He wants to be with other women, am I wrong for my reaction?

[cathysmack]

I let a guy move in w/out getting to know him 1st bc, the sex was sooo good & he's built like a brick shithouse. We were a couple for a short while but, he broke it off. He came to me w/ no job or car. Took him 8 months b4 he started working an unreal gravy job. I took him back & forth for awhile but, it was 80 miles a day. I started letting him use the car & he was always home on time but, I think he was not going in some days & hooking up w/ chicks he met online. He gets fired of course & we're back to square one.
Here's our issue, he thinks since we aren't a couple he should be able to go out w/ other women. I think if you're not working for 6 months now, not helping pay bills, use my computer to find whores, lay up in my A/C watch my cable & treat me like ice then you shouldn't be able to go out. I'm disable on a fixed income & am overdrawn every month, I'd love to have someone take care of me & somebody else come along & take me out. BTW, he sleeps in my bed & we have sex (hot, hot, hot) very often. He's a big time player & I've warned a few chicks about him & the 1st thing these stupid bitches do is text & tell him. He is a sex addict & claims 700 is his # and he NEVER wears a condom unless they ask.
Would like some opinons on this, I do have feelings but, would never be w/ him bc, he is such a manwhore. Thanks, for any replies...

 

[LadyVer]

I let a guy move in w/out getting to know him 1st bc, the sex was sooo good & he's built like a brick shithouse. We were a couple for a short while but, he broke it off. He came to me w/ no job or car. Took him 8 months b4 he started working an unreal gravy job. I took him back & forth for awhile but, it was 80 miles a day. I started letting him use the car & he was always home on time but, I think he was not going in some days & hooking up w/ chicks he met online. He gets fired of course & we're back to square one.
Here's our issue, he thinks since we aren't a couple he should be able to go out w/ other women. I think if you're not working for 6 months now, not helping pay bills, use my computer to find whores, lay up in my A/C watch my cable & treat me like ice then you shouldn't be able to go out. I'm disable on a fixed income & am overdrawn every month, I'd love to have someone take care of me & somebody else come along & take me out. BTW, he sleeps in my bed & we have sex (hot, hot, hot) very often. He's a big time player & I've warned a few chicks about him & the 1st thing these stupid bitches do is text & tell him. He is a sex addict & claims 700 is his # and he NEVER wears a condom unless they ask.
Would like some opinons on this, I do have feelings but, would never be w/ him bc, he is such a manwhore. Thanks, for any replies...

I think if you read back over what you wrote, you should be able to made a decision. Either that, or what you wrote is pure fiction because I have a hard time believing any woman would put up with such an ass.

 

[UhOhItsMerci]

Kick him out on his lazy ass! It should be obvious that hes using you as a meal ticket. Listen to your complaints about him, is a little bit of dick really worth supporting a grown ass man who is fully capable of working? ? And if hes fucking other women without protection you should fear for your wellbeing especially since your sleeping with him too.... say hasta la vista and kick him to the curb. You wont benefit from being with him. If he wants to get it on with other women tell him to get his own ride and shag pad.....

 

[cathysmack]

Reason for putting up w/ it is I love sex & he's got me addicted to that dick. I swear he could give lessons, do you know any man that can stop in mid cum & fuck another 25 min? He made me squirt, intro. me to anal & a few other things. I thought I was experienced but, this dude has really opened my eyes to a new world in sex. He helps me tremendously at home, due to my health problem. He's starts a new job this week & hopefully he'll be out soon. He's been kicked out several times, I've never called him, he always calls me & the con man knows what I need to hear to come back.

 

[LadyVer]

So you're using him for sex and he's using you for a meal ticket. Guess there isn't too much to complain about then.

 

[cathysmack]

I'm not complaining, I just want to know others opinions on his wanting to fuck other chicks. I told him once he's working again and has his own ride then it's nothing I can do or say.

 

[cathysmack]

This guy is by no means lazy. He can't find a job in his field of work. Kind of hard to go from $25 an hr. doing what you enjoy to a job you hate. Money isn't a big issue bc, any would help

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Well it's over to you what risks you are prepared to acvept. If he not using a condom are you happy for him to give you a gift such as herpes?

Also if he is using you then he will find someone else sooner or later and leach off them until they kick him out and will you keep on taking him back?

Also how would you feel if he got someone else pregnant?

 

[Lord Pmann]

Well it's over to you what risks you are prepared to acvept. If he not using a condom are you happy for him to give you a gift such as herpes?

Also if he is using you then he will find someone else sooner or later and leach off them until they kick him out and will you keep on taking him back?

