Red's Thread - come in and read a bit, post a bit, and lick a bit... okay... alot!!!

[sereneone4u]

I'm glad you trust them, they are a good bunch and if they don't listen to know, throw their ass on ignore and I'll deal with them as best I can, though as we all know in the end it is up to all of us to deal with asses in our own way - ignore is the best, I've learned.



I can hardly contain my personal level of excitement, because I think it's going to rock.

A audio chain story would be very different and I don't believe there are any out there like that. I do have a new chain story idea, but is FAR from what you just suggested, it could go over very well - your idea - mine is more like an "eh, maybe that would work." We'll see.



I lurk you to in the same way and feel the same as well.



One never knows from one day to the next or one hour from the next what is going to be going on here. I like that.



I can start out all Domme, but shortly into it, I know damn well I want him to take over. I can't carry it myself for too long. I feel foolish and inept.

When I am being assertive, I am the same way, I start out strong, but I sort of start to fizzle, I need him to take over...carry me like you said...complete me.

 

[lance gt]

I like to explore the boundaries of my comfort zone and allow a woman to expand her horizons. I can take on either role, but being an Alpha male, I have to assume my true nature and take control again.

I like that we can discuss issues openly in here. I know I'm usually the instigator, but it tends to be subjects everyone has an interest in. It's amazing how people open up, when we discuss things like this.

 

[sereneone4u]

I love the intensity of my type of Dom.

No one pays attention to you like a Dominant does. No other goes the distance.

It is all about control for me. I am so in control every cottonpickin second of my life. I can only trust myself and I have to be steel. But I am not meant to be that way while I have the capability to do so, it is just what was a defense during times that left me broken and keeps me from fully mending. I get so tired of being on full alert, it is exhausting and debilitating.

But with the right Dom, there are no defenses. You are stripped and vulnerable and you learn it is okay because he is safe. He is strong and both in control and self controlled and you can let go...you are uncaged...you are released...

Ironic how many see the Dom/sub dynamic as stagnant and dark. I see it as freedom and light.

So much work for the Dom though, I wonder what they get out of it.

 

[The_Fool]

Foolish kisses...

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I think it all comes down to each encounter you have with each individual. people are getting caught up to much in terms. yes we all like definitions, but there is fluidity in those terms too.

I hate being pigeon holed. hey this is what i think you are, this is what you are. For right now yes, i want to be perceived a certain way. And that is where i am right now. Maybe in a year I'll be shouting against the evils of BDSM and moving in to tantric sex and everyone just makes love and no power struggle.

Yes, do not label me. I know who and what I am. It's taken me a while to realize this, but I am quite capable of picking and choosing with whom I will trust and interact with. If I give you the power over me beyond a simple tryst on the boards or a quickie in a PM that doesn't mean you are my Dom. That comes only when I allow it.

I do know that from my past experiences - though yes, small in number. . . I do not care to be labeled right away. Meaning I don't want to be "pet" or "slave" or "slut" until I feel it is time. I am 100% Dee Dee and to give me a label to early makes me feel as if the person has forgotten who I am completely. I will accept a label, when my heart feels ready for it. Not sooner, so don't push me.

Enjoyed it actually.

That is a very good thing. Not many men can do both.

When I am being assertive, I am the same way, I start out strong, but I sort of start to fizzle, I need him to take over...carry me like you said...complete me.

Complete - a perfect word.

I like to explore the boundaries of my comfort zone and allow a woman to expand her horizons. I can take on either role, but being an Alpha male, I have to assume my true nature and take control again.

I like that we can discuss issues openly in here. I know I'm usually the instigator, but it tends to be subjects everyone has an interest in. It's amazing how people open up, when we discuss things like this.

Even before you started posting here, we've covered various topics. It's something that has happened from day one of this thread and I hope continues. Sometimes someone will just say something that makes me stop and think and so a conversation begins. It's the best way to do things, I think.

I love the intensity of my type of Dom.

No one pays attention to you like a Dominant does. No other goes the distance.

It is all about control for me. I am so in control every cottonpickin second of my life. I can only trust myself and I have to be steel. But I am not meant to be that way while I have the capability to do so, it is just what was a defense during times that left me broken and keeps me from fully mending. I get so tired of being on full alert, it is exhausting and debilitating.

But with the right Dom, there are no defenses. You are stripped and vulnerable and you learn it is okay because he is safe. He is strong and both in control and self controlled and you can let go...you are uncaged...you are released...

Ironic how many see the Dom/sub dynamic as stagnant and dark. I see it as freedom and light.

So much work for the Dom though, I wonder what they get out of it.

