Looks or Skills?

[Friendly_Guy]

I don't know why this question popped into my head today. But thought I'd put it out to the peanut gallery to get other points of view....

What would you prefer? The question is for both men and women.

Your sexual partner to be insanely hot...like head turning, other people envy you for being with this person hot, so hot that all you want to do is stare at them naked hot....but kind of dull in bed.

-or-

Your sexual partner to be kind of ugly, but an absolute master of sexuality who can make your body quiver in ways a team of sex therapists and porn stars couldn't think up with a group effort.

Everything else is the same. Same personalities. Same intelligence. Same everything else.

(And no saying you'd like someone who's average looks and average in bed. That's a cop out answer! )

 

[Pj2424143]

I don't know why this question popped into my head today. But thought I'd put it out to the peanut gallery to get other points of view....

What would you prefer? The question is for both men and women.

Your sexual partner to be insanely hot...like head turning, other people envy you for being with this person hot, so hot that all you want to do is stare at them naked hot....but kind of dull in bed.

-or-

Your sexual partner to be kind of ugly, but an absolute master of sexuality who can make your body quiver in ways a team of sex therapists and porn stars couldn't think up with a group effort.

Everything else is the same. Same personalities. Same intelligence. Same everything else.

(And no saying you'd like someone who's average looks and average in bed. That's a cop out answer! )

Isn't that what a mistress is for?

 

[NeonKnickers]

Unconventional hotness and unconventional sexiness makes me the most excited. I don't really care what anyone else thinks of me or my partner.

Ultimately, I chose non boring in bed, but "ugly". I guess?

 

[Dream59]

That is easy. I choose skills. Though I prefer to say it as desire. If a partner has the desire to please you then they will develope the skills. Looks are only a turn on until you start the sex, after that if they are lousy in bed, then all the looks in the world will not help them or you.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Both hot in looks-- by MY standards-- and hot in bed-- also by my standards.
Which might not be yours.

 

[ohwhynot77]

if someone were so repulsively ugly i am not sure i'd ever get far enough to discover their sexual prowess. not saying i am a beauty queen or a snob ... but the fact is, there has to be some attraction to even get to the next part.

but if this is purely hypothetical and i am guaranteed that ugly guy will rock my world in bed while hot guy will leave me cold ... i'd go for ugly guy.
i have been in this situation - with a very very attractive (tall, dark, handsome) guy who was so cold and distant that i was nearly humiliated by the sex ... it was so detached. I felt like a receptacle. .
on the other hand, i have had mind-blowing, loving, amazing sex with a very average looking man who simply adored me from nose to toes.

given a choice, i want the man who makes me feel beautiful, sexy and wanted.

 

[ross22]

It's amazing how attractive women become when you love there personality.
Maybe its just old age.... give me average everything except intelligence. That's when I i want a women with thick glasses and a Figgin PHD!
So hot lol

 

[Friendly_Guy]

adored me from nose to toes.

Your forehead and hair didn't do it for him, eh?

 

[BiTodd]

It would be nice to have some of both. Are hot people bad lovers?

 

[ohwhynot77]

Your forehead and hair didn't do it for him, eh?

I guess I was remember the way he would so sweetly kiss the tip of my freckled nose before trailing kissing southward ... but truth be told, he loved the way my hair felt when it would sweep across his lap and tickle his thighs ... or how he would hold it up and out of my mouth when I .... oh my ...

 

[ohwhynot77]

It's amazing how attractive women become when you love there personality.
Maybe its just old age.... give me average everything except intelligence. That's when I i want a women with thick glasses and a Figgin PHD!
So hot lol

I agree, intelligence is very very attractive. Not arrogance or superiority ... but a smart boy is so yummy. I wish i felt this way in high school!

 

[Friendly_Guy]

It would be nice to have some of both. Are hot people bad lovers?

Not at all. But if the question was "Would you rather have the hottest partner imaginable who can fuck like she's had formal training...or an ugly weirdo who doesn't know what parts go in what holes?" it wouldn't be a very good discussion.

