my first mistress

[defaultguy21]

i have just started a dom/sub relationship. i am the sub and even though we havent been together in this manner in person yet. we have had sex in the back of her car a week ago.

but today i displeased her. she wanted me to use a dildo on myself but im without one, and i dont have a leather belt. she wished i flog myself an send her pictures. again i displeased her.

i felt sad to disapoint her. but unfair because she knew i did not have a dildo. did she want me to displease her so i can learn that i must obey her an punish myself. again i wish i could have pleased her. she also threatened that i may not be worth it. since she has big plans for me.

does anyone have advice on helping me an armature better myself for her?

 

[Ldy_Sea]

When I play with my online subs especially new ones, I often give them tasks to do knowing they don't have the tools needed to complete the task. I do this not to punish them for failure to obey, I want to see how creative they are in their solutions. This will prove their desire to please me.

If you had been my sub I would have expected you to offer alternatives to a dildo like a marker or handle of a utensil like a spatula and smething else readily available.

Since you did not offer this I would have ordered a punishement, but I prefer humiliation to pain. So I wouldn' have wanted a spanking, maybe have you go to a public place and let someone se you are wearing a pink womans thongby bending over to get an item off the bottom shelf.

Hope this helps.

 

[defaultguy21]

ahh thanks for that seaurchin ill try an do something like that. maybe an empty beer bottle

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Go back to grade school, or at most middle school, and learn to write coherently. THEN come back and ask your questions.

 

[Kurokami]

ahh thanks for that seaurchin ill try an do something like that. maybe an empty beer bottle

I would seriously be careful with anything glass like that, dude. Glass breaks, and if you're using it as a stand in for a dildo, it will break uncomfortably. You might want to try one of many varieties of cylindrical vegetables, or if you're feeling really dramatic, freeze a condom filled with water Or just, y'know, buy a dildo.

On the other hand, I dunno about a Mistress that would purposefully set her submissive up to fail like that. SeaUrchin's idea is as good an answer as any, but it still makes me a little twitchy to think about.

 

[Loverskitten]

Haha glass bottle? Hasn't everyone seen THAT video (cringe)
Here's an idea, get a toy that is MADE FOR YOUR ANUS. I have a friend who is an X-ray tech and she has some stories, with the proof to match. As much as I love em, it's embarrassing for the "stomach ache" patients, I'm sure.

But Sir_Winston's probably right, go do your homework.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Not to mention a beer bottle is really big if you're not used to being fucked up the butt.

Try a hairbrush handle. And plenty of lube.

 

[FurryFury]

What?

You've not been together in person but you've been in her car?!?

 

[Kurokami]

What?

You've not been together in person but you've been in her car?!?

It doesn't really count as "in person" if she doesn't know he's back there

 

[Stella_Omega]

What?

You've not been together in person but you've been in her car?!?

"in this manner." I.E they fucked like vanilla fuckers in her car, and they've played a little bit of BDSM textingwise.

 

[defaultguy21]

in oerson i ment in a master slave relationship. i fucked her a week ago in her car. but yea i was just throwing ideas around in my head an online for what ever reason. but yea imma buy a dildo. i was trying to think of a quick idea to please my mistress.

and it wasn't till now how devoid my place is of good items to use when i dont have a toy.