The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[ravi64]

I've noticed that there are fewer people posting in furry's book club group, and I was wondering if that's because it was stickied, and you're not noticing it now that it's on top?

Or maybe more people like your vacuumed bottom

 

[graceanne]

Or maybe more people like your vacuumed bottom

...

 

[TarevaChine]

I had such a rad dream last night. I was sitting in the sand playing with my feet in the frothy tide as it washed up. Was quite a vivid picture of the sparkling water and powdery sand... I could hear people around me...but not too close as I was clearly there alone. I could see the gulls flapping about over head and was drinking in the salty air... was a happy peaceful scene.

I placed my hands under my tucked knees in the sand and felt something hard. I reached down and piece by piece pulled out a weathered but gorgeous blue and white hand painted japanese style tea set. On them were painted pairs of cranes flying and fluffy clouds. First, I pulled out the cups then the lid and the pot. I was marveling at it all...so crackled and yet so perfect.

I then dug my hands back in the sand to see if there was anything else...and I pulled up another jar with a lid attached that matched the set. I was puzzled at trying to figure it out and decided it was for holding loose leaf tea... but then I popped it open and it was stuffed to the brim with american money. Rolls and rolls of 100's and 50's and 20's. Someone asked me why I had the tea set on the beach and before I could answer I woke up... I tried to snooze my way back to that beach, but no luck.

I am trying to find the time today to go to the beach and bury my toes in the sand and, you know, "check for teapots"...or maybe I just need to go marvel at the everpresent rolling sea and its treasures. That is always such a soul soothing way to spend an afternoon.

What a beautiful dream! I have been analyzing my dreams since I was a little girl. I am glad to see the water was "sparkling". In a dream it always represents something good. Even when my dreams were bad but the water was clear, it always ended on a positive note.

I love your last sentence and agree with you 100 percent. I think that is what I need.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Yes. Unfortunately, we can't force ourselves to revisit the places in dreamland we like the most. Otherwise I'd spend all my time in the secret room in my grandma's house that only exists in dreamland.

What I got out of it is that the money, which represents your love was IN something mundane that you're overlooking. Especially considering that that something mundane (the teapot) was covered with cranes and flowers which represent happiness and inner peace. In other words your love is hiding in something mundane that brings you happiness and inner peace.

Hmmm, or maybe its just where I left it. My grandmother used to intentionally hide her valuables in all sorts of comon things like jars of flour and hollowed out old books. When we packed up her house it was amazing at what she had hidden away for safe keeping and then forgot about. Maybe I am simply reminding myself it is there, right where I put it...safe and sound. My own buried treasure.

I miss my grandmother daily, the love I shared with her was a gift and a treasure... she gave me a place to play that I miss dearly too. *Hugs you, granny style.*

 

[graceanne]

Hmmm, or maybe its just where I left it. My grandmother used to intentionally hide her valuables in all sorts of comon things like jars of flour and hollowed out old books. When we packed up her house it was amazing at what she had hidden away for safe keeping and then forgot about. Maybe I am simply reminding myself it is there, right where I put it...safe and sound. My own buried treasure.

I miss my grandmother daily, the love I shared with her was a gift and a treasure... she gave me a place to play that I miss dearly too. *Hugs you, granny style.*

My grandma was like that, too. When she died we found money and gift cards stashed all over her house, along with tons of baby clothes.

Our guess is she bought the clothes as gifts, then forgot about it or forgot where she put it. Suffice it to say, she was really forgetful BEFORE brain cancer.

 

[the captians wench]

Maybe the bunny does make sense

 

[Keroin]

Aaaah hiatus.


I've been thinking about passive aggressive behaviour and guilt, and how many people have those qualities/ engage in that behaviour, and how frustrating they are to deal with. Mostly what amazes me is how blind people can make themselves, how unable they are to see those qualities/behaviours in themselves.

My tolerance for passive aggressiveness and guilt trips gets lower and lower every year. At this point, there is probably no quicker way to lose me as a friend than to try and guilt me into anything. And maybe that makes me a hard ass...but so be it.

If a friend asks me to do something for them, I will do it, try my best to do it, or give them an honest reason why I can't/won't do it. If a friend tries to guilt me into doing something? I will absolutely refuse to do whatever it is they ask, even if it's something I would ordinarily do without a second thought. And I will also seriously reevaluate that friendship.

rant rant rant...

 

[Cattypuss]

Christ on a bike.

 

[Keroin]

Christ on a bike.

