Patience

[jake34]

Are there any women on here who are looking to have fun with one man?

Are there any women on here who want to get to know one person?

I am just curious.

There are so many women who claim that guys do not pay attention to them.

They say that guys do not get it.

Then they start to talk to you.

It seems like they enjoy talking with you.

They make it seem like they are interested.

Then they come on here when you are not on and start talking to someone else.

They have no patience to wait for you again.

They do not even send you a message to say hello.

Even though they are here.

Maybe women should do what they want from someone else.

After all, fair is fair.

 

[toshiskitten]

Are there any women on here who are looking to have fun with one man?

Are there any women on here who want to get to know one person?

I am just curious.

There are so many women who claim that guys do not pay attention to them.

They say that guys do not get it.

Then they start to talk to you.

It seems like they enjoy talking with you.

They make it seem like they are interested.

Then they come on here when you are not on and start talking to someone else.

They have no patience to wait for you again.

They do not even send you a message to say hello.

Even though they are here.

Maybe women should do what they want from someone else.

After all, fair is fair.

I'm not exactly sure what you're trying to get at here. A lot of women come on here to talk to multiple people and shouldn't have to be restricted to just one.

 

[jake34]

I'm not exactly sure what you're trying to get at here. A lot of women come on here to talk to multiple people and shouldn't have to be restricted to just one.

I am getting at asking a valid question.

I am not trying to restrict anyone and am just curious.

It is interesting because many women always talk about wanting more attention from one guy.

They complain that they do not get this in real life.

Then many come on here to talk to multiple men.

Women are hard to figure out sometimes.

 

[toshiskitten]

I am getting at asking a valid question.

I am not trying to restrict anyone and am just curious.

It is interesting because many women always talk about wanting more attention from one guy.

They complain that they do not get this in real life.

Then many come on here to talk to multiple men.

Women are hard to figure out sometimes.

I see. Well good luck getting an answer

 

[jake34]

I see. Well good luck getting an answer

Thanks.

I think.

I have had some interesting replies so far.

 

[candycreme]

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[jake34]

I don't think it's just a "woman" thing. I've met plenty of guys, especially on here, guilty of the same.

I never said that it is just a woman thing. With all due respect I mean. I can only speak from my own experiences on here as a man. People also have the right to act how they want. They have a right to talk or not talk as they decide. It is something I generally do not understand. Not just on Lit. So I am trying to figure it all out. That is why I asked the question.

 

[sillypanda]

When I first started actively looking to meet people, I tried to do exactly what you said - get to know ONE person at a time.

However, I found that sometimes days/weeks would pass between correspondence (due to schedule differences, daily life, etc), and I started thinking that limiting myself to talking to one person on here was kind of like limiting myself to having one friend.

Now, it's a bit more like my real life - I have quite a few acquaintances who I like to chat with occasionally, and a handful of close friends with whom I communicate fairly regularly.

Kind of a roundabout answer to your question, I know, but maybe will help you understand why it's so hard to find someone willing to devote their time to just one person.

Best of luck to you!

 

[tomos]

patience

Are there any women on here who are looking to have fun with one man?

Are there any women on here who want to get to know one person?

I am just curious.

There are so many women who claim that guys do not pay attention to them.

They say that guys do not get it.

Then they start to talk to you.

It seems like they enjoy talking with you.

They make it seem like they are interested.

Then they come on here when you are not on and start talking to someone else.

They have no patience to wait for you again.

They do not even send you a message to say hello.

Even though they are here.

Maybe women should do what they want from someone else.

After all, fair is fair.

I am not sure if you are refering to the board here or lit chat,as far as i can see the men far outnumber the women on lit,so the women unfortunately can pick and choose,I have seen post's here from women saying nothing and yet they get dozens of replies,but check a man's similar post and you will notice ZERO replies.

 

[jake34]

I appreciate your reply.

I know what you mean about schedule differences.

I just would make the effort to talk to someone I liked. No matter what was in the way of that. I would still make the effort. That includes schedule differences.

I feel like I was just being used by someone. That someone only talked to me because I was there at the time. Not because she liked talking to me.

I am sure that guys can be just as bad.

Maybe this is not the right site to try to talk to one person.

 

[jake34]

I am not sure if you are refering to the board here or lit chat,as far as i can see the men far outnumber the women on lit,so the women unfortunately can pick and choose,I have seen post's here from women saying nothing and yet they get dozens of replies,but check a man's similar post and you will notice ZERO replies.

There do seem to be many more men. But men I understand. Many men just come here looking to have fun. They want to talk to different women. Most would be honest about it.

Women are more complicated to understand.

I just mean in general. Not just on Lit. So many women complain that they are not getting attention from one man. Yet so many come here talking to more than one man. It just seems like a double standard.

One reply I had in private said that many women miss attention. They may come here looking to find as much as possible. Like a kid in a candy store. She may be on to something.

