First time gay sex

[isuru]

I don't know whether I'm gay or not. But I like to have sex with another guy, thinking about having sex with another man makes me hard. So what should I need to know? How I find out whether I'm bottom or top? How to get someone to have sex with me? What should I do first?

Any advise would be great. And I'm 21 years old virgin.

 

[richfun]

Well I first had gay sex at 32.
Your sexuality is within you, you may be hetero, gay or bi, but if you relax you will know.
I think the top and bottom thing is nothing to worry about. Some gay men are quite dominant, some submissive. A lot are really neither, it is just a lovely time together, enjoying each other, feeling for each other.
As with getting to know anyone it is going to social events, I personally avoid meeting anyone on line, unless I have got to know them really well, there are risks.

 

[woman_inside]

About top or bottom: when u notice a guy sexually, do you look at his butt or the front? Do you have any specific gay sexual fantasies and if so, is there a recurring position? If you're a top anf you've had anal sex with a woman, the basic mechanics should't be all that different. If you're a bottom, remember to use plenty of lube. There are some sites giving good advice for first time anal.

About meeting someone, I met my first online although it's true there are risks. I suppose u could try gay bars or clubs.

anyway, feel free to ask more questions, u can pm me if u prefer.

 

[klippert]

I don't know whether I'm gay or not. But I like to have sex with another guy, thinking about having sex with another man makes me hard. So what should I need to know? How I find out whether I'm bottom or top? How to get someone to have sex with me? What should I do first?

Any advise would be great. And I'm 21 years old virgin.

you'll drive yourself nutters trying to decide the What and Who. I'm married with. I've had sex with other men....I've never once questioned my sexuality.... Though it has been 20 yrs since I have enjoyed man to man sex. I still have that attraction to a nice cock.
My real sexual urge is woman....BUT.

Might I suggest you sign up at Squirt Dot org..

 

[Stella_Omega]

A lot of gay men don't worry about top and bottom. You might be top one time and bottom the next, maybe even with the same man.

And there are ways in which neither guy is on top or bottom exactly. For instance, you can get belly to belly and grab both dicks together and jack off. That's a safe way to have sex, by the way. A lot of gay men don't do anal sex at all.

 

[sandyinpanties]

I am a very curiouis 62 yo man. I have been watching gay porn and think I am ready to do it. I know i am bottom because the idea of submitiing to a man turns me on. As you can tell by my name i would love to be in a pair of pantys while we did it. My problem is finding someone to do it with. I tried craigslist had offers but chicken out. Would love to chat with someone with experience

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sandy, try http://squirt.org

 

[CJontherocks]

I don't know whether I'm gay or not. But I like to have sex with another guy, thinking about having sex with another man makes me hard. So what should I need to know? How I find out whether I'm bottom or top? How to get someone to have sex with me? What should I do first?

Any advise would be great. And I'm 21 years old virgin.

I don't know whether I'm a bottom or a top, and I'm well beyond my virgin days. I wouldn't get wrapped around the axle over that. When you've had some experience, you'll know what you like better. You may find out you like the middle.

How do you get someone to have sex with you? Hmmm... seems like some men go through their entire lives trying to get a definite answer to that question. Meet some men. If you meet one and you are attracted to each other, you'll probably have sex... unless you do something to blow it, like talk about girls all night or tell him you're bisexual.

What do you need to know? ALWAYS have safe sex. ALWAYS be yourself. ALWAYS know who you're going to bed with. And ALWAYS ALWAYS swallow. I think that about covers it.

What you should do first is just what you've probably always done... wait, you're 21 and ain't been laid... okay, maybe not quite what you've always done. Seriously, though... meet a guy. Get to know him. Let yourself go with whatever it is you are comfortable with. You'll get there.

 

[funcpl2730]

Mwm with serious desire for cock to watch and play with. Its getting harder to hide desire.

 

[Hubs_in_hose]

Don't question the who, what, or why. If you do then you will be all tied up inside and never get the answer. I really hate labels. We are ALL sexual beings. We get pleasure in sex, it should not matter if it is with someone of our own gender or not. Find someone you enjoy being with and go from there. Take precautions, don't force yourself to do anything that you are not comfortable doing, and enjoy yourself.

 

[rbone04]

I don't know whether I'm a bottom or a top, and I'm well beyond my virgin days. I wouldn't get wrapped around the axle over that. When you've had some experience, you'll know what you like better. You may find out you like the middle.

