Banker kept spreadsheet about dates

[renard_ruse]

http://abcnews.go.com/US/york-mans-meticulous-dating-spreadsheet-viral/story?id=16172700

A New York man's meticulous dating spreadsheet has gone viral after he sent it to one of the women he was dating.

The Excel spreadsheet chronicles David Merkur's interaction and relationship with each woman he met on Match.com.

The grid is broken down into several categories including Match.com user name, real name, age, profile picture, online appearance ranking, initial notes, contact information, timeline of communication, date status and date comments...

On April 4, Merkur went to New York's Rose Bar with a woman whom he described as, "Very pretty; sweet & down to earth/great personality; hope to see again soon."

During their date, the spreadsheet came up in conversation and the woman asked if he would send it to her. After some hesitation, he did.

Merkur wrote to her in an email:

... this could be a mistake, but what the hell. I thought about deleting the names, but figured I might as will give you the whole thing. I only deleted the non-match people's names (at the bottom) since some I've known for a long time. I hope this e-mail doesn't backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon. However, I will keep my word! Have a great weekend!"

A few days later, the woman forwarded the spreadsheet to her friends as "Monday morning entertainment."

She wrote, "I went on a date with this guy last Wednesday. On the date, he tells me that he has a spreadsheet for tracking all of the people from match that are 'in process.' Naturally, I tease him and ask him to send me the spreadsheet. For some strange reason, he actually does."

The email ended, "Just when I thought I had seen it all...."

Merkur did not respond to requests for comment from ABCNews.com...

The highest score for "online appearance," a 9.5, went to Liliana Beidaut, who Merkur noted "looks beautiful; from coastal Romania; Chanel make-up artist."

"I've gotten a lot of calls from random people saying, 'Oh, you're the 9.5,'" Beidaut told ABCNews.com.

Beidaut, 26, ... holds no resentment for Merkur, whom she is friends with through Facebook and text-chats but has never met in person.

"I think the guy is really nice," Beidaut said. "I never met him and I don't think he did something that bad. He was nice, and he was trying to keep himself organized. I think he took that seriously and was really looking for a girl."

Beidaut has harsher words for the woman who sent around the spreadsheet.

"Why would she send it to the whole world? It was a really stupid move," Beidaut said. "My face is plastered everywhere now. I wasn't looking for that. I just thinking that I was using Match.com."

Beidaut said she is "absolutely" considering taking legal action against the woman that sent the email because she believes her privacy has been violated. She has already spoken to at least one other woman on the list who is similarly upset.

"I think he really liked the girl and he trusted her, so he sent her the thing," she said. "He had some doubt before she sent it out and I think she was spiteful."

First off, why was this news, and secondly, what on earth is wrong with being serious and organized when trying to meet a life partner? Isn't that what people use dating sites for, when they are looking for a serious relationship? Am I missing something here?

I'm sure Bad Baby Sitter will have some explanation as to how Merkur did something wrong, and I'm an idiot, so let's hear it. I'm at a loss.

 

[badbabysitter]

First off, why was this news, and secondly, what on earth is wrong with being serious and organized when trying to meet a life partner? Isn't that what people use dating sites for, when they are looking for a serious relationship? Am I missing something here?

I'm sure Bad Baby Sitter will have some explanation as to how Merkur did something wrong, and I'm an idiot, so let's hear it. I'm at a loss.

fuck , you're a dumbass

the dude did absolutely nothing wrong, he's a bit anal retentive maybe

the outrage isnt about the spreadsheet.. but that a woman spread it around, violating other women's privacy

so, yes.. you are an idiot... but for completely different reasons then you thought you would be

 

[renard_ruse]

fuck , you're a dumbass

the dude did absolutely nothing wrong, he's a bit anal retentive maybe

the outrage isnt about the spreadsheet.. but that a woman spread it around, violating other women's privacy

so, yes.. you are an idiot... but for completely different reasons then you thought you would be

Ok, thanks. Just needed some clarification.