 

[candycreme]

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[Sexyladykate]

I feel like I was just being used by someone. That someone only talked to me because I was there at the time. Not because she liked talking to me.

I wonder if you let her know that you expected her to renounce all others? If that was not an agreed upon expectation by both parties, then that hardly seems fair especially here on Lit.

 

[Sensualdreamer]

Are there any women on here who are looking to have fun with one man?

Your posts don't really reflect that you're a fun guy. Regardless what's fun about talking to just one person...that's a bit routine


Are there any women on here who want to get to know one person?

I am just curious

There could be, but this is Lit - women are usually pretty astute when sizing up a guy and whether they wish to speak to that guy. Why restrict us to just one person tho?


There are so many women who claim that guys do not pay attention to them.

I've not ever seen that claim by any of the lovely ladies of Lit


They say that guys do not get it.

Then they start to talk to you.

It seems like they enjoy talking with you.

They make it seem like they are interested.

It could be a variety of reasons that they're talking to you perhaps pity, boredom, curiousity, etc.,

Then they come on here when you are not on and start talking to someone else.

They have no patience to wait for you again.

Wanting/expecting exclusivity especially on Lit is archaic. You're not married to any of the women on Lit. Further those statements alone would likely drive most women away b/c it comes across that you're controlling and possessive w/ stalker like tendencies.



They do not even send you a message to say hello.

Even though they are here.

Perhaps the reason why they're not talking to you is simply they were never interested in the first place - and who says that any woman on Lit should send a message to you or any other guy for that matter. Given the ratio of men to women it's natural that more men will contact women than the opposite way. Usually when women PM a guy it's b/c he's shown himself to be a quality person


Maybe women should do what they want from someone else.

After all, fair is fair.

I think we already do. We talk w/ those we wish to talk to

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[toshiskitten]

Maybe this is not the right site to try to talk to one person.

It isn't. It's fun to talk to a variety of different people. Why should anyone limit their choices? It's one thing if you meet someone and you both agree to only talk to each other but you cannot expect any of the women that you talk with to only talk to you whether it's on here or in real life.

 

[Aquagal]

To expect exclusivity and monogamy is sort of silly unless its been talked over and agreed upon. How long did you even chat?

 

[itismeinnz]

I appreciate your reply.

I know what you mean about schedule differences.

I just would make the effort to talk to someone I liked. No matter what was in the way of that. I would still make the effort. That includes schedule differences.

I feel like I was just being used by someone. That someone only talked to me because I was there at the time. Not because she liked talking to me.

I am sure that guys can be just as bad.

Maybe this is not the right site to try to talk to one person.

No, it doesn't sound like it is to be honest.

Listen man, I think everyone has had that twang when you have hot online role-play, or cyber, or just flirty chat or whatever with someone you really like, and then you realise that 5 minutes later they're doing the same with someone else.

But reality check, I am a dude amongst thousands on a PC, almost always thousands of miles away, will never really meet them, and don't really know them, and it would be plain egotistical to think they're wandering around in a daze for the next week after chatting to me. Quite apart fromon here, they hopefully have a real life out there somewhere.

When I find mutual pleasure with someone on here I'm glad they've noticed me, and I hope in some way I've brightened up their day. And half the reason I probably like them to start with is their libido, so how the hell can I "own them"? If they wanted to be "owned", like Dom/sub or whatever, then I guess that kind of thing can develop healthily if both have eyes wide open. Or if people gradually find a mutual thing happening that is more serious.

But when someone first meets us, reality, they don't frickin' know us. Something specially close may or may not develop, but to assume that it should is kinda not real to be honest. Hate to break it to you, but you're another guy. Like me. And if you work at it you can make good friends. It doesn't fall in one's lap.

 

[CurvyAsian25]

I'll take my cue from Sensualdreamer and try to answer you point by point as well.

Are there any women on here who are looking to have fun with one man?

--> I don't think people come here on Lit to just have fun with one person. That's just the reality of it. People may have different reasons for coming here but ultimately, at the end of the day, we all just want to broaden our horizons -- be it friendships, sexual partners, knowledge, etc.

Are there any women on here who want to get to know one person?

I am just curious.

--> Like I mentioned previously, people don't come here initially to just get to know one person. However, it's not unheard of that you find that one great guy/girl that you just want to get to know MORE. My 2 cents, if you want people to get to know you, YOU have to BE the person that they want to get to know. I hope you take this constructively, but as I read through your post, it just doesn't sound like you're a person who is seeking answers (as you claim to be based on your answers to other Lit members), you honestly just sound like you are whining, complaining, and even ranting. Now, let me ask you this: would YOU want to be with a person who at first glance, whines, complains, and rants all the time?

There are so many women who claim that guys do not pay attention to them.

They say that guys do not get it.

Then they start to talk to you.

It seems like they enjoy talking with you.

They make it seem like they are interested.