I am sure they get a reward that we can't even begin to fathom, that or it is the same for us, but the men and women that are Dom/Domme don't vocalize it as much.

For me, there is a peace that is unlike anything else I've ever felt. Even online I have found it and I hope to find it again someday - I think. . . Right now, I don't know if I want to look again. There is so much to me that is screwed up, I struggle enough to fix me, to saddle another with Red seems quite unfair.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Foolish kisses...

Only by the name, the kisses are never foolish.

 

[sereneone4u]

Yes, do not label me. I know who and what I am. It's taken me a while to realize this, but I am quite capable of picking and choosing with whom I will trust and interact with. If I give you the power over me beyond a simple tryst on the boards or a quickie in a PM that doesn't mean you are my Dom. That comes only when I allow it.

I do know that from my past experiences - though yes, small in number. . . I do not care to be labeled right away. Meaning I don't want to be "pet" or "slave" or "slut" until I feel it is time. I am 100% Dee Dee and to give me a label to early makes me feel as if the person has forgotten who I am completely. I will accept a label, when my heart feels ready for it. Not sooner, so don't push me.




That is a very good thing. Not many men can do both.



Complete - a perfect word.



Even before you started posting here, we've covered various topics. It's something that has happened from day one of this thread and I hope continues. Sometimes someone will just say something that makes me stop and think and so a conversation begins. It's the best way to do things, I think.




I am sure they get a reward that we can't even begin to fathom, that or it is the same for us, but the men and women that are Dom/Domme don't vocalize it as much.

For me, there is a peace that is unlike anything else I've ever felt. Even online I have found it and I hope to find it again someday - I think. . . Right now, I don't know if I want to look again. There is so much to me that is screwed up, I struggle enough to fix me, to saddle another with Red seems quite unfair.

Glad you understood even with all my babbling. It is something I struggle with, I am stumbling...

Yes. Excellent word. PEACE. That is how I feel when it is right. That I have peace.

It is why I am so wanting. I want to be at peace and I feel like I am constantly at war. Especially with myself.

 

[Scentofawoman]

I love the intensity of my type of Dom.

No one pays attention to you like a Dominant does. No other goes the distance.

It is all about control for me. I am so in control every cottonpickin second of my life. I can only trust myself and I have to be steel. But I am not meant to be that way while I have the capability to do so, it is just what was a defense during times that left me broken and keeps me from fully mending. I get so tired of being on full alert, it is exhausting and debilitating.

But with the right Dom, there are no defenses. You are stripped and vulnerable and you learn it is okay because he is safe. He is strong and both in control and self controlled and you can let go...you are uncaged...you are released...

Ironic how many see the Dom/sub dynamic as stagnant and dark. I see it as freedom and light.

So much work for the Dom though, I wonder what they get out of it.

I think it really depends on who they are and their relationship to the sub. I think woman have a harder time in a way because they have to "prove" themselves. I am not out to do that. what I feel though if I have gotten the trust of a man is satisfaction, aroused, and very humbled.

 

[sereneone4u]

I think it really depends on who they are and their relationship to the sub. I think woman have a harder time in a way because they have to "prove" themselves. I am not out to do that. what I feel though if I have gotten the trust of a man is satisfaction, aroused, and very humbled.

You are speaking from the Domme perspective, yes?

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Glad you understood even with all my babbling. It is something I struggle with, I am stumbling...

Yes. Excellent word. PEACE. That is how I feel when it is right. That I have peace.

It is why I am so wanting. I want to be at peace and I feel like I am constantly at war. Especially with myself.

I did understand, very much so.

If I were in a place in my life where I could walk out the door and search for that peace, I would do so. I am not though not yet. Someday I think I will be, but that takes time.

So in the world of virtual online relationships, I give as much as myself that I am able to give and I do so wholeheartedly. I hold back only until the trust has been established and then all is given.

In my perfect world - the physical perfect one - it would be with a man that I could stand beside who saw me as an equal but also knew me as a submissive. He would shelter me, protect me, guard me and keep me from being abused by the world and the stress that comes with life. It would be a chore, yes - I've already said what a chore I would be, but it would be one he would cherish, for I am very much a cherish worthy person. Again it took time to realize that and a lot of self-healing on my part.

 

[Scentofawoman]

You are speaking from the Domme perspective, yes?

yes.

I think for a Domme there is a fine line between "bitch" and "dominant". I am struggleing with myself to keep that line.

 

[sereneone4u]

I did understand, very much so.

If I were in a place in my life where I could walk out the door and search for that peace, I would do so. I am not though not yet. Someday I think I will be, but that takes time.