How do you get someone to have sex with you? Hmmm... seems like some men go through their entire lives trying to get a definite answer to that question. Meet some men. If you meet one and you are attracted to each other, you'll probably have sex... unless you do something to blow it, like talk about girls all night or tell him you're bisexual.

What do you need to know? ALWAYS have safe sex. ALWAYS be yourself. ALWAYS know who you're going to bed with. And ALWAYS ALWAYS swallow. I think that about covers it.

What you should do first is just what you've probably always done... wait, you're 21 and ain't been laid... okay, maybe not quite what you've always done. Seriously, though... meet a guy. Get to know him. Let yourself go with whatever it is you are comfortable with. You'll get there.

I know this was said somewhat in jest, HOWEVER... For the sake of advice to newcomers, maybe it's necessary to mention there are some inherent risks involved with swallowing (especially if you're seeking a hookup online). Not to be a downer, but you are advocating safe sex here first and foremost.

 

[CJontherocks]

I know this was said somewhat in jest, HOWEVER... For the sake of advice to newcomers, maybe it's necessary to mention there are some inherent risks involved with swallowing (especially if you're seeking a hookup online). Not to be a downer, but you are advocating safe sex here first and foremost.

I should mention that there are some inherent risks involved with swallowing (especially if you're seeking a hookup online). Which is why you should always know who you're going to bed with, and what they might bring with them.


Isuru, the comment about always swallowing was in jest, of course. I don't advocate anonymous online hookups. It's way too risky and rarely (in my limited experience) satisfying. I'm not against meeting someone new through an online forum but that, I believe, should be only the first step in looking for a partner. Don't have unsafe sex... ever.

 

[TJcurious]

Another (free, and fairly inexpensive pay) site to meet guys is silverdaddies.com
I've met a couple of great guys there...no luck on squirt.org.
I have only had mutual oral with a couple of guys....no anal...and don't label myself as a top or bottom.

 

[Kileypavano]

Just go to the mall and look around!

 

[Chrissi]

I don't know whether I'm gay or not. But I like to have sex with another guy, thinking about having sex with another man makes me hard. So what should I need to know? How I find out whether I'm bottom or top? How to get someone to have sex with me? What should I do first?

Any advise would be great. And I'm 21 years old virgin.

I don't know whether I'm a bottom or a top, and I'm well beyond my virgin days. I wouldn't get wrapped around the axle over that. When you've had some experience, you'll know what you like better. You may find out you like the middle.

How do you get someone to have sex with you? Hmmm... seems like some men go through their entire lives trying to get a definite answer to that question. Meet some men. If you meet one and you are attracted to each other, you'll probably have sex... unless you do something to blow it, like talk about girls all night or tell him you're bisexual.

What do you need to know? ALWAYS have safe sex. ALWAYS be yourself. ALWAYS know who you're going to bed with. And ALWAYS ALWAYS swallow. I think that about covers it.

What you should do first is just what you've probably always done... wait, you're 21 and ain't been laid... okay, maybe not quite what you've always done. Seriously, though... meet a guy. Get to know him. Let yourself go with whatever it is you are comfortable with. You'll get there.

What CJ said...just let it happen...

I would probably guess that you may be gay as it seems that most of your sexual fantasies involve (exclusively?) men... while that is not definitive, it can be a pretty strong indicator of homosexuality.

Mix and mingle, if a guy is interesting to you, say hi...take things from there. A smile and eye contact speak worlds. Of course putting yourself in situations where there are higher concentrations of gay men helps too (gay bar, gay areas of town, gay events...etc.) The internet can help there too.

There are many gay hookup sites. But really don't hold your breath too long if you are looking for an LTR or even dating. OKCupid is a gay oriented dating site. But if you are trying to meet guys, and not necessarily for sex, then perhaps an interest site that is gay oriented. If you like the outdoors or athletics, then both gayoutdoors.org and realjock.com are great places to start. Give them a visit, you can join either for free and you are guaranteed to meet some nice men in your area who have similar interests.

Hope this helps a little,
Topher.

 

[burnie4434]

I was 48 when I sucked my first cock. My only regret was that I had not done it sooner in my life.

 

[burnie4434]

I was 48 when I had my first gay sex. My first thought was why had I not done this before. It took me a couple of years to realize that I am gay. I have sucked many cocks. I also found that I am a bottom as I loved getting fucked. The best is to have a cock in my mouth and another in my ass at the same time.