Psychiatric Help, 5 Cents

[StaciRay79]

It was suggested to me that I start this thread and offer my thoughts and opinions on questions that people ask me. Keep in mind, I am not a liscensed doctor and "you get what you pay for!"

With that being said... The Doctor is In! Ask me anything you'd like and I'll do my best to offer you my "jaded" opinions!!

 

[FloridaCouple]

It was suggested to me that I start this thread and offer my thoughts and opinions on questions that people ask me. Keep in mind, I am not a liscensed doctor and "you get what you pay for!"

With that being said... The Doctor is In! Ask me anything you'd like and I'll do my best to offer you my "jaded" opinions!!

I have a penchent for receiving anal with large dildos. Why is that?

Holmes

Flash Brown - Calling all Size Queens

 

[StaciRay79]

After a brief evaluation of your profile, I'd say it's because you've been inserting objects in your ass for a long time. Over time you've grown weary of small objects... they just don't stimulate you in the right spots. The pictures you've attached indicate that you've got a desire for a large cock such as the one John Holmes sported, or a strong black one.

My recommendation for you is to do a video with Mandingo. I'm sure he'll satisfy your penchent.

hope this helps!!

I have a penchent for receiving anal with large dildos. Why is that?

Holmes

Flash Brown - Calling all Size Queens

 

[FloridaCouple]

After a brief evaluation of your profile, I'd say it's because you've been inserting objects in your ass for a long time. Over time you've grown weary of small objects... they just don't stimulate you in the right spots. The pictures you've attached indicate that you've got a desire for a large cock such as the one John Holmes sported, or a strong black one.

My recommendation for you is to do a video with Mandingo. I'm sure he'll satisfy your penchent.

hope this helps!!

Mandingo? I would if I could, but he does not do gay videos. Thanks for the help, Doc

 

[Interested_Girl]

Why are men actively afraid of relatively intelligent women? This has puzzled me for years.
Is it true most men just want a mother they can fuck? (A woman who will give them children, clean, cook, laundry and be their depository.)

 

[StaciRay79]

Two great questions!

First - A woman who might actually be smart on an issue frightens a man because the woman may be able to see past the superficial knowledge a man typically uses to try and impress her with. If she calls his bluff, he feels foolish and feels he's lost her respect and admiration in ALL areas. He's afraid she might know more than him on many subjects and he now feels embarassed by her. This mental embarassment extends to physical embarassment as well. Unless he's got a massive cock, he's afraid that his average sized one is now too small to impress her. Having lost all confidence he now tries to distance himself from her as quickly as possible. He doesn't want to hang around and let her prove he's inadequate in other ways. ...or something like that.

Regarding your Second question - there's something very sexy about a "hot young soccer mom". When she also takes care of all the man's domestic chores and needs, that just makes it even better. So why wouldn't they have this fantasy?! She does all the work, takes care of the kids, feeds him, keeps herself looking great, and still spreads her legs for him. It allows him to do anything he wants - which includes lay on the couch and watch football all weekend long. I think this is the dream scenario of many men. I don't think I've got a good answer for this one. If I really had to guess, I'd say that most men probably had a "hot young mom" they looked at and fantasized about. She wasn't perfect, probably didn't do half the things they thought... but in their heads, they wove together the perfect match of all those things they thought a mother should do with this gorgeous young woman and wished for a woman like that.

Why are men actively afraid of relatively intelligent women? This has puzzled me for years.
Is it true most men just want a mother they can fuck? (A woman who will give them children, clean, cook, laundry and be their depository.)

 

[Noor]

why do guys on lit always let me know who they are in real life, why can't they let me have my fantasy without ruining it with reality

oh and if they only told me in a round about way, do I need to keep up the pretense that I don't know?

To be fair every guy I have met from lit in real life has been as good or better than here, but still why can't I have a nice tall dark bearded stranger who just provides amazing phone sex without real life and past baggage encroaching?

 

[StaciRay79]

By saying you've met them in real life, it sounds to me like you've already decided that you're willing to cross the line between fantasy and reality. I make it quite clear that I only do my online activity for the fantasy and thrill. I don't want to meet anyone in real life and I don't want to swap pictures either. I don't mind pictures once I've gotten to know someone and feel like I've developed a friendship, but I really don't want to see pics before that. I have my fantasies too and would rather let my mind do all the work. That's also why I prefer text chat only - no pics, no cams, no phones. I let my imagination fill in all the gaps.

Maybe you should make it clear upfront that this is your fantasy world too and you'd rather imagine what they look and sound like. I call it my "virtual one-night stands." I don't want to know more about you than I'm willing to ask. Beyond that, let me pretend you are who I want you to be!

