The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[CutieMouse]

No wonder you do not have a wand magical or not and listen you are narrow minded

 

[His_pet_slut]

Mutts, not nuts. Just sayin'...

 

[Keroin]

Ditto.

 

[BiBunny]

People and interests do change over the years and thats one of the main reasons I lost contact with alot of mine. They had children and they could not understand my desire not to have them and I couldn't care less that Little Johnny slept through the night. So we just drifted apart.

I also think as life gets busier it just gets harder to keep up as well especially if you are the one making the effort.

Ugh, you sound like me.

I know parents' worlds revolve around their children, and they should (at least to some extent) if they're going to be good parents. But just because yours does doesn't mean mine should. I'll be polite to you about your kids, but to be honest? I REALLY don't care. I'm concerned for them in the way that I'm abstractly concerned about all human beings, in that I hope they're happy and healthy. But I have no emotional connection to them at all, and if you can't carry on a conversation about something other than your kids, please don't talk to me because I don't give a fuck.

I'll refrain from going on my usual spiel about how goddamn entitled people tend to act just because they have children.

 

[cfuhrer]

I'll refrain from going on my usual spiel about how goddamn entitled people tend to act just because they have children.

Entitledness is not limited to people with children

 

[ravi64]

Entitledness is not limited to people with children

Amazons are more entitled then others

 

[BiBunny]

Entitledness is not limited to people with children

Agreed. It just seems more noticeable to me because I don't have children.

 

[graceanne]

Agreed. It just seems more noticeable to me because I don't have children.

LOL!!

I've noticed that quite often when people have children they get a bit zealous about child rearing, and it's all they think about or speak about. Then, after awhile, they get tired and realize that not only is it okay to have interests outside of their children, but it's healthy and that they're better parents when they get breaks from the allthingschildren channel.

The key to knowing when you need a break? When you find yourself doing weird things like calling your husband up at work because mr. salt and mrs. pepper are having a new baby, and no one knows what they're gonna name it. (BTW they named him cinnamon.)

 

[Cattypuss]

Interesting discussion. Above, I mean. About friendships changing when people have children.

I stopped and thought.

I'm 44. I still have pretty much all of the friends I had at 20. And not ONE of us has had children (and the ones where there's been some drifting apart don't have children either). Several have been in successful relationships for 20-odd years, but there is not one child amongst us. The only children that have ever been "in my circle" have been nephews and nieces of boyfriends.

I never thought I would want children. I wonder if that goes with a load of other character traits that I and others like me have (unconsciously) found mutually attractive, socially...

 

[Cattypuss]

(Actually, I'm not narrow minded; I'm judgmental as fuck, but the nuances are probably lost on her...)

I guess we all have slightly different flavours to our personal definitions of words, but in my own Venn diagram the circle for "judgemental" is entirely contained inside, but is smaller than, the circle for "narrow-minded".

 

[bhndblueyes88]

The conflict between the "want/have kids" parties and the "no kids!" parties is a bit absurd some times. A lot of people who don't want kids feel attacked by people with kids for their decision. But when those people go off on how there's no reason to reproduce, kids are a waste of time, etc...etc... of course it pisses off the people with kids (or who want them)!

Personally, as someone who's kind of in both camps, I don't see what the big f'n deal is.

 

[Cattypuss]

The conflict between the "want/have kids" parties and the "no kids!" parties is a bit absurd some times. A lot of people who don't want kids feel attacked by people with kids for their decision. But when those people go off on how there's no reason to reproduce, kids are a waste of time, etc...etc... of course it pisses off the people with kids (or who want them)!

Personally, as someone who's kind of in both camps, I don't see what the big f'n deal is.

I think that HAVING kids inevitably changes people's lives and the way they see themselves and the world, irreversibly.

But people who try to make breeding a moral issue (whether they're pro or anti) piss me right off.

Having children or not having children is a personal choice (usually) and imo it should be respected as such and should not be an issue for evangelism or criticism on either side.

 

[4bidnfruit]

Amazons are we, we're Alpha _ _...

I never felt entitled to anything but the one pussy of the group did. I think he had a little infected dick and hidden anger/entitlement issues as well.