So in the world of virtual online relationships, I give as much as myself that I am able to give and I do so wholeheartedly. I hold back only until the trust has been established and then all is given.

In my perfect world - the physical perfect one - it would be with a man that I could stand beside who saw me as an equal but also knew me as a submissive. He would shelter me, protect me, guard me and keep me from being abused by the world and the stress that comes with life. It would be a chore, yes - I've already said what a chore I would be, but it would be one he would cherish, for I am very much a cherish worthy person. Again it took time to realize that and a lot of self-healing on my part.

Exactly, Red...EXACTLY

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

yes.

I think for a Domme there is a fine line between "bitch" and "dominant". I am struggleing with myself to keep that line.

Sometimes one and the same.

 

[goodgurlgetsbad]

Hello RED
Hello Everyone
I am happy to finally fulfill something I've wanted to do- hmmmmm
Love making special people happy

 

[Nick0311]

I did understand, very much so.

If I were in a place in my life where I could walk out the door and search for that peace, I would do so. I am not though not yet. Someday I think I will be, but that takes time.

So in the world of virtual online relationships, I give as much as myself that I am able to give and I do so wholeheartedly. I hold back only until the trust has been established and then all is given.

In my perfect world - the physical perfect one - it would be with a man that I could stand beside who saw me as an equal but also knew me as a submissive. He would shelter me, protect me, guard me and keep me from being abused by the world and the stress that comes with life. It would be a chore, yes - I've already said what a chore I would be, but it would be one he would cherish, for I am very much a cherish worthy person. Again it took time to realize that and a lot of self-healing on my part.

Please forgive my ignorance and this is just my point of view, but that wouldn't be a chore it would be second nature.

 

[Nick0311]

Hello RED
Hello Everyone
I am happy to finally fulfill something I've wanted to do- hmmmmm
Love making special people happy

Care to explain?

 

[Scentofawoman]

lol! Red if you are a chore, then i have to be bitter job! lol!

 

[sereneone4u]

Hello RED
Hello Everyone
I am happy to finally fulfill something I've wanted to do- hmmmmm
Love making special people happy

hello gggb

 

[Scentofawoman]

Hello RED
Hello Everyone
I am happy to finally fulfill something I've wanted to do- hmmmmm
Love making special people happy

Hiya! GG

long time no see!

 

[sereneone4u]

Please forgive my ignorance and this is just my point of view, but that wouldn't be a chore it would be second nature.

You would be surprised I guess that for quite a number of men it is not.

 

[sereneone4u]

yes.

I think for a Domme there is a fine line between "bitch" and "dominant". I am struggleing with myself to keep that line.

Thank you for your perspective.

I guess it is the pleaser in me that becomes anxious over what a Dominant gets out of it.

 

[lance gt]

I wonder how many will go away today after reading all the posts, with a better understanding of BDSM and D/s relationships?

 

[Nick0311]

You would be surprised I guess that for quite a number of men it is not.

Well it should and if it's not then they don't deserve you.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

yes.

I think for a Domme there is a fine line between "bitch" and "dominant". I am struggleing with myself to keep that line.

I can see where a woman would feel she was walking a fine line, but her submissive would know and that's what would matter. Just like a man is seen as cruel and abusive to some for his actions placed on his sub, the sub knows the truth and that is what counts.

Exactly, Red...EXACTLY

Hello RED
Hello Everyone
I am happy to finally fulfill something I've wanted to do- hmmmmm
Love making special people happy

Hello my beautiful and lovely friend.

Please forgive my ignorance and this is just my point of view, but that wouldn't be a chore it would be second nature.

It's hard for me to see myself as not a "chore" a topic we covered yesterday I believe. I have a lot of baggage, like tons and tons of it and it covers me sometimes like a blanket and it is in my mind asking a lot for a man to take that one his shoulders. Even if he says he will... he has to be able to do it. I can't support both of us. I'm too weak a woman to do that. So for me... I feel at times I'm a chore, but Scent lovingly called me "high maintenance" - emotionally. (it does sound better than chore).

lol! Red if you are a chore, then i have to be bitter job! lol!

*chuckles*

 

[Scentofawoman]

Thank you for your perspective.

I guess it is the pleaser in me that becomes anxious over what a Dominant gets out of it.

you're welcome.

Serene, if you have a good dominant then he will have asked you what your limits are then he will explore those limits with you. But if you say no, and he doesn't stop, then you know he is truly in it for himself and not for you. That is when you move on.


A Dominant that does not ask questions or listens to answers is not a good dominant at all. Period
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