And don't feel obligated to remember what they've told you or pretend that you don't know. I often forget details about many of the people I chat with. I don't feel obligated to remember them all... after all, they are just "electronic pieces of meat!"

why do guys on lit always let me know who they are in real life, why can't they let me have my fantasy without ruining it with reality

oh and if they only told me in a round about way, do I need to keep up the pretense that I don't know?

To be fair every guy I have met from lit in real life has been as good or better than here, but still why can't I have a nice tall dark bearded stranger who just provides amazing phone sex without real life and past baggage encroaching?

 

[JackVettriano]

How to have a sex life alone

I spend a lot of time away from home, often months at a time. I have a high sex drive and when I am not working I often find myself thinking about sex. All my colleagues seem 'normal' and never talk openly about sex unless they are hitting on someone. I would never cheat on my girl, but I love the idea of flirting, having a really sexual conversation with a girl and then going back to my room alone and taking care of myself. Why are others not into this? Am I alone in craving sex when away from home?

 

[Noor]

By saying you've met them in real life, it sounds to me like you've already decided that you're willing to cross the line between fantasy and reality. I make it quite clear that I only do my online activity for the fantasy and thrill. I don't want to meet anyone in real life and I don't want to swap pictures either. I don't mind pictures once I've gotten to know someone and feel like I've developed a friendship, but I really don't want to see pics before that. I have my fantasies too and would rather let my mind do all the work. That's also why I prefer text chat only - no pics, no cams, no phones. I let my imagination fill in all the gaps.

Maybe you should make it clear upfront that this is your fantasy world too and you'd rather imagine what they look and sound like. I call it my "virtual one-night stands." I don't want to know more about you than I'm willing to ask. Beyond that, let me pretend you are who I want you to be!

And don't feel obligated to remember what they've told you or pretend that you don't know. I often forget details about many of the people I chat with. I don't feel obligated to remember them all... after all, they are just "electronic pieces of meat!"

Thanks for answering but not exactly the type of answer of what I was looking for.

I have never met anyone from online for sex. I also don't swap pictures unless I actually feel like I developed a friendship. I don't do any type of one stands, virtual or otherwise. I didn't mean why can't they be nice pieces of meat, but more why can't we just enjoy what is there. We are real people but in this fantasy.
I don't feel obligated to remember but I have a mind like a steel trap sometimes, I just want to have fun and enjoy myself/ourselves without the encroaching of real life fears and baggage.

Perhaps I didn't word my question well, I will have to try again again later.

 

[ottohauser1977]

Just for fun, I'll give this one a go.

1. Why am I so attracted to Middle Eastern women?
2. Why is it that I can only get into female dominance if it is connected to incest? Any other form of fem dom is a turn-off? Flip it around and I can also only get into incest if it is in a fem dom context?
3. Why is it that I enjoyed fucking a transvestite so much all those years ago? I've done it only once, but she was extremely good and I can't forget it. I'm just glad that I wore a rubber (well, she insisted on it, too). I still get a hard-on thinking about fucking her, years later. She was a very hot Tejana.
4. I still have sexual thoughts about my exes, but I know that it's best to not resume any sexual contact. How best to deal with those fantasies?

This should be a good test of your psychological technique. By the way, are you Freudian, Jungian, or Adlerian in your thinking?

 

[StaciRay79]

You are certainly not alone in craving sex when away from home! Flirting is what you make of it! It can be pure teasing and fun or, if you're willing to cross the line, it can be much much more. If you're not wanting to cheat on your girl, then flirt for fun and then go back to your room alone and take care of yourself.

But be warned, i'm pretty sure your friends don't want to hear about how you "rubbed one out last night." So maybe you shouldn't talk about it around your colleagues.

I spend a lot of time away from home, often months at a time. I have a high sex drive and when I am not working I often find myself thinking about sex. All my colleagues seem 'normal' and never talk openly about sex unless they are hitting on someone. I would never cheat on my girl, but I love the idea of flirting, having a really sexual conversation with a girl and then going back to my room alone and taking care of myself. Why are others not into this? Am I alone in craving sex when away from home?

 

[StaciRay79]

sorry I missed your question. Feel free to rephrase and I'll give it another go!

Thanks for answering but not exactly the type of answer of what I was looking for.

I have never met anyone from online for sex. I also don't swap pictures unless I actually feel like I developed a friendship. I don't do any type of one stands, virtual or otherwise. I didn't mean why can't they be nice pieces of meat, but more why can't we just enjoy what is there. We are real people but in this fantasy.
I don't feel obligated to remember but I have a mind like a steel trap sometimes, I just want to have fun and enjoy myself/ourselves with the encroaching of real life fears and baggage.

Perhaps I didn't word my question well, I will have to try again again later.

 

[StaciRay79]

WOW! Lots of questions... Let's give this a try...

1. Because they are foreign and exotic. Something different than what you're use to, and maybe even a bit taboo?

2. Well I certainly don't have enough background to give you a real answer so I'm going to cop out and just say it sounds like a "Mommy thing".