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_a1vSsM27gcA/RzkYBo8vDNI/AAAAAAAAAC0/O03t2Ex52fA/s320/jesus.jpg

 

[intothewoods]

Aaaah hiatus.


I've been thinking about passive aggressive behaviour and guilt, and how many people have those qualities/ engage in that behaviour, and how frustrating they are to deal with. Mostly what amazes me is how blind people can make themselves, how unable they are to see those qualities/behaviours in themselves.

My tolerance for passive aggressiveness and guilt trips gets lower and lower every year. At this point, there is probably no quicker way to lose me as a friend than to try and guilt me into anything. And maybe that makes me a hard ass...but so be it.

If a friend asks me to do something for them, I will do it, try my best to do it, or give them an honest reason why I can't/won't do it. If a friend tries to guilt me into doing something? I will absolutely refuse to do whatever it is they ask, even if it's something I would ordinarily do without a second thought. And I will also seriously reevaluate that friendship.

rant rant rant...

You know, I was just thinking about how I have lost touch with a lot of friends over the years, and I was thinking that I haven't worked hard enough to maintain friendships and what does that say about me and all that, but I will say that I don't have any bad eggs. No one who tries to guilt me into anything. I still think I should work harder to maintain friendships but I suppose there is a silver lining there.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Goddam stupid people that have no idea how much money they have left on their credit card or in their bank account then have to try 4 different cards at the shop. Then after all 4 cards have been declined decide to ask the shop assistant to take different amounts off each card all the while a huge line is building up behind them.

 

[Keroin]

You know, I was just thinking about how I have lost touch with a lot of friends over the years, and I was thinking that I haven't worked hard enough to maintain friendships and what does that say about me and all that, but I will say that I don't have any bad eggs. No one who tries to guilt me into anything. I still think I should work harder to maintain friendships but I suppose there is a silver lining there.

Well, I should say that although I have seen a lot of people who do this, I don't have very many friends who do/ have done this. Maybe one or two. But recently I had to part ways with a good friend who keeps pulling the passive-aggressive guilt trip on me. It pissed me off because she has a lot of terrific qualities, but I just can't tolerate these negative ones. Everyone draws their own lines, I guess. Those are mine.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

You know, I was just thinking about how I have lost touch with a lot of friends over the years, and I was thinking that I haven't worked hard enough to maintain friendships and what does that say about me and all that, but I will say that I don't have any bad eggs. No one who tries to guilt me into anything. I still think I should work harder to maintain friendships but I suppose there is a silver lining there.

People and interests do change over the years and thats one of the main reasons I lost contact with alot of mine. They had children and they could not understand my desire not to have them and I couldn't care less that Little Johnny slept through the night. So we just drifted apart.

I also think as life gets busier it just gets harder to keep up as well especially if you are the one making the effort.

 

[Keroin]

People and interests do change over the years and thats one of the main reasons I lost contact with alot of mine. They had children and they could not understand my desire not to have them and I couldn't care less that Little Johnny slept through the night. So we just drifted apart.

I also think as life gets busier it just gets harder to keep up as well especially if you are the one making the effort.

I think what people need to realize is just what you've said: people drift apart. It's not a good or bad thing, it's just reality. And it doesn't mean you won't come back together again, when circumstances change.

Admittedly, this is probably more of a concern to women. We're kind of genetically and socially hardwired to think that we have to maintain friendships and that when we lose them it signifies some kind of failure on our part.

 

[graceanne]

Aaaah hiatus.


I've been thinking about passive aggressive behaviour and guilt, and how many people have those qualities/ engage in that behaviour, and how frustrating they are to deal with. Mostly what amazes me is how blind people can make themselves, how unable they are to see those qualities/behaviours in themselves.

My tolerance for passive aggressiveness and guilt trips gets lower and lower every year. At this point, there is probably no quicker way to lose me as a friend than to try and guilt me into anything. And maybe that makes me a hard ass...but so be it.

If a friend asks me to do something for them, I will do it, try my best to do it, or give them an honest reason why I can't/won't do it. If a friend tries to guilt me into doing something? I will absolutely refuse to do whatever it is they ask, even if it's something I would ordinarily do without a second thought. And I will also seriously reevaluate that friendship.

rant rant rant...