 

[Friendly_Guy]

I agree, intelligence is very very attractive. Not arrogance or superiority ... but a smart boy is so yummy. I wish i felt this way in high school!

Yeah I wish women felt that way when I was in high school.

But noooo....acing all those math tests never got me laid.

 

[ross22]

I agree, intelligence is very very attractive. Not arrogance or superiority ... but a smart boy is so yummy. I wish i felt this way in high school!

Went for the bad boy didn't yah? lol

 

[ohwhynot77]

Went for the bad boy didn't yah? lol

LOL, yes I went for the love 'em (love ALL of 'em, in fact. every single one of 'em.) and leave 'em soccer player with long hair, fast car, shocking blue eyes and a fuck-the-world attitude. at 17, that's all you need.

 

[LRRH77]

Smart, witty, and insanely good in bed are worth a hell of a lot more than washboard abs!!

 

[ross22]

LOL, yes I went for the love 'em (love ALL of 'em, in fact. every single one of 'em.) and leave 'em soccer player with long hair, fast car, shocking blue eyes and a fuck-the-world attitude. at 17, that's all you need.

Yup....
I was the other guy..nerd .. geek.(now professor)
Funny how the women who wouldn't even acknowledge my existence in HS
and were in fact down right nasty started calling me after college.
They however were uninteresting at that point.
Wanna compare library cards? lol

 

[sunandshadow]

Both hot in looks-- by MY standards-- and hot in bed-- also by my standards.
Which might not be yours.

^This. Not going to accept below a 7/10 attractiveness to me or a 5/10 skilled to me. Which is why I'm always single. :/

 

[Josiyummi]

I'll take brains and mad skills any day.
Preferably everyday.

 

[billrichards41]

I have to agree with some of the other post's here... if there isn't attraction form both then the skills will go unknown. I also would say the skills can be learned so I would rather start with good potential and build from there

 

[toxic_pancake]

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[amofiga]

I have had relationships with both types of women; those who would be considered beautiful and those who were average at best. I've found that there isn't always a correlation between looks and sexuality but many times the beautiful women think that's all they need to do is look good and guys will drool over them and give them anything. Conversley, I've known some average women who were really hot and giving and adventurous in bed. They were like Avis, number two and had to try harder. Some of the absolute best blow jobs I've ever had in my life came from a couple of women who most men wouldn't look at twice.

I have an uncle who was in the Navy who once told me that when he was a young man and went into a bar or USO dance (yes, USO like back in WWII) he'd look around. There were the beautiful women who had 5-6 guys hanging around trying to ace each other out for her attention, and there were the average women sitting alone or with their girlfriends. He went straight to the latter and figured in the long run he did better than being one of the crowd of guys who would end up rejected.

 

[Interested_Girl]

I would go for the hot over ugly.

Who cares how he is in bed, if he is that boring, I can just get ontop and do what I need to do and walk away. Fuck yeah.

 

[Ember_on_ice]

Skills, please

I am certainly a sucker for a good-looking man, but I usually just want to look at them. The ones who really get me wanting to bend over are the ones who know how to move, or who have clever fingers, or (and this is the biggie) can appeal to my mind in some way.

For instance, while I do love to look at Jude Law, who may be the loveliest man on the planet, I don't know that I'd feel comfortable taking him to bed. On the other hand, give me Edward Norton or Dan Aykroyd or the guy who plays Bates on Downton Abbey, and I'm wet and ready. Even Stephen Fry, who is certainly strange-looking (not to mention extremely gay) could have me in a moment because of his amazing wit and facility with language.

There's just something wonderful about being able to see the beauty in a man who others have dismissed. And, you know what? There's always *something* beautiful in everyone - it just takes the right person to appreciate it.

So, for all you guys who were the nerds in high school, while I was too shy and self-conscious to approach you then, I'm totally open to your advances now.

 

[LucyH]

Dull in bed - that's probably fixable in short order if (s)he's willing to give it a whirl. If it's not fixable, though, I'd prefer the slightly ugly partner.