First time anal

[lakerfan67]

Hey, I was hoping to get some info/suggestions for my first time having anal sex. I am going to top. I want to make it enjoyable/ feel good for him and me. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

 

[Tiger1978]

Keep talking. Tell him exactly how enjoyable and how good his ass feels.

 

[starider07]

Oh yes,..

The same way as with anyone you must heat them up first. Get them relaxed and wanting more, the the word for the day. Lube! Lube, lube and more lube. Some finger play in preparation. Take your time and make sure he's totaly relaxed and wanting. Ease in slowly, pausing often. When in totaly allow time for him to adjust to this new feeling. Let him show you when he's ready to continue. Then hang on because it will be fantastic!. Good luck and I hope you 2 have a rewarding experience!

BTW- let us know how it goes, feel free to pm if you wish.

 

[schaum_m]

I've only been a bottom but I would suggest going slow and gentle and use lots of lube. I like it when a guy treats me like a woman.

 

[Chrissi]

Hey, I was hoping to get some info/suggestions for my first time having anal sex. I am going to top. I want to make it enjoyable/ feel good for him and me. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

Is this his (the bottom's) first time too?

Since it is your first time, if he is more experienced, then let him lead, but you control the pace of how quickly things go along.

Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with, this is sex and it is supposed to be fun and pleasurable, not a chore or a task to complete.

As has been mentioned, lube, lube and more lube. Use water based as this will not compromise the strength of your condom.

Spend time with him and his hole. If you are comfortable rimming him, then start with your tongue, if not, then use your fingers with lube to gently massage him and open him up and loosen him up. This also gets lube into him. Pay attention to how he responds...don't just dive in and insert, rub around his sphincter, massage up and down his crack and perineum, press in just gently and very shallow with your thumb while you play with other parts of his body. If you are comfortable getting in there with your mouth, start by blowing him, then trail your wet tongue down to his balls and along the perineum to his hole...tease him by going back and forth.

Use you imagination, do what is pleasurable, talk to him, listen to him, respond to him: if he is thrusting his ass up to you and opening his crack, then he is ready. If he is begging for you to fuck him, then he is ready, if he is grabbing your cock and rubbing along his hole then he is ready...

The three easiest positions for you as top: are with you on your back and him straddling you and controlling the pace of insertion; doggie style, just be careful not to ram into him, go in slowly and respond to his directions; or with him on his back with his legs up over your shoulders and his ass up (a pillow under his ass helps here sometimes too.)

good luck and have fun...it's not a test, let him know it is your first time...and enjoy

Topher

 

[priapusone]

oh man, you make me hard with your instructions! I would try the new cum lube, straight 8 lube, feels like cum, so it should be excellent!

 

[CandiCame]

Is this his (the bottom's) first time too?

Since it is your first time, if he is more experienced, then let him lead, but you control the pace of how quickly things go along.

Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with, this is sex and it is supposed to be fun and pleasurable, not a chore or a task to complete.

As has been mentioned, lube, lube and more lube. Use water based as this will not compromise the strength of your condom.

Spend time with him and his hole. If you are comfortable rimming him, then start with your tongue, if not, then use your fingers with lube to gently massage him and open him up and loosen him up. This also gets lube into him. Pay attention to how he responds...don't just dive in and insert, rub around his sphincter, massage up and down his crack and perineum, press in just gently and very shallow with your thumb while you play with other parts of his body. If you are comfortable getting in there with your mouth, start by blowing him, then trail your wet tongue down to his balls and along the perineum to his hole...tease him by going back and forth.

Use you imagination, do what is pleasurable, talk to him, listen to him, respond to him: if he is thrusting his ass up to you and opening his crack, then he is ready. If he is begging for you to fuck him, then he is ready, if he is grabbing your cock and rubbing along his hole then he is ready...

The three easiest positions for you as top: are with you on your back and him straddling you and controlling the pace of insertion; doggie style, just be careful not to ram into him, go in slowly and respond to his directions; or with him on his back with his legs up over your shoulders and his ass up (a pillow under his ass helps here sometimes too.)

good luck and have fun...it's not a test, let him know it is your first time...and enjoy

Topher

Goddam, Topher, where the fuck are you? You've got me stiff...

That is- yeah. I prefer to bottom, and I don't think you're gonna get any better instruction then this.

 

[priapusone]

anal

oh i luve how it tastes

 

[Chrissi]

Haha, thanks. cum lube...BF and I use real cum, but we'll have to keep that in mind when we have company staying over.

Just another thing that may be helpful...

Try not to cum before you top him...if he is any bit tight, or you are any bit tumescent (less than absolutely rigid) then you are going to have a hard time getting into him.

 

[priapusone]

oh yes, real cum is the ticket...just stay intimate and keep your bodies close together...a little sweat and body scents should help too....i like kissing and pulling hair, a little bit of 'tease' goes a long way! bon appetite!

 

[BiMax]

All the suggestions here are good ones -- I would add that if this is his first time as a bottom -- it's important that he work his way up to this.

He should start slowly with a finger or two up his ass in the shower. Then start playing with butt plugs. When he can comfortably take a medium to large buttplug by himself, then he's most likely ready for the real thing. By doing this, he'll understand the shape and direction of his own asshole and will be better able to guide a real cock inside him.

And I can't reiterate this enough --- LUBE LUBE LUBE!!! There's no such thing as too much lube. The first few times you may only get an inch or two of your cock inside him. And that's okay. But after lots of patience, practice, and lube -- you'll eventually be balls deep and both of you will be in ecstasy!

 

[Bbb13]

I'm excited for you

 

[Seamen]

I like it when a guy treats me like a woman.

I second that. Plus, I love it when my top consider my needs too, and reaches down and plays with my cock and balls once in a while too. I like to cum before my top does, but I guess this varies from bottom to bottom.

 

[james2346]

I would suggest that you do it in missionary position. That way his cock rubs against your abs and will get him to cum really hard (I know if did for me . Just go slow and smooth and when he is about to cum, pull up so his cock isn't touching your body and keeping it going until he cums. No touch cuming will be the best orgasm he has every had. I know this from my first time and I can't wait to do it again.