--> I think you should take your experience here with a grain of salt. Don't take it to heart too much. Yes, you may meet people that are truly genuine and all-around awesome, but as a whole, Lit is still not reality. Don't make it out to be. If a girl here suddenly disappears on you after a long amazing chat, let it go. It could be a myriad of reasons -- scheduling, time difference, work, or worse comes to worse, she DID get to know you, and decided for herself that what she found wasn't enough. Going back to my previous answer, BE the person that people want to know.

Then they come on here when you are not on and start talking to someone else.

They have no patience to wait for you again.

They do not even send you a message to say hello.

Even though they are here.

Maybe women should do what they want from someone else.

After all, fair is fair.

--> Again, I hope you take this constructively, but you almost come across as vindictive/vengeful, especially in your last sentences. I hope that before you consider writing all of these things, you take one long hard look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if you are the kind of guy that deserves to be waited for. I don't know you personally and I am not saying that you are not deserving, but what I can see is what you wrote on here, and in a world where first impressions always matter, you are not doing a good job of showing others that you are a quality guy.

Truth be told, if you ask me my first impression of you based on this post, I would say you are someone who whines a lot, has no accountability and even somewhat vengeful.

Is this how you want to be viewed? I think you can do better than this.

I really do hope that things work out for you here on Lit. Goodluck!

 

[LittleVixen69]

When I first started actively looking to meet people, I tried to do exactly what you said - get to know ONE person at a time.

However, I found that sometimes days/weeks would pass between correspondence (due to schedule differences, daily life, etc), and I started thinking that limiting myself to talking to one person on here was kind of like limiting myself to having one friend.

Now, it's a bit more like my real life - I have quite a few acquaintances who I like to chat with occasionally, and a handful of close friends with whom I communicate fairly regularly.

Kind of a roundabout answer to your question, I know, but maybe will help you understand why it's so hard to find someone willing to devote their time to just one person.

Best of luck to you!

Nicely put SillyPanda... and I have a few acquaintances on here and still there are nights I don’t have any one to talk to.
There are some I would like to talk to more but our schedules don’t always match up.
So it is always nice to make new friends

Oh and Jake34, sometimes just because it shows some one logged on doesn’t mean they are here.
I log on with my phone so it shows me logged on almost 24/7 but I am not sitting here on lit..

 

[jake34]

It's tough to on a site like this, yes, but don't get discouraged. You're rare to want to make the effort, you'll find someone who appreciates it and will do the same for you. I recently stopped talking with a guy just for that reason. I'd go out of my way to make sure to at least get a "hello" in, but he always claimed he didn't have that kind of time. Oh well.

Thank you for the kind reply. It really is about finding someone who wants to make the same effort you do. But when the effort is not mutual, then there is just no point in trying to continue on your end. Sometimes you just get lucky.

 

[jake34]

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I have nothing at all to say to any of this.

 

[jake34]

It isn't. It's fun to talk to a variety of different people. Why should anyone limit their choices? It's one thing if you meet someone and you both agree to only talk to each other but you cannot expect any of the women that you talk with to only talk to you whether it's on here or in real life.

It's sad that someone cannot just have 'fun' talking to one person though.

 

[jake34]

To expect exclusivity and monogamy is sort of silly unless its been talked over and agreed upon. How long did you even chat?

Call me silly. It does not matter. I have moved on.

 

[jake34]

I wonder if you let her know that you expected her to renounce all others? If that was not an agreed upon expectation by both parties, then that hardly seems fair especially here on Lit.

Not everything needs to be said right away. It takes time to give out your life goals. Sometimes the desire should just be there. Not as a demand. As a hope. It is interesting that you say this after what you said in another thread.

 

[jake34]

No, it doesn't sound like it is to be honest.

Listen man, I think everyone has had that twang when you have hot online role-play, or cyber, or just flirty chat or whatever with someone you really like, and then you realise that 5 minutes later they're doing the same with someone else.

But reality check, I am a dude amongst thousands on a PC, almost always thousands of miles away, will never really meet them, and don't really know them, and it would be plain egotistical to think they're wandering around in a daze for the next week after chatting to me. Quite apart fromon here, they hopefully have a real life out there somewhere.

When I find mutual pleasure with someone on here I'm glad they've noticed me, and I hope in some way I've brightened up their day. And half the reason I probably like them to start with is their libido, so how the hell can I "own them"? If they wanted to be "owned", like Dom/sub or whatever, then I guess that kind of thing can develop healthily if both have eyes wide open. Or if people gradually find a mutual thing happening that is more serious.

But when someone first meets us, reality, they don't frickin' know us. Something specially close may or may not develop, but to assume that it should is kinda not real to be honest. Hate to break it to you, but you're another guy. Like me. And if you work at it you can make good friends. It doesn't fall in one's lap.

Thanks for the reply. I still would like to believe that some women are different. I never said that I wanted to own anyone. I know that effort is always needed.