3. Refer to my answer on #1 for this, but on two levels this time... Shim was taboo and different. If it's been many years ago, then it sounds like a time when America was more closed-minded about such things to make it even more "wrong." If you've never done it since, maybe you like keeping it as a memory and don't want to do it again for fear of ruining your memory of what was a great time. The Tejana part of it means shim was foreign and thus exotic again. BTW, I've got a thing for Latino's myself!!

4. Unless you want to resurrect or complicate one of those EX-relationships you absolutely should NOT act on it. Are the sexual thoughts related to lingering feelings of love that you still feel for the EX? If so, then maybe they provided something to you that you aren't getting emotionally. It may be a NEED to sexually dominate them - a last measure of dominance over them. I'd recommend just fantasize and masturbate!

"Freudian, Jungian, or Adlerian"... no, just untrained, unliscensed and opinionated!

Just for fun, I'll give this one a go.

1. Why am I so attracted to Middle Eastern women?
2. Why is it that I can only get into female dominance if it is connected to incest? Any other form of fem dom is a turn-off? Flip it around and I can also only get into incest if it is in a fem dom context?
3. Why is it that I enjoyed fucking a transvestite so much all those years ago? I've done it only once, but she was extremely good and I can't forget it. I'm just glad that I wore a rubber (well, she insisted on it, too). I still get a hard-on thinking about fucking her, years later. She was a very hot Tejana.
4. I still have sexual thoughts about my exes, but I know that it's best to not resume any sexual contact. How best to deal with those fantasies?

This should be a good test of your psychological technique. By the way, are you Freudian, Jungian, or Adlerian in your thinking?

 

[StaciRay79]

Afraid I'm going to have to call it a night to my online doctoring! Got a busy week ahead so I don't think I'll be able to get back to the "office" before next weekend! Feel free to leave your questions in the office and I'll do my best to get to them when I get back. Love you!!

 

[Interested_Girl]

Two great questions!

First - A woman who might actually be smart on an issue frightens a man because the woman may be able to see past the superficial knowledge a man typically uses to try and impress her with. If she calls his bluff, he feels foolish and feels he's lost her respect and admiration in ALL areas. He's afraid she might know more than him on many subjects and he now feels embarassed by her. This mental embarassment extends to physical embarassment as well. Unless he's got a massive cock, he's afraid that his average sized one is now too small to impress her. Having lost all confidence he now tries to distance himself from her as quickly as possible. He doesn't want to hang around and let her prove he's inadequate in other ways. ...or something like that.

Regarding your Second question - there's something very sexy about a "hot young soccer mom". When she also takes care of all the man's domestic chores and needs, that just makes it even better. So why wouldn't they have this fantasy?! She does all the work, takes care of the kids, feeds him, keeps herself looking great, and still spreads her legs for him. It allows him to do anything he wants - which includes lay on the couch and watch football all weekend long. I think this is the dream scenario of many men. I don't think I've got a good answer for this one. If I really had to guess, I'd say that most men probably had a "hot young mom" they looked at and fantasized about. She wasn't perfect, probably didn't do half the things they thought... but in their heads, they wove together the perfect match of all those things they thought a mother should do with this gorgeous young woman and wished for a woman like that.

Good answers. I think #1, actually recently happened to me.

In regards to #2, I want a Handyman I can fuck, without marriage, kids or doing anything for him. LOL, I guess I have my perfect man too.

 

[StaciRay79]

Good answers. I think #1, actually recently happened to me.

In regards to #2, I want a Handyman I can fuck, without marriage, kids or doing anything for him. LOL, I guess I have my perfect man too.

I want a couple "Handymen" - one to fix all the broken things, one to cook me dinner, and one to do my yard work!

I'll rotate all 3 through my bed as the mood strikes me!!

 

[perrafuker]

nevermind,carry on

 

[sunandshadow]

Single nonreligious straight or mostly-straight men who want a wife and children - if such creatures existed, can psychology predict where one might look for them? It seems like I never encounter single men who don't have a horror of children.

 

[talldad1]

Thanks for answering but not exactly the type of answer of what I was looking for.

I have never met anyone from online for sex. I also don't swap pictures unless I actually feel like I developed a friendship. I don't do any type of one stands, virtual or otherwise. I didn't mean why can't they be nice pieces of meat, but more why can't we just enjoy what is there. We are real people but in this fantasy.
I don't feel obligated to remember but I have a mind like a steel trap sometimes, I just want to have fun and enjoy myself/ourselves without the encroaching of real life fears and baggage.

Perhaps I didn't word my question well, I will have to try again again later.

It's hard to keep the real from the fantasy, as I have learned the hard way. And great phone sex requires a relationship that requires real feelings. And that's the beginning of the slippery slope from fantasy to reality. As I'm sure you have well learned.