I never quite fit that mold and debating on the submit button just proves that I still don't. tick...tick...tick...

 

[ravi64]

Alpha indeed. Amazons unseen???? think of an av before making such graphic claims

 

[wicked woman]

I guess we all have slightly different flavours to our personal definitions of words, but in my own Venn diagram the circle for "judgemental" is entirely contained inside, but is smaller than, the circle for "narrow-minded".

Interesting picture. I can see where you're coming from if 'judgmental' has a huge negative connotation.While that's sometimes the case, I see it differently though. I used to think I wasn't very judgmental but then I finally realized that yes I do judge people by my standards, I just realize that they are my personal standards and others don't have to live by them. It's more a way of seeing how close we are or not versus my way is the one and only true way.

So I am judgmental but I don't think anyone that knows me would use the word narrow-minded to describe me. So in my world there's only a little overlap of the two circles.

 

[StrayKat]

I think that HAVING kids inevitably changes people's lives and the way they see themselves and the world, irreversibly.

Not necessarily.
While having kids did change my life temporarily, I never saw myself as something different. Just added a "Mother" tag to many facets of my personality.
I dont think I ever saw myself and more so the world in any different way than usual.
Since they grew up I dont really see them as "children" anymore, just two girls I love unconditionally and would gladly give my life for if so needed, but not some inevitable part of me or my life that changes something. They dont define me.
I never melt over every baby I see in pram either and I find endless talk about kids very boring. Maybe I am just weird...

 

[cfuhrer]

Not necessarily.
While having kids did change my life temporarily, I never saw myself as something different. Just added a "Mother" tag to many facets of my personality.
I dont think I ever saw myself and more so the world in any different way than usual.
Since they grew up I dont really see them as "children" anymore, just two girls I love unconditionally and would gladly give my life for if so needed, but not some inevitable part of me or my life that changes something. They dont define me.
I never melt over every baby I see in pram either and I find endless talk about kids very boring. Maybe I am just weird...

You and me both, then.

I didnt like kids before I had a baby, and I still don't like kids.
I love my child to no end, but I can't stand kids.

I hate it when people treat me as though I have nothing else going for me but my son. They ask how I'm doing and I tell them about work and my civic committments. Then they look at me silly and ask "but how's the baby?".

You didn't ask about the baby, you asked about me so I toid you about me.

Having had a bun does not reduce one to just and only being the oven that baked said bun.

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[Curious_in_Cali]

Patience is wisdom in waiting.

 

[seela]

I'm home! 5 days early! Completely worth spending the money to book a new flight.

 

[IrisAlthea]

I'm home! 5 days early! Completely worth spending the money to book a new flight.

Great!

 

[His_pet_slut]

Winter finally arrived. My feet are cold.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Winter finally arrived. My feet are cold.

Someone complaining about having cold feet always reminds me why my mother hated my father's brother. He, his wife, and my dad's and his mom were visiting us one winter, and my mother said something about her feet always being cold. Without missing a beat, my uncle responded: "A woman who doesn't have enough heat in her ass to keep her feet warm deserves to freeze to death." This was in the mid-60s, and even mentioning a woman's ass in mixed company was not really acceptable... but then, Uncle George never gave much of a damn about social conventions.

ETA: BTW, I don't agree with Uncle George. A woman who doesn't have enough heat in her ass to keep her feet warm ... needs a good spanking (flogging/paddling/caning)!

 

[Sir_Winston54]

http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x95/Sir_Winston54/229927560-10115538.jpg

 

[bhndblueyes88]

fuck. I hate getting sexy dreams about people that aren't the boyfriend. Particularly when they're people I'm trying to ignore a mild attraction to. I blame my self-defense class. We were working a defense for a very...aggressive and dominating method of someone threatening you with a gun up in your personal space and it kinda got my wires buzzing. Blagh. My brain hates me.

 

[His_pet_slut]

ETA: BTW, I don't agree with Uncle George. A woman who doesn't have enough heat in her ass to keep her feet warm ... needs a good spanking (flogging/paddling/caning)!

Yes please...even if it didn't warm my feet up, I doubt I would notice.