Also how would you feel if he got someone else pregnant?

No orgasm is worth an STD in my opinion. And you're asking for one. I'd play the statistics game and says he's already carrying something. Perhaps a new strain of some shit you've need even heard of yet. That's conjecture, but you get the point.

I think it's insane that you're even considering this guy. He sounds like a classless ass. If you're happy with being with a classless ass, then what's the problem? Your reaction to him is silly considering who this guy is.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

No orgasm is worth an STD in my opinion. And you're asking for one. I'd play the statistics game and says he's already carrying something. Perhaps a new strain of some shit you've need even heard of yet. That's conjecture, but you get the point.

I think it's insane that you're even considering this guy. He sounds like a classless ass. If you're happy with being with a classless ass, then what's the problem? Your reaction to him is silly considering who this guy is.

Totally agree with that one but people are still dumb enough to play roulette with their health.

Sad thing is that she is making excuses for him and reasons to stay with him.

 

[amofiga]

Cathysmack

When I was a young man, it used to be so frustrating because I geninely tried to be nice and respectful to women as my parents raised me to do. I, like a lot of men, could not understand why we sometimes seemed to be thrown over for assholes like of this guy you are seeking advice about. Why would anybody, male or female, with any level of self-esteem want to put up with that crap. Guys like him get off on treating people like shit and then laughing about it to their friends. Yeah, he gets away with it becaus he's built like a brick shithouse just like some women get away with it on their looks. I don't know how old you are, but I'll be that by the time this guy is 65, flabby, bald, and half blind you wouldn't be so fast to hook up with him.

 

[lovecraft68]

I let a guy move in w/out getting to know him 1st bc, the sex was sooo good & he's built like a brick shithouse. We were a couple for a short while but, he broke it off. He came to me w/ no job or car. Took him 8 months b4 he started working an unreal gravy job. I took him back & forth for awhile but, it was 80 miles a day. I started letting him use the car & he was always home on time but, I think he was not going in some days & hooking up w/ chicks he met online. He gets fired of course & we're back to square one.
Here's our issue, he thinks since we aren't a couple he should be able to go out w/ other women. I think if you're not working for 6 months now, not helping pay bills, use my computer to find whores, lay up in my A/C watch my cable & treat me like ice then you shouldn't be able to go out. I'm disable on a fixed income & am overdrawn every month, I'd love to have someone take care of me & somebody else come along & take me out. BTW, he sleeps in my bed & we have sex (hot, hot, hot) very often. He's a big time player & I've warned a few chicks about him & the 1st thing these stupid bitches do is text & tell him. He is a sex addict & claims 700 is his # and he NEVER wears a condom unless they ask.
Would like some opinons on this, I do have feelings but, would never be w/ him bc, he is such a manwhore. Thanks, for any replies...

Making this short and sweet, kick this pyschic vampire to the curb. he is using you plain and simple there is no interpretation. Throw his sorry ass out. If he refuses to go get the police involved, especially being disabled you won't have an issue with them.

Men like that make me embarrassed to be one.

 

[Typo Fu Master]

I let a guy move in w/out getting to know him 1st bc, the sex was sooo good & he's built like a brick shithouse. We were a couple for a short while but, he broke it off. He came to me w/ no job or car. Took him 8 months b4 he started working an unreal gravy job. I took him back & forth for awhile but, it was 80 miles a day. I started letting him use the car & he was always home on time but, I think he was not going in some days & hooking up w/ chicks he met online. He gets fired of course & we're back to square one.
Here's our issue, he thinks since we aren't a couple he should be able to go out w/ other women. I think if you're not working for 6 months now, not helping pay bills, use my computer to find whores, lay up in my A/C watch my cable & treat me like ice then you shouldn't be able to go out. I'm disable on a fixed income & am overdrawn every month, I'd love to have someone take care of me & somebody else come along & take me out. BTW, he sleeps in my bed & we have sex (hot, hot, hot) very often. He's a big time player & I've warned a few chicks about him & the 1st thing these stupid bitches do is text & tell him. He is a sex addict & claims 700 is his # and he NEVER wears a condom unless they ask.
Would like some opinons on this, I do have feelings but, would never be w/ him bc, he is such a manwhore. Thanks, for any replies...

Reason for putting up w/ it is I love sex & he's got me addicted to that dick. I swear he could give lessons, do you know any man that can stop in mid cum & fuck another 25 min? He made me squirt, intro. me to anal & a few other things. I thought I was experienced but, this dude has really opened my eyes to a new world in sex. He helps me tremendously at home, due to my health problem. He's starts a new job this week & hopefully he'll be out soon. He's been kicked out several times, I've never called him, he always calls me & the con man knows what I need to hear to come back.