You probably can't have great phone sex with someone you don't have good feelings for and don't know well. I know I can't.

 

[sunandshadow]

why do guys on lit always let me know who they are in real life, why can't they let me have my fantasy without ruining it with reality

oh and if they only told me in a round about way, do I need to keep up the pretense that I don't know?

To be fair every guy I have met from lit in real life has been as good or better than here, but still why can't I have a nice tall dark bearded stranger who just provides amazing phone sex without real life and past baggage encroaching?

Because people want to be considered attractive for who they are and have actual in-person sex, for which most people regard phone sex as a poor substitute? People do cooperate to fulfill each others' fantasies, it's called roleplaying. You could try looking for someone who wants to roleplay over the phone or voice chat if you specifically want to hear their voice.

 

[Noor]

It's hard to keep the real from the fantasy, as I have learned the hard way. And great phone sex requires a relationship that requires real feelings. And that's the beginning of the slippery slope from fantasy to reality. As I'm sure you have well learned.

You probably can't have great phone sex with someone you don't have good feelings for and don't know well. I know I can't.

yes you are correct, I knew this.

 

[Noor]

Because people want to be considered attractive for who they are and have actual in-person sex, for which most people regard phone sex as a poor substitute? People do cooperate to fulfill each others' fantasies, it's called roleplaying. You could try looking for someone who wants to roleplay over the phone or voice chat if you specifically want to hear their voice.

I do and I have.

 

[PreOwned]

Intelligence Is Sexy

Two great questions!

First - A woman who might actually be smart on an issue frightens a man because the woman may be able to see past the superficial knowledge a man typically uses to try and impress her with. If she calls his bluff, he feels foolish and feels he's lost her respect and admiration in ALL areas. He's afraid she might know more than him on many subjects and he now feels embarassed by her. This mental embarassment extends to physical embarassment as well. Unless he's got a massive cock, he's afraid that his average sized one is now too small to impress her. Having lost all confidence he now tries to distance himself from her as quickly as possible. He doesn't want to hang around and let her prove he's inadequate in other ways. ...or something like that.

Regarding your Second question - there's something very sexy about a "hot young soccer mom". When she also takes care of all the man's domestic chores and needs, that just makes it even better. So why wouldn't they have this fantasy?! She does all the work, takes care of the kids, feeds him, keeps herself looking great, and still spreads her legs for him. It allows him to do anything he wants - which includes lay on the couch and watch football all weekend long. I think this is the dream scenario of many men. I don't think I've got a good answer for this one. If I really had to guess, I'd say that most men probably had a "hot young mom" they looked at and fantasized about. She wasn't perfect, probably didn't do half the things they thought... but in their heads, they wove together the perfect match of all those things they thought a mother should do with this gorgeous young woman and wished for a woman like that.

Really? Men are afraid of intelligent women? Seriously? I gotta' say, this sounds like a crock to me. Intelligence (and confidence) are very sexy and all around desirable traits in a woman, at least for me. Unintelligent (and judgmental) people, of either gender are not. Of course, not being a woman, I can not speak to how often intelligent women get such responses from less intelligent men, so maybe it is more common than I realize.

So, here is my question:

Could it be that most people--men and women--are prone to have ego issues when it comes to being around / getting along with / befriending their intellectual superiors--male or female--(unless the smarter person plays dumb), and that it is not a 'man' thing at all? Might it just be a human thing?

 

[StaciRay79]

I'll fully admit my earlier answer was based strictly on stereotypes and partial knowledge of her situation. Having said that, Yes... it's more common than you know.

In regard to your question...
I believe ego issues generally do occur. I feel that much of this stems not necessarily from knowing the other person is intellectually superior (as you suggest), but instead from insecurities of the person having the issue.

I'd say that most humans (men and women equally) are not comfortable and confident in the things that DO separate them and make them unique. They, too easily, let someone else's "superiority" in one particular aspect break their confidence.

Once again, I'm speaking generically and stereotypically, but I've known many men who were very gifted in many different ways lose all confidence when bested by someone in one particular way. For example, I've been a runner all my life and can still run a 5k in under 23 minutes. I had 3 different male "friends" who were crushed that a girl could out-run them drive a wedge between us. Two of the guys refuse to even speak to me anymore. The 3rd was constantly challenging me to other contest until he finally won. All 3 guys were far more intelligent than I am and much more educated, but this one physical aspect of their lives was enough of a failure to rattle all of their egos.

Short Answer: all humans like to feel special and superior. It's the ones who aren't confident in themselves that allow one failure to break their egos.

So, here is my question:

Could it be that most people--men and women--are prone to have ego issues when it comes to being around / getting along with / befriending their intellectual superiors--male or female--(unless the smarter person plays dumb), and that it is not a 'man' thing at all? Might it just be a human thing?