience here? Were you right when you thought that they might be a good fit for the GB? Or, if it's not a scenario you'd be comfortable with, care to explain why?

Since it is forbidden to talk about sex on the GB I see no problem. My friends already know I'm an asshole so no secret there.
 
I'm taking all this in...I am torn b/t how much I do feel like this is MY place, my escape from day-to-day life, and how much freakin' fun he could have here. I think I could trust him to keep things quiet w/ our other friends, but yes...I do have to say that I am more myself here than in any other aspect of my life. I may shock him, just because in many ways, folks I have known for years don't know all of me.
 
I'm taking all this in...I am torn b/t how much I do feel like this is MY place, my escape from day-to-day life, and how much freakin' fun he could have here. I think I could trust him to keep things quiet w/ our other friends, but yes...I do have to say that I am more myself here than in any other aspect of my life. I may shock him, just because in many ways, folks I have known for years don't know all of me.

this is a HUGE leap of faith, hope it doesn't burn you later...
 
i invited a friend to lit, but she said there wasn't enough hardcore asian lesbian porn.
 
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