I'm not complaining, I just want to know others opinions on his wanting to fuck other chicks. I told him once he's working again and has his own ride then it's nothing I can do or say.

If you are not a couple then who he fucks is his business. If you want sex with him then make him wear a condom. However, if he's using your resources (car and/or gas money) to go out manwhoring then you're within your rights to tell him to find another way.

I feel sorry for the situation but you're enabling him and letting him use you just to get some hot sex. Not worth it.

 

[mediocre]

Honestly, you are the idiot. He's doing all this stuff because he knows he can get away with it all. He knows you will cave and give him what he wants.

Grow a back bone. Kick him out. Never see or talk to him again.

But you won't do that, will you? You will keep taking him back until your life is completely ruined because he has a penis. I gots new, 50% of the population has a penis. There are plenty of others out there.

Idiot.

 

[Noor]

As long as he is using condoms with you, fucks you divinely as much as you want, and you can afford to keep him, why does it matter who else he fucks?

That being said your reaction is not wrong, its your reaction. Its not logical given the situation but its still valid for you. Set some boundaries for him and yourself so you are in a more comfortable situation. He is not in this alone, you are enabling him to continue this. Decide what you want, then be strong and consistent about it.

Good Luck!

 

[Noor]

This guy is by no means lazy. He can't find a job in his field of work. Kind of hard to go from $25 an hr. doing what you enjoy to a job you hate. Money isn't a big issue bc, any would help

This happens to lots of people these days...

 

[Noor]

I'm not complaining, I just want to know others opinions on his wanting to fuck other chicks. I told him once he's working again and has his own ride then it's nothing I can do or say.

So basically you think you are paying for his exclusivity?

Maybe calculate how much he costs and see if you can find a better deal.
I wonder how much a decent exclusive gigolo is these days?

 

[Nidan]

Wow... My opinion. You're an idiot and deserve better.

Just my opinion though...

I was brought up to respect women... stupid idea, right?

 

[MissMJStone]

STOP BEING A DOORMAT WOMAN!

There are plenty more dicks out there. Let him be some other idiot's problem. Kick his ass out of your house asap and go find your next great shag.

 

[Eilan]

I think you need to think long and hard (heh) about whether or not some awesome cock is worth destroying both your finances and what little self-esteem you have left.

 

[cathysmack]

I'm no idiot, sure looks like it don't it? He's been kicked out A LOT but, he's a player/conman & knows what to say to get his foot back in the door. I have NEVER let anybody do me this way. I just told him that I have 99% of you guys telling me to get rid of you. He thinks if the sex stops things will improve between us. I won't deal w/ his fuck for the night coming to pick him up. I've been telling him for a week that he needs to go. I just hate that it'll end this way, we were so close & had so much fun for almost a yr.

 

[Goey]

You call the other women stupid and yet you let him play you him just in the same way? Face it - he has you wrapped around his finger. Cut him loose before your his foot-rest for life.

 

[desertslave]

No sex is "good" sex if it's potentially life-threatening! It's as simple as that. There are plenty of men out there who are (or can learn to be) good lays, and plenty of them aren't scheming deadbeats. Kick him to the curb, block his calls, and move on. Leeches like that don't deserve your time, attention, or money...unless you give it to them voluntarily. You are making the choice to let him take advantage of you.

 

[Edensgarden]

I'm not complaining, I just want to know others opinions on his wanting to fuck other chicks. I told him once he's working again and has his own ride then it's nothing I can do or say.

The reason he wants to fuck other chicks is because he's human. Who doesn't want to fuck somebody else at some time or another? It doesn't mean one has to act on it.

If he is a sex addict like you say, then its never going to change until he wants it to and that may mean seeking professional help for his addiction.

My advice.....BITCH UP! If he is meeting these women online, then disable the fucking internet. Get a smartphone with a "hotspot" so you still have internet access when needed.

 

[Eilan]

I'm no idiot, sure looks like it don't it? He's been kicked out A LOT but, he's a player/conman & knows what to say to get his foot back in the door. I have NEVER let anybody do me this way. I just told him that I have 99% of you guys telling me to get rid of you. He thinks if the sex stops things will improve between us. I won't deal w/ his fuck for the night coming to pick him up. I've been telling him for a week that he needs to go. I just hate that it'll end this way, we were so close & had so much fun for almost a yr.

Call the cops on him if he won't leave.