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sunandshadow
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Well, you can read philosophy, psychology, and health writings and learn what is good for human beings in general. You can make a list of things you know from experience make you happy or unhappy, and try to find patters and predict other things that will make you happy or unhappy. If you have a goal, game theory and strategy have advice about how best to accomplish that goal. Not to mention there are all sorts of self-help books available...
blunt_trauma
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define 'best interest'?
for happiness?
for growth?
for health?
for morality?
for happiness?
for growth?
for health?
for morality?
y=mx+b
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whichever you feel most confident about.
blunt_trauma
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pass!
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Mostly I go with my gut feeling. But that's only when making decisions for myself, personally.. If it has something to do with my family, then I talk it out with the interested parties. Because ultimately what is decided can affect everyone.
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Decide while everything is muddled and up in the air. By the time you are absolutely certain, it will be too late! Then, you can repent at leisure.
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DiSalvo offers up some pretty compelling information and examples as to why one should avoid doing what you've suggested in his recent book...
http://www.kurzweilai.net/images/WhatMakesYourBrainHappy.jpg
Apparently; as spectacular and efficient the human brain is as a wetware life-sustaining organic operating system, it is just as spectacularly inept, selfish, and stupid in regards to knowing what's best for all the shit that it's responsible for, including a human being's sentience of self and wellbeing.
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I am not good at sticking up for my own best interest. if you figure it out let me know.
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And the inquiry further deepens!
Once you've become certain as certain can be about that which is in your best interest how do you establish and enforce the boundaries needed to keep it from being compromised by others?
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I've learned to listen to myself. Really listen, even to the things I don't want to hear. It isn't easy but you can't get a clear path ahead without sorting out what you left behind.
As for knowing what's in your best interest, you won't always get it right. You just do the best with what you have.
Ultimately only you can stand up for yourself.
As for knowing what's in your best interest, you won't always get it right. You just do the best with what you have.
Ultimately only you can stand up for yourself.
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You have to react without thinking too much. So long as you are emotionally mature, a snap judgement & reaction will always be within your best interests. We are selfish creatures who want to survive. It's when we talk ourselves out of things that we fail ourselves.
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This, with the friendly amendment of considering both long and short terms in the process.
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Well... I remember when you had really nice hair. We're older now and you've probably lost some on top and some color change has occurred. Did you please others by buzzing it or was it to please yourself? Does anyone else really give a flying fuck about your hair style? If you did it in your own best interest then perhaps you should have done the opposite.
I think I look cute with short hair and am very tired of coloring it. Whenever I bring this up there are other people who practically beg me not to cut it off and kick the dye habit. Point being... it gives me pleasure to make other people happy. Is it in my own best interest to strive to look younger? Its beyond the point of having an effect on my career anymore. My ego is stroked when someone finds out how old I really am and they're surprised but I'm secure with aging as gracefully as possible.
Hair is a minor aspect of self but the parallels can be seen in other aspects of life.
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blunt_trauma
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ok... i make it up as i go along. same as everyone else.
mostly it's a process of elimination, because it's easier to see the things that are bad for me.
mostly it's a process of elimination, because it's easier to see the things that are bad for me.
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I have learned to listen to those around me that I respect. It seems that others who truly want to see a person succeed can grant great insight into what could or should be my best interest. These types of people are very rare but if you find one and listen to them, the advice I have gotten had made me want to grow mentally and spiritually.