Passive aggressive behavior sends me straight into 'FUCK YOU'. (See, if I'm pissed I'm aggressive, aggressive.) Any form of guilt trip is a sure to backfire because it pisses me off so much. Well, unless it's directed elsewhere, then it's amusing. My cousin wanted to make the turkey the year before last even though it was my sisters turn. She was told to back off, so she started putting out that she might not come to thanksgiving this year. My mom called me and said "... should i feel guilty?". I said, "no you should laugh and let her hang herself. talk about passive aggressive', and my mom laughed, and her shoulders relaxed, and she was all 'oh, it is, isn't it?' lol

I think what people need to realize is just what you've said: people drift apart. It's not a good or bad thing, it's just reality. And it doesn't mean you won't come back together again, when circumstances change.

Exactly. This happens sometimes even without adding a child into the mix. My goddaughter is losing contact with most of her partying friends because she's going to college and not partying. It's normal and okay to grow apart from friends, and if they pull a guilt trip on you for it then they weren't that great of friends to start with.

 

[Azuldrgon]

*looks around*

 

[ravi64]

Passive aggressive behavior sends me straight into 'FUCK YOU'. (See, if I'm pissed I'm aggressive, aggressive.) Any form of guilt trip is a sure to backfire because it pisses me off so much. Well, unless it's directed elsewhere, then it's amusing. My cousin wanted to make the turkey the year before last even though it was my sisters turn. She was told to back off, so she started putting out that she might not come to thanksgiving this year. My mom called me and said "... should i feel guilty?". I said, "no you should laugh and let her hang herself. talk about passive aggressive', and my mom laughed, and her shoulders relaxed, and she was all 'oh, it is, isn't it?' lol



Exactly. This happens sometimes even without adding a child into the mix. My goddaughter is losing contact with most of her partying friends because she's going to college and not partying. It's normal and okay to grow apart from friends, and if they pull a guilt trip on you for it then they weren't that great of friends to start with.

The secret of being good friends is to remain in the good books of each other that way if you drift apart there will always be a coming together when the opportunity is right

 

[CutieMouse]

This isn't quite a pissed off rant thing, but it isn't not a pissed off rant thing.

One of the women I work with has no problem telling me I'm narrow minded.

(Actually, I'm not narrow minded; I'm judgmental as fuck, but the nuances are probably lost on her...)

Mean as it is of me, I wish I could wave a magic wand and get people fired...

 

[cfuhrer]

Admittedly, this is probably more of a concern to women. We're kind of genetically and socially hardwired to think that we have to maintain friendships and that when we lose them it signifies some kind of failure on our part.

You are right. It goes back to our hunter gatherer days when if a woman didn't have a strong social network she might not survive the winter.

 

[ravi64]

This isn't quite a pissed off rant thing, but it isn't not a pissed off rant thing.

One of the women I work with has no problem telling me I'm narrow minded.

(Actually, I'm not narrow minded; I'm judgmental as fuck, but the nuances are probably lost on her...)

Mean as it is of me, I wish I could wave a magic wand and get people fired...

No wonder you do not have a wand magical or not and listen you are narrow minded

You are right. It goes back to our hunter gatherer days when if a woman didn't have a strong social network she might not survive the winter.

Do you still believe in that Marxian outburst

 

[Babyslave]

*looks around*

Boo!

 

[Azuldrgon]

GT's hard to understand.

 

[intothewoods]

People and interests do change over the years and thats one of the main reasons I lost contact with alot of mine. They had children and they could not understand my desire not to have them and I couldn't care less that Little Johnny slept through the night. So we just drifted apart.

I also think as life gets busier it just gets harder to keep up as well especially if you are the one making the effort.

Those are fighting words!

Just kidding.

I think what people need to realize is just what you've said: people drift apart. It's not a good or bad thing, it's just reality. And it doesn't mean you won't come back together again, when circumstances change.

Admittedly, this is probably more of a concern to women. We're kind of genetically and socially hardwired to think that we have to maintain friendships and that when we lose them it signifies some kind of failure on our part.

I totally agree with both of you but I also feel like I should make more of an effort -- because sometimes we do get so caught up in our daily lives and our family stuff but longtime friendships are so rewarding. Worth the effort, I think.

Well, I should say that although I have seen a lot of people who do this, I don't have very many friends who do/ have done this. Maybe one or two. But recently I had to part ways with a good friend who keeps pulling the passive-aggressive guilt trip on me. It pissed me off because she has a lot of terrific qualities, but I just can't tolerate these negative ones. Everyone draws their own lines, I guess. Those are mine.

It's important to have boundaries. Good friends respect them.

 

[cfuhrer]

*looks around*

*pounces tigger style*

Hiya neighbor!

 

[Azuldrgon]

*pounces tigger style*

Hiya neighbor!

Hello.