MilkFountain
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How do you feel, ladies, about and during being shared with others by your husband or boyfried? I'm a man in such a (successful) relationship.
Ladies' feelings about being shared . . .
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I would love to share my wife, but she's not interested. I would certainly love to hear about how it goes for you.
elsaparker
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Its a big trust issue. I would love to sleep with a fellow I know from work and I would like my husband to be there as well. I don't think my husband would be up for it. I haven't met many guys that would be comfortable with the idea.
I would love my wife ot have other men, but by herself and then tell me about it later. Preferably right afterwards. I would love to have her after she has had another man.
Does your husband know?
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TALLDAD1 and elsaparker . . .
TALLDAD1:
I would love to share my wife, but she's not interested. I would certainly love to hear about how it goes for you.
I'm far older than my wife. I know she loves me and it's taken more than 4 years to give her enough confidence and love to believe that I really enjoy her adventures (of which I am primary instigator, scenario writer, and avid audience). Now she enjoys our exploration and escapades, and because one aspect is that I always ask her to surprise me, she has got into it so far that she has done things that shock me into reality. Added to the erotic, she’s lactating heavily with our first child, something that apparently drives other guys as crazy with want as I am.
I believe as the Canadian Eskimo do, that a stranger spending the night with the wife renews her and she returns to her husband full of love, peace and joy. In our case it's so.
But I was hoping to hear from some ladies, to enlighten me as to what my wife thinks and feels about all this.
TALLDAD1:
I would love to share my wife, but she's not interested. I would certainly love to hear about how it goes for you.
I'm far older than my wife. I know she loves me and it's taken more than 4 years to give her enough confidence and love to believe that I really enjoy her adventures (of which I am primary instigator, scenario writer, and avid audience). Now she enjoys our exploration and escapades, and because one aspect is that I always ask her to surprise me, she has got into it so far that she has done things that shock me into reality. Added to the erotic, she’s lactating heavily with our first child, something that apparently drives other guys as crazy with want as I am.
I believe as the Canadian Eskimo do, that a stranger spending the night with the wife renews her and she returns to her husband full of love, peace and joy. In our case it's so.
But I was hoping to hear from some ladies, to enlighten me as to what my wife thinks and feels about all this.
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roomfor1more
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We have had a few threesomes and where I shared my wife with other men when I am not there, in our younger days. They went well and I feel it was a part of defining our relationship. Now, she will briefly entertain the idea even taking a few steps towards arranging something before rejecting it. A part of me still hopes she will do it again because it can be quite an erotic experience it goes well. Nonetheless I do understand, the risks involved, understand the changes we have go through as a couple, and her feelings on the subject. So, I do not push the idea with her and let anything happen organically. In answer to your question, my own feeling it depends on the stage in life she is, her feelings, and values. Most likely she will not go through with but it is difficult to predict what the future may hold for the two of you.
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Yeah i'm sure a lotta guys can handle it but most wouldn't be able to keep jealousy at bay. Best if you keep it to playmates! As Holley says, keep the love out of it
I wish my guy felt this way. It sounds wonderful...in theory anyway. Honestly, I'm not sure if I could go through with it even if he gave me the go ahead (as much as I'd like to think I would!). Perhaps someday I'll be lucky enough to find out.
I live with my husband and his father, and we share each other, and it works fantasically for us. I have written a small account of our life together under the thread 'incest with my father in law' - although i know its not strictly incest as he's not a blood relation.
I love being shared by the 2 men - double of everything - what more could a woman ask for.
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How much to ship her to zip code 855XX?...grin
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jen thanks for posting that, their are people that share their spouse's,
Yes I'll say it I'm shared, but at the same time I share my husband, it works both ways
as much as can be said about the jealousy of a man sharing his wife, I think more can be said about a woman. From many conversations on the topic all the women questioned think it's ok for them but it is not an option for the husband to be shared. Someone please tell me why this is. It makes absolutely no sense to me. I think what's good for the goose should be good for the gander.
I agree: what's good for the goose...and all that. If she gets to play, so should he. Until (and unless) I'm comfortable with my guy with another woman I won't even begin to try making this fantasy a reality.
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If other people can make it work, I'm happy for them, but it's not for me. I'm a very monogamous person and in a relationship I look for somebody who's also monogamous.
I think if a boyfriend told me he wanted to "share" me, I'd probably actually be hurt by it, however irrational that reaction might be. I guess I want someone who's more possessive than that. And if it's flipped, I want to be enough for somebody without him having to go fuck other people. *shrug* That's how I am. I was actually really surprised to see how many people have this fantasy, since it holds so little appeal for me personally.
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Dear EVERYONE . . . Someone once said, "A woman does not think she is the center of the universe, she KNOWS she is! Except for very young men (who also think they are the center of the universe), all women want the illusion or plain fact that in the moment they are the only woman in the eyes of the beholder(s).
I do believe that sharing for my husband and I is successful ecause we are open and honest with our feelings and thoughts....we respect each others wishes,interests and tastes and try to provide each otherwith what we enjoy....initially we experienced all the hesitation,emotions and feelings ...but like all relationships no matter how different...worked through them .....
yes.....we do distinguish between love and sex.....but we share the emotion,together...and the fun..lol
yes.....we do distinguish between love and sex.....but we share the emotion,together...and the fun..lol
I trust him not to go behind my back. I just know she will be on his mind and he will ask again.
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Jealousy is the biggest hurdle in a 3some, the only way it works if all of the 3 don't get jealous.
It sounds like the best way for you is if the other woman wasn't someone you both knew well, someone you both wouldn't see after that night.
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My husband and I have been swingers for over 20 years. When we first met I was bisexual and told him up front I was not willing to give up that part of my life. For a couple of years we had quite a few FFM experiences and to be honest while the thought of MMF was a turn on I never thought it would happen and did not press the issue.
After we had been together around 4 years it was my husband that brought up the subject of sharing me with another man. It has worked for us as we are highly sexual people yet realize there is a difference between lust and love. A man has to really be confident in himself to watch his wife or girlfriend with another man (same goes for women watching their husbands). We know very strong couples who love sex and enjoy watching each other pleasured. We also know couples where one pushed the swinger issue on their spouse and it ended in divorce. So honesty is very important. A spouse should NEVER be forced into something they don't want to do. That is wrong. But if both are interested...both are aroused by the idea...could be something worth pursuing.
After we had been together around 4 years it was my husband that brought up the subject of sharing me with another man. It has worked for us as we are highly sexual people yet realize there is a difference between lust and love. A man has to really be confident in himself to watch his wife or girlfriend with another man (same goes for women watching their husbands). We know very strong couples who love sex and enjoy watching each other pleasured. We also know couples where one pushed the swinger issue on their spouse and it ended in divorce. So honesty is very important. A spouse should NEVER be forced into something they don't want to do. That is wrong. But if both are interested...both are aroused by the idea...could be something worth pursuing.
