Would you rather be wanted or needed?

[Bidin~Time]

Do they go hand in hand? Does one mean more to you than the other? For you, what is it to be wanted? what is it to be needed?

 

[warrior queen]

I love that my man WANTS me. In all ways - as a partner, lover, friend.
I love the fact that he tells me this even more

 

[bronzeage]

I am always needed. Being wanted is much better.

 

[Silverlily]

It depends - wanted by whom?

For example, I'd rather be needed by the FBI than wanted by the FBI.

 

[Bert Notorius]

I need to take a poop but I don't always want to.

 

[cfuhrer]

I have been needed. I would much rather be wanted

It depends - wanted by whom?
For example, I'd rather be needed by the FBI than wanted by the FBI.

Good point.

 

[sunandshadow]

I wrote a story about a guy who was wanted but not needed in his marriage realizing he really wasn't satisfied that way and would prefer a divorce. But I think needed but not wanted is definitely worse.

 

[RoryN]

Good question.

But, easy answer for me: want > need.

 

[Bidin~Time]

Don't ya hate it when someone posts a thread then falls asleep on the couch?

I did mean wanted or needed in a relationship, I failed to clarify. Ooops

 

[starrheat]

easy.....

Wanted

 

[TexasWife25]

Id rather be wanted but I dont think I could stay in any relationship where I wasn't both.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

IRL needed kicks wanted's ass every time.

 

[ksmybuttons]

I don't know. I guess I just want to be loved. I don't want to have to do anything, especially live up to someone's expectations.

 

[O-dad's Medium]

It depends - wanted by whom?

For example, I'd rather be needed by the FBI than wanted by the FBI.

Both could still be interesting.

 

[parodyluvr75]

Post office posters say wanted. Needed is better. Being loved usually implies both.

 

[Bidin~Time]

Another question: Is the importance of being more wanted or more needed change based upon the gender of the person answering the question? Or does the personality of the individual determine their answer?

 

[koalabear]

Another question: Is the importance of being more wanted or more needed change based upon the gender of the person answering the question? Or does the personality of the individual determine their answer?

Get me some coffee will ya?

 

[O-dad's Medium]

Another question: Is the importance of being more wanted or more needed change based upon the gender of the person answering the question? Or does the personality of the individual determine their answer?

I would vote for "the individual".

Also, I would vote for someone wanting to knead me.

And that koalas should get their own damned coffee.

 

[koalabear]

I would vote for "the individual".

Also, I would vote for someone wanting to knead me.

And that koalas should get their own damned coffee.

 

[O-dad's Medium]

I do not approve of playing the "cute and fuzzy" card.

Also, I've read about your social behavior patterns and it turns out you're a lot of vicious little bastards.

So there.

 

[koalabear]

I do not approve of playing the "cute and fuzzy" card.

Also, I've read about your social behavior patterns and it turns out you're a lot of vicious little bastards.

So there.

I vote wanted!!!!!

 

[O-dad's Medium]

I vote wanted!!!!!

See.

That wasn't so hard, now was it?

 

[Mulenga225]

Wanted or Needed

I want neither to be Wanted nor to be Needed.

If I am Wanted, there is a desire, covet, crave and wish from or of my partner.

If I am Needed, there is necessity, obligation, poverty or misfortune from or of my partner.

 

[koalabear]

See.

That wasn't so hard, now was it?

BULLY!

 

[lothwen]

I'd rather be wanted, because being needed can be seen as being dependent on, at least in my view. My ex always "needed me." He needed me to help pay the rent, he needed me to drive him to work, he needed me to cook him dinner every night, he needed me to perform my "wifely" duties in the bedroom whenever he felt like it, but I don't believe he ever